GF re-adds an ex, harmless curiosity?

[randalljohnson]

This post is more of a poll. I'm curious to see how you all would react if your GF recently adds or follows an ex from a few years ago. They broke up because she dumped him, but a year later when she wanted him back, he had moved on. And now a few years later, she follows him on Instagram, but he doesn't follow her back. Would you call this harmless curiosity?

 

[Infern0]

Id call it red alert

 

[wifehunter]

Id call it red alert

 

[lizardking82]

Turn you engines on, mate. Something's is grooving and moving, and you better be ready for it. If it's nothing, good. If it's something, at least you'll be prepared. He's an ex, he does not follow her back, she does. Maybe she regretted the decision, maybe it is just curiosity.

But it has you worried, that's for sure, and this is your gut telling you something does'nt feel right. Trust your gut!

 

[dustmuffin]

I would call it a red flag. I would watch what else she does closely.

 

[SmooveMooves]

It's not just curiosity for sure. Don't let yourself rationalize it as that. That's idiotic. A woman in a fufilling relationship where she's is love DOES NOT care about about an ex. Trust me.

Especially not to follow him when he doesn't give a shít enough to follow her.


Remove yourself emotinally from the relationship to prepare and start looking at other prospects. The end is nigh.

If you fell off you need to get back on the improvement train. Don't give me any of that 'I'm sooo busy crap.' A lot the time these women start seeking out the excitement of their ex because men get complacent.

Do not confront her about it unless you want to expedite the end. There is no manly way to ask: Why are you following your ex? Plus she will lie to you anyway.

 

[lizardking82]

It's not just curiosity for sure. Don't let yourself rationalize it as that. That's idiotic. A woman in a fufilling relationship where she's is love DOES NOT care about about an ex. Trust me.

Especially not to follow him when he doesn't give a shít enough to follow her.


Remove yourself emotinally from the relationship to prepare and start looking at other prospects. The end is nigh.

If you fell off you need to get back on the improvement train. Don't give me any of that 'I'm sooo busy crap.' A lot the time these women start seeking out the excitement of their ex because men get complacent.

Do not confront her about it unless you want to expedite the end. There is no manly way to ask: Why are you following your ex? Plus she will lie to you anyway.

Superb advice. Confrontation won't do you any good in this case. In fact, confrontation does not do you any good with women in general.

I would take her and **** her unexpectedly so good (if you can) that she would be like "what the **** just happened?!". Look at her unfollow her ex then LOL

 

[Glassguy]

The fact that it bothers you and brought it to this forum is enough to make it an issue. Your gut is telling you something is wrong and if everything was great in the relationship you probably wouldnt have noticed it in the first place (Unless you are just a very insecure person).

1.) You cant bring this up without losing frame.

2.) If she starts picking fights, acting b!tchy, etc. then start withdrawing attention at a rapid pace. When she asks what is wrong (and she will once attention from her is withdrawn), tell her several things are making you uncomfortable and you need to clear you head and ghost for a few days.

If she is smart, she'll figure it out.

There are so many other variables.......length of the relationship, the commitment level between the both of you, etc.

Its definitely a red flag and enough to make you start peeling back layers of the onion even more. If you're smart, thats what you will do.

 

[Roober]

Another thread about this girl and her social media?

Come on man, you are ignoring your gut...

 

[Glassguy]

Good grief I didnt realize this was the same beta poster and the same chick. I remember the "would you be mad if your girl was liking another dudes pics" thread, the question about "why am I not in her profile pic".....etc. etc.

@randalljohnson - what is wrong with you dude? At this point you're a retard or you have no self esteem at all. Why do you even come on here? In hopes that one fellow retarded poster tells you its not a big deal that she is acting this way so your insecurity/neediness/unmanliness feels validated?

At this point, you're a sucker and getting what you deserve. Your gf has the characteristics of a attention seeking c0ck wh0re and you must be ok with that to still be here asking more questions about her.

Why dont you go down to the jewelry store, spend $10K on an engagement ring, go propose and have her tell you "no thanks". Because you can save yourself a lot of money and later regret by doing so...............

This chick wants you to be there as her emotional tampon, her doormat, rug to beat in the wind, as she actively looks for what she REALLY wants- A FVCKING MAN WHO ACTS LIKE ONE.

Regardless of available resources, some people just dont get it. You are in fact at the top of that class.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

She's not the only girl in the world, man. Reciprocate her level of interest, never more than her, and start to extricate yourself from the relationship and look at other options.

She's showing some pretty big red flags that she wants someone else.

 

[Billtx49]

She's likely actively looking to branch away from you. She has a previously established comfort level and less time to invest with her Ex. Women usually take that path of least resistance, until they decide they don't have it. If she can't rehook the Ex, it will be with some other man.
What you can easily see, like Instagram or Facebook, is usually her smokescreen.
If she's serious, there will be other means of communication she will be using like texts she can delete.
Seen it happen before.

 

[dude99]

This post is more of a poll. I'm curious to see how you all would react if your GF recently adds or follows an ex from a few years ago. They broke up because she dumped him, but a year later when she wanted him back, he had moved on. And now a few years later, she follows him on Instagram, but he doesn't follow her back. Would you call this harmless curiosity?

She is viewing him as the one that got away.
Every chick has that one in her life that she regrets not still being with. Looks like its this guy for her.

"He has moved on."
"She follows him. But he doesn't. "

She is orbiting him. Him moving on has created challege and now she is interested.

Time for you to start dating other women.

 

[El Payaso]

She's still obsessed with him. This is definitely not "harmless" curiosity. A woman that is true to you won't have her eyes on other men.

 

[Glassguy]

Fellas, this has been explained to the OP on 3 or 4 other threads dealing with the same chick.

Save your breath....he doesn't get it.

 

[Initiatedindenial]

How many hours per day you spend checking her social media, last online and trying to find something that confirms what your gut is telling you (For reference, it is that she is not that much into you).

No offense, I've been there with my first gf, you just have to wake up now before you loose all your self respect in the process.

Follow the advices here and start withdrawing and preparing for your escape, if she cares she will react otherwise you are saving yourself some time.

 

[Initiatedindenial]

One more question, do you stalk her? do you try to check her cell phone or other private information?

 

[resilient]

Randall, the proverbial writing is on the wall... sigh. Literally, face-palm over here.

 

[randalljohnson]

You just give far more of a fvck than she does.

Are you like a male 3, and she's a female 7, or something?

Are u talking about on a looks scale? Well I know I don't look like a few of the douches she used to date

 

[randalljohnson]

Randall, the proverbial writing is on the wall... sigh. Literally, face-palm over here.

Well the interesting thing is she seemed to be re-adding multiple people from her past. Some sexual, some platonic. So maybe it's not as bad as it originally seemed