"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Undecided: Next or not?

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I met a girl, she is fit, smart, little crazy.

Told me it was a tough week we, meet, hit it off she is interested pre dinner drinks turn into dinner.

After dinner while we are going back to mine she tells me she wouldn't put out. I dont give it any importance we chill a while longer decide to go for dinner end of the week, then goodnight.

We txt the following days. She asks if im free thu. I tell her yes. Thursday eve i txt her asking her what time she'd be free and she blows off the date and the dinner that would have happened the following days. Due to work.

Next day she texts me how stressed and tired she is and how i was doing.

Next or give her time?
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Stop buying these strangers dinner! She blew you off = low interest. Mix it up, try activity dates that are fun. Escalate, even on the first date!
 
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Fair point Hockeyfreak. I did, she said she would come but judging on track record i dont see it happening.

The messages i receive dont seem those of someone who isnt interested. Nonetheless txting is pointless.

Bah. If we dont meet in the next 4/5 days i'll next.

Thnx
 
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IMO, This girl has low interest indeed. Before I say next her I would contact her and ask her since she did flake on you "how is she going to make it up to you" Do not do anything else for her, don't raise a finger. Anything other than get rid of her and find someone worthy of your time.
 
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KingBeef said:
IMO, This girl has low interest indeed. Before I say next her I would contact her and ask her since she did flake on you "how is she going to make it up to you" Do not do anything else for her, don't raise a finger. Anything other than get rid of her and find someone worthy of your time.
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I wouldn't even waste the time and effort to ask her that.

Don't contact her. She has your number. If she comes back to you and insinuates getting together, then ask her what she is going to do to make it up to you.

At this point leave it alone. See what happens. Chances are in a week, you'll be talking to another one or banging another one. Or at least you should be.......and forget all about her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Stick to drinks! coffee or ****tails. Try to keep these first dates to 20-30$. If I do food, it is usually an app or something light. I always eat before first and second dates. If she is willing to go back to your place, she is willing to fvck. You just didn't push the right buttons.

Did you kiss close?
 
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