greatsnake
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what are the good signs that one should look out for, when looking for a LTR?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
TheProspect
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The only requirement I have for a long-term relationship is she has to be someone I'd want my daughter (hypothetically speaking) to grow up to be like. That alone covers all bases, in my opinion.
And I'm sure most relationship-oriented men can agree to a requirement similar to this, only the specific details of such a woman will vary individual to individual.
That being said, you can't determine whether a girl matches this criteria just after a couple dates or a couple lays, it takes months even years. So if you want to use this method (a woman you'd want your hypothetical daughter to grow up to be like) then I recommend spinning plates until a girl who fits your criteria of such a woman asks for exclusivity and see how it goes from there.
And I'm sure most relationship-oriented men can agree to a requirement similar to this, only the specific details of such a woman will vary individual to individual.
That being said, you can't determine whether a girl matches this criteria just after a couple dates or a couple lays, it takes months even years. So if you want to use this method (a woman you'd want your hypothetical daughter to grow up to be like) then I recommend spinning plates until a girl who fits your criteria of such a woman asks for exclusivity and see how it goes from there.
You look in the mirror and evaluate.
You are happy.
You aren't confused.
You are having fun.
If you find yourself the opposite of any of these 3 hard rules then she disqualifies herself ad LTR material.
Good flags are that she has a good job,independent,not on any psych meds,goes out of her way to see you,compliments your good looks and means it,afraid to mess up around you,compliments how manly you are,drama very low or non-existent,and most importantly you are having fun.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Krueg
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Words from the wise...
"High Interest signs are generally not reliable.
Women have too many emotions going at the same time. They are happy right now, then unhappy five minutes from now.
A woman could appear happy, when, in fact, she is faking it so she doesn't lose you.
LOW interest signs are generally more reliable.
A woman SAYS she loves you but doesn't want sex that often. Which are you going to believe?
The LOVE statement, or the NO SEX info?
I go with the negative. Negative signs are much more reliable.
Anti-Dump says: It it's NEGATIVE, it's probably true. But keep it to yourself until you collect more evidence."
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"High Interest signs are generally not reliable.
Women have too many emotions going at the same time. They are happy right now, then unhappy five minutes from now.
A woman could appear happy, when, in fact, she is faking it so she doesn't lose you.
LOW interest signs are generally more reliable.
A woman SAYS she loves you but doesn't want sex that often. Which are you going to believe?
The LOVE statement, or the NO SEX info?
I go with the negative. Negative signs are much more reliable.
Anti-Dump says: It it's NEGATIVE, it's probably true. But keep it to yourself until you collect more evidence."
AD
old_skoolr
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Massive LOL at swallows.
But yeah, your on point.
When I used to drop girls off after a date, the ones that had some class, always used to say 'text me when you get home so I know your safe.'
CMNILS87
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Financially stable???? Find me a gal in her 20's that isn't crippled with student debt and doesn't love shopping compulsively lol
Skyline
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Anti-Dump is my personal favorite. If you listen to actions, in his example it would be sex, then it's pretty much the same thing. Women's word mean pretty much squat but their actions will always shine through.
This does encourage chasing though.
wifehunter
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Love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
PatientOne
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Respect, regular love making and intimacy, initiates love making, does things regularly for me because she is thinking about me, is there for me in every conceivable capacity, gives me space, does not interfere with what I want to do or who I hang out with, not a slob, is able to compromise, is not controlling...
There is a lot of criteria. I could go on and on.
There is a lot of criteria. I could go on and on.