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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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Most of you know I made a post about this weeks ago. I've recently noticed that it's still continuing. Before people tell me to stop "stalking" her social media, I'm already aware of your advice, so no need to continue badgering me about that.

It's so strange. Over these last few months, my girlfriend has been re-adding a bunch of people from her past on FB. Some of them were strictly platonic friends (one is even a female), but she's also been re-adding former flames/FWB? Why? I just noticed this morning that she added ANOTHER former flame of hers from like a year or two ago. What is the point of this? What is the psychology?

Also may be worth mentioning that she followed an ex BF on IG a while back. Which seems convenient because (to her knowledge) I don't use IG. But I really do.

What is this all about? Attention seeking? Wandering eyes? Monkey branching? But shes even readded former platonic friends, which is the head scratcher. What is this?
 

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She's looking in her past for something she's not getting in the present ?
I just don't understand it. If it was ALL former sex partners, okay. That may be clearcut. But a few of them are even her former platonic friends. I don't get it man..
 

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She's looking in her past for something she's not getting in the present ?
That's the first thing that comes to mind. Or she is Cluster B digging up old supply cause she doesn't have enough.
 

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That's the first thing that comes to mind. Or she is Cluster B digging up old supply cause she doesn't have enough.
Please educate me what Cluster B is. If it's something relative to BPD. She may have that. She has a promiscuous past and a dysfunctional upbringing. She has always been adamant about cheating, but she enjoyed her freedom when she was single. But she's 30 now and claims to want stability. And I really do love her man. I just hope she doesn't join my list of crazy psycho exes that I've endured..
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Also, is it true what I hear? That crazy women always recycle men from their past?
 

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Please educate me what Cluster B is. If it's something relative to BPD. She may have that. She has a promiscuous past and a dysfunctional upbringing. She has always been adamant about cheating, but she enjoyed her freedom when she was single. But she's 30 now and claims to want stability. And I really do love her man. I just hope she doesn't join my list of crazy psycho exes that I've endured..
Sounds like you should take everything she says with a grain of salt. BPD is in the Cluster B family. Do you know anything about her childhood or relationship with her father?

Read this thread.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/the-most-toxic-damaging-type-of-woman-of-them-all.239396/
 

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Sounds like you should take everything she says with a grain of salt. BPD is in the Cluster B family. Do you know anything about her childhood or relationship with her father?

Read this thread.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/the-most-toxic-damaging-type-of-woman-of-them-all.239396/
Her mother had some kind of mental illness and she abused her. The mother is no longer alive. The father was hardly ever home, and would sometimes be out cheating when he wasn't at work. She communicates with her father today but not very often. I wouldn't say they actually have a relationship. Hates her stepmother too.
 

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Most of you know I made a post about this weeks ago. I've recently noticed that it's still continuing. Before people tell me to stop "stalking" her social media, I'm already aware of your advice, so no need to continue badgering me about that.

It's so strange. Over these last few months, my girlfriend has been re-adding a bunch of people from her past on FB. Some of them were strictly platonic friends (one is even a female), but she's also been re-adding former flames/FWB? Why? I just noticed this morning that she added ANOTHER former flame of hers from like a year or two ago. What is the point of this? What is the psychology?

Also may be worth mentioning that she followed an ex BF on IG a while back. Which seems convenient because (to her knowledge) I don't use IG. But I really do.

What is this all about? Attention seeking? Wandering eyes? Monkey branching? But shes even readded former platonic friends, which is the head scratcher. What is this?
Instead of asking complete strangers through your 90th thread about this wh0re, why don't you ask her.

Better yet, become a man and put her on the bench for poor behavior and walk away.

More nonsense.
 

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Her mother had some kind of mental illness and she abused her. The mother is no longer alive. The father was hardly ever home, and would sometimes be out cheating when he wasn't at work. She communicates with her father today but not very often. I wouldn't say they actually have a relationship. Hates her stepmother too.
Sounds like she fits right in on the toxic women thread. If you want the advice from the biggest moron on the planet that stuck around for 2 years with a women similar.....walk away now! Posting here about her should be a red flag that you're dating toxic. Ultimately you're going to do whatever you want.
 

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So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

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Sounds like she fits right in on the toxic women thread. If you want the advice from the biggest moron on the planet that stuck around for 2 years with a women similar.....walk away now! Posting here about her should be a red flag that you're dating toxic. Ultimately you're going to do whatever you want.
What happened with you?
 

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Instead of asking complete strangers through your 90th thread about this wh0re, why don't you ask her.

Better yet, become a man and put her on the bench for poor behavior and walk away.

More nonsense.
So you're calling her a wh0re, that's your input.
 

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Fakebook is lame, anyway. It's useless chaos. A bunch of noise and nonsense.

Forums, with a focused subject, are more productive.
 

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Fakebook is lame, anyway. It's useless chaos. A bunch of noise and nonsense.

Forums, with a focused subject, are more productive.
Facebook can be indicative of a person's behavior and/or where their mind is at
 

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Interesting... I'm kind of doing the same thing... I "dropped out" if you will from friends and hobbies while in a recent relationship... now that it's kind of ending I'm slowly rejoining the real world...

That said... Why do you care what and why an ex is doing ?.... Move on with your life.
 

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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Interesting... I'm kind of doing the same thing... I "dropped out" if you will from friends and hobbies while in a recent relationship... now that it's kind of ending I'm slowly rejoining the real world...

That said... Why do you care what and why an ex is doing ?.... Move on with your life.
At what point did I say she's my ex? I said my GF
 

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What is the point of this? What is the psychology?

Also may be worth mentioning that she followed an ex BF on IG a while back. Which seems convenient because (to her knowledge) I don't use IG. But I really do.

What is this all about? Attention seeking? Wandering eyes? Monkey branching? But shes even readded former platonic friends, which is the head scratcher. What is this?
-puts pipe in mouth-

Well mai boy, as a licensed psychologist and a veteran defragmentor of female behavior, I can say with 100% confidence that she is re-adding people she deleted out of spite.

Girls do it, boys do it. They delete people who don't serve their needs in their neediest times, then after they cool off, re-add.

In all seriousness though, she needs something from them. It's up to YOU to find out what, because we aren't in that area, with her facebook, or knowledge of her history.

Don't gaze too deep into the abyss though.
 

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My first girlfriend was a single mom and damaged goods like urs. Trust me, if they start adding people out of nowhere that they fuked before not only is it disrespectful (also depending on what kind of boundaries you set) but it shows she is getting over you and lining them bad bois up for some fuking.

Social meda will drive u nuts if you are in love with a slutty untrustworthy woman like most young girls. You cant be on facebook if you have the need to stalk and it fuks u up emotionally, many of us have done this, even hot girls. They stalk the bad bois they cant get etc.

Either you dump her before she dumps you or you decide you are not gonna care anymore and see how that works to your advantage. If a woman has a broken childhood its over, sad but true. Next time dont let urself fall in love with damaged goods
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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