So a while back I was destroying it on OLD. Numbers, talking to many, many chicks but one after the other possibly because they felt comfortable talking and or couldn't restrain themselves from "telling on themselves" the major red flags came out one after the other. I mean I heard it ALL. Tons of n00dz etc. Never bothered wasting my time travelling to see them or even bother meeting them half way. Close, not close, all of them had serious baggage and or major issues, nutcases and so on. Didn't matter how good they looked. Screened them all on the phone.
Finally I said to myself: "Maybe you're being too judgmental" "Maybe you're making excuses because you're lazy to bother with any of these chicks and you just don't care because you're busy with other shyt, friends, family etc.".
So I "checked myself" and one chick I decided to meet. We went out. Hit it off and I dated the chick for a year. What did I learn during that year? NEVER think YOU are the "problem" at all times. Sometimes it really is THEM.
When I go out it's to places I'd already be going, going with friends. doing new shyt, things I like to do. Not to just sit around at my place or some chicks constantly or waste my time on a boring azz coffee date. Normally if I date some chick and she doesn't even fake offer to "pay" even so much as the tip on a second date with a gesture of she'd have my back if I needed it I'll drop her. Did it before.
So we went to a museum and then got something to eat. Not once (even though I wouldn't have taken the money) did this chick even fake offer to pay. I let it slide as she was younger, in college, and made nowhere near the money I make.
Saw each other pretty often. Same chit. Hung out etc. Whenever we went out? Never offered to pay.
Christmas after a few months of dating I got her a few small things. She got me ZIP. Because she "didn't know we were getting each other anything".
Valentines we went out. Got her some small things. She got me nothing.
Now I'm thinking two things. Yeah she doesn't make much money, yeah we have sex, but this chick is a USER.
Stuck it out seeing each other for several more months, gave me the line of "Oh when I have a boyfriend I do anything for him" hinting she wanted me to make it official. I'm thinking this chick hasn't once offered to even fake pay and she's talking this BS like soon as some dude asks her to be his GF she "does anything for him"? LMAO
Chick had told me she wondered what our kids would look like, wanted to move in with me. At that point I'm thinking dude look you tried to "check yourself" and give one of these chicks a chance. Don't ever doubt yourself and think "you" might be the problem.
Finally I told the chick. Look I'm busy I have things to do. Bye. She started "begging" me to stay with her and she wanted to "take me out sometime". I told her: Nah I'm good. lol.
Dropped her period. No contact, nothing. Deleted the number.
Four months later I get a text from a number I recognized was her. Deleted.
OLD is nothing more than a cesspool virtual dive bar of damaged goods, chicks who would use you etc.
Moral of the story is: If you ever decide that you might be the problem and give someone a chance. If you see red flags starting to fly, drop them. Period.
Finally I said to myself: "Maybe you're being too judgmental" "Maybe you're making excuses because you're lazy to bother with any of these chicks and you just don't care because you're busy with other shyt, friends, family etc.".
So I "checked myself" and one chick I decided to meet. We went out. Hit it off and I dated the chick for a year. What did I learn during that year? NEVER think YOU are the "problem" at all times. Sometimes it really is THEM.
When I go out it's to places I'd already be going, going with friends. doing new shyt, things I like to do. Not to just sit around at my place or some chicks constantly or waste my time on a boring azz coffee date. Normally if I date some chick and she doesn't even fake offer to "pay" even so much as the tip on a second date with a gesture of she'd have my back if I needed it I'll drop her. Did it before.
So we went to a museum and then got something to eat. Not once (even though I wouldn't have taken the money) did this chick even fake offer to pay. I let it slide as she was younger, in college, and made nowhere near the money I make.
Saw each other pretty often. Same chit. Hung out etc. Whenever we went out? Never offered to pay.
Christmas after a few months of dating I got her a few small things. She got me ZIP. Because she "didn't know we were getting each other anything".
Valentines we went out. Got her some small things. She got me nothing.
Now I'm thinking two things. Yeah she doesn't make much money, yeah we have sex, but this chick is a USER.
Stuck it out seeing each other for several more months, gave me the line of "Oh when I have a boyfriend I do anything for him" hinting she wanted me to make it official. I'm thinking this chick hasn't once offered to even fake pay and she's talking this BS like soon as some dude asks her to be his GF she "does anything for him"? LMAO
Chick had told me she wondered what our kids would look like, wanted to move in with me. At that point I'm thinking dude look you tried to "check yourself" and give one of these chicks a chance. Don't ever doubt yourself and think "you" might be the problem.
Finally I told the chick. Look I'm busy I have things to do. Bye. She started "begging" me to stay with her and she wanted to "take me out sometime". I told her: Nah I'm good. lol.
Dropped her period. No contact, nothing. Deleted the number.
Four months later I get a text from a number I recognized was her. Deleted.
OLD is nothing more than a cesspool virtual dive bar of damaged goods, chicks who would use you etc.
Moral of the story is: If you ever decide that you might be the problem and give someone a chance. If you see red flags starting to fly, drop them. Period.
