"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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good friend of mine is dating a single mom

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I've been through this hole, but a good friend of mine just met this single mom and he reminds me of my situation. He asked me for advice and I did. However, he didn't seem convinced. It seems like there is a pattern with women in this situation. It all seems like green pasture, fwb is fun, down to earth, chill, great sex, good conversations but it all leads down to a road. They say that they don't need a man, but in reality they all do.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It's a trap, the best thing you can hope for is a good time at the beginning. Because it's all about her getting help from him while he's always going to be second place. Just keep talking to him about he's always going to be second place, he'll catch on soon.
 

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It's a trap, the best thing you can hope for is a good time at the beginning. Because it's all about her getting help from him while he's always going to be second place. Just keep talking to him about he's always going to be second place, he'll catch on soon.
lol it's a terrible place to be in.
 

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lol it's a terrible place to be in.
Yeah man, if he's that much into her then she's really baiting that trap good. Sex on demand, lots of bjs, no drama... Women can really make things awesome when they want to. Then she'll try to guilt him into doing things for her kid and its all over after that. Game over man.
 

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Yeah man, if he's that much into her then she's really baiting that trap good. Sex on demand, lots of bjs, no drama... Women can really make things awesome when they want to. Then she'll try to guilt him into doing things for her kid and its all over after that. Game over man.
lol i went through it. It was a hell of a ride. Are these women really aware of what they're doing?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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lol i went through it. It was a hell of a ride. Are these women really aware of what they're doing?
They are, they just don't see it as sinister as we do. Men operate under the premise that sex is good and fun for everyone. Women treat it like a reward or currency. As far as she's concerned he's been getting freebies all this time
 

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They are, they just don't see it as sinister as we do. Men operate under the premise that sex is good and fun for everyone. Women treat it like a reward or currency. As far as she's concerned he's been getting freebies all this time
Ah, I see it now. That's the reason why she'd asked me "what are we" after having sex. On the other hand, for me it was all about the fun and adventure.
 

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Ah, I see it now. That's the reason why she'd asked me "what are we" after having sex. On the other hand, for me it was all about the fun and adventure.
Exactly once you pay for something don't you want to see your shiny new thing? In her mind she just made a payment to you. Things are very transactional for women...
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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For a single mom...she must be vetted to max, first. Otherwise, I wouldn't touch that with 500ft pole.
 

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lol that's ****ing terrible, now that I look back at it.
Women are their own worst enemy man. All this feminism movement and as soon as they find a dude they like they turn their puuussy into a bargaining chip. A chip used to sweeten the deal of accepting her crappy attitude.
 

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Women are their own worst enemy man. All this feminism movement and as soon as they find a dude they like they turn their puuussy into a bargaining chip. A chip used to sweeten the deal of accepting her crappy attitude.
lol for reals. i remember her asking me that question a good 7 times. At that moment, I just didn't know how bad she was thinking.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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For a single mom...she must be vetted to max, first. Otherwise, I wouldn't touch that with 500ft pole.
Nah vetting won't change anything typically. Women are all lazy and expect men to do the most of everything. Puussy is the prize and we all have to work for it. How is that equal? Women are all the same asking for one thing then the next. Vetting only proves she is patient enough. But eventually she will start to impose her motherly responsibilities on any guy she is with.
 

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lol for reals. i remember her asking me that question a good 7 times. At that moment, I just didn't know how bad she was thinking.
The worst thing about those questions is that it only serves to make you look bad. Say your just there for the nookie and it looks bad. Say at that moment that you love her and want a relationship and it's even worse. Only option you have is to evade answering it completely by saying something slick/snarky.
 

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The worst thing about those questions is that it only serves to make you look bad. Say your just there for the nookie and it looks bad. Say at that moment that you love her and want a relationship and it's even worse. Only option you have is to evade answering it completely by saying something slick/snarky.
lol you're speaking to the choir...

All that sex was nothing but a bargaining chip. How ****ing sad...
 

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Nah vetting won't change anything typically. Women are all lazy and expect men to do the most of everything. Puussy is the prize and we all have to work for it. How is that equal? Women are all the same asking for one thing then the next. Vetting only proves she is patient enough. But eventually she will start to impose her motherly responsibilities on any guy she is with.
Yeah, go with the 500ft pole.
 

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I've been through this hole, but a good friend of mine just met this single mom and he reminds me of my situation. He asked me for advice and I did. However, he didn't seem convinced. It seems like there is a pattern with women in this situation. It all seems like green pasture, fwb is fun, down to earth, chill, great sex, good conversations but it all leads down to a road. They say that they don't need a man, but in reality they all do.
Have him read this book.

http://www.drglover.com/no-more-mr-nice-guy.html
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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