"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dems in Illinois introduce a bill to confiscate guns.....

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It's already Federal law that you have to give up your guns when you have an order of protection issued against you. Those orders are typically rubber-stamped, with minimal opportunity to contest them.
 

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It's already Federal law that you have to give up your guns when you have an order of protection issued against you. Those orders are typically rubber-stamped, with minimal opportunity to contest them.
Exactly right. In Illinois anyway, and probably other places, an "emergency order of protection hearing" is one of the few legal hearings where it only takes a petitioner (generally the woman) and a Judge to run the hearing. The Judge rules without the accused\respondent (male) present. If the OP is granted the respondent doesn't typically know the hearing is even going until the Sheriff's Office shows up, hands him the papers, and collects his guns. And even when the OP is dropped, getting the guns back isn't always a slam dunk.

It even gets worse than this. If you are living with a women, when she petitions the court, she gets to decide what personal items the respondent\male can have. So she can write on there "he gets the pink tooth brush and purple yoga pants".. So when the guy comes with the Deputy to take his stuff and tires to take the blue toothbrush and black pair of shorts, the Deputy can say "nope it says pink toothbrush and purple yoga pants, you cant take the blue toothbrush and black shorts".. Its really nasty stuff guys. I've been through it.. Was kicked out of my own home with only a list of things that SHE wanted me to have, which was a list of cloths she knew I never wore. I didnt get to take any of my cloths that I regularly wore.
 
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Exactly right. In Illinois anyway, and probably other places, an "emergency order of protection hearing" is one of the few legal hearings where it only takes a petitioner (generally the woman) and a Judge to run the hearing. The Judge rules without the accused\respondent (male) present. If the OP is granted the respondent doesn't typically know the hearing is even going until the Sheriff's Office shows up, hands him the papers, and collects his guns. And even when the OP is dropped, getting the guns back isn't always a slam dunk.

It even gets worse than this. If you are living with a women, when she petitions the court, she gets to decide what personal items the respondent\male can have. So she can write on there "he gets the pink tooth brush and purple yoga pants".. So when the guy comes with the Deputy to take his stuff and tires to take the blue toothbrush and black pair of shorts, the Deputy can say "nope it says pink toothbrush and purple yoga pants, you cant take the blue toothbrush and black shorts".. Its really nasty stuff guys. I've been through it.. Was kicked out of my own home with only a list of things that SHE wanted me to have, which was a list of cloths she knew I never wore. I didnt get to take any of my cloths that I regularly wore.
The first part also applies to Maryland. Not so much on the second part, as there is a bit more leeway as far as "personal" items go. Want to take the blue toothbrush and black shorts? Cool. Want the 60" plasma flat screen with the PS4 and 20 games? Hold on a minute.
 

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Its really nasty stuff guys. I've been through it.. Was kicked out of my own home with only a list of things that SHE wanted me to have, which was a list of cloths she knew I never wore. I didnt get to take any of my cloths that I regularly wore.

So what can you do about it? Prenuptial agreement? Not getting married? I mean why not, a lot of people in Russia living in so called civil marriages, you just don't sign a paper, that's all, other than that it's the same thing. Signing don't give you happiness, or guarantees, why do it?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So what can you do about it? Prenuptial agreement? Not getting married? I mean why not, a lot of people in Russia living in so called civil marriages, you just don't sign a paper, that's all, other than that it's the same thing. Signing don't give you happiness, or guarantees, why do it?
Making prostitution legal would fix it in the USA; at least for smart men.
 

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I'm pretty sure that no one took the gun ban in Chicago seriously. I know the cops definitely didn't give a crap, that's for sure. CPD just has the mentality now to let everyone who wants to be a criminal kill each other. They'll only protect the downtown area really.
 
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