Biggest lesson ive learned: what you project is what you attract

[Infern0]

I feel this point has to be reiterated because so many dudes are still not getting this.

Getting bogged down in negativity.

Negativity about women

Negativity about life

Negativity about the world

I used to be one of these people, and running some game did get me girls, yeah for sure. But there was no authenticity there and it was a shallow existence trying to stay "one step ahead"

Last 6 months, ive just chilled out.

The way i see it, you only get one life. So do what you enjoy. Take care of you.

The shift has been pretty huge, and ive had many great experiences with women in that time, and minimal bs and drama.

My life has changed completley since i let go of the red pill rage. I even stopped watching the news because i dont want all that negativity. I dont miss it at all.

Ive got a main plate right now who i might ltr, not sure yet as im going back to college next week to finish my degree and am going to have abundance of options.

Point is, the anger, spite, misery that the manosphere seems to cultivate is toxic as all hell.

Stay smart, have fun, enjoy life, and women will come. Dont enable any bs from them, be a leader, be sensible, and enjoy them. They will follow YOUR LEAD. You set the pace with them, weather you realise it or not. If they are treating you badly, YOU are triggering that.

Get a grip gents.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

This is why I keep promoting transcendence; getting past the point of hating on women. Counter-productivity at it's purest.

I had a date in the middle of last year and drank a bit too much. Because I was still focusing partly on feminist perspective and the frustrations associated, I ended up going on a drunken rant about it to the woman in question. Needless to say, that was our final date and I've hardly heard from nor seen her since.

The point being, harbouring any ill feeling of frustration will always come back to bite you on the ass. Regardless of who or what is p!ssing us off, the negativity has to go somewhere, even if it dissipates slowly over a a long period of time - such as moaning to a friend. Psychological transference and projection are real things.

 

[Infern0]

This is why I keep promoting transcendence; getting past the point of hating on women. Counter-productivity at it's purest.

I had a date in the middle of last year and drank a bit too much. Because I was still focusing partly on feminist perspective and the frustrations associated, I ended up going on a drunken rant about it to the woman in question. Needless to say, that was our final date and I've hardly heard from nor seen her since.

The point being, harbouring any ill feeling of frustration will always come back to bite you on the ass. Regardless of who or what is p!ssing us off, the negativity has to go somewhere, even if it dissipates slowly over a a long period of time - such as moaning to a friend. Psychological transference and projection are real things.

that's a classic.

Hating women is absoloutley ridiculous. The lack of strong male role models in todays society is the reason WHY women have got so many issues and don't know how to behave. Becoming some woman hating, anti-feminist, alt-right thumping weirdy ain't gonna help the issue. (for what it's worth I voted trump, but i don't base my life around it)

 

[Tenacity]

I feel this point has to be reiterated because so many dudes are still not getting this.

Getting bogged down in negativity.

Negativity about women

Negativity about life

Negativity about the world

I used to be one of these people, and running some game did get me girls, yeah for sure. But there was no authenticity there and it was a shallow existence trying to stay "one step ahead"

Last 6 months, ive just chilled out.

The way i see it, you only get one life. So do what you enjoy. Take care of you.

The shift has been pretty huge, and ive had many great experiences with women in that time, and minimal bs and drama.

My life has changed completley since i let go of the red pill rage. I even stopped watching the news because i dont want all that negativity. I dont miss it at all.

Ive got a main plate right now who i might ltr, not sure yet as im going back to college next week to finish my degree and am going to have abundance of options.

Point is, the anger, spite, misery that the manosphere seems to cultivate is toxic as all hell.

Stay smart, have fun, enjoy life, and women will come. Dont enable any bs from them, be a leader, be sensible, and enjoy them. They will follow YOUR LEAD. You set the pace with them, weather you realise it or not. If they are treating you badly, YOU are triggering that.

Get a grip gents.

I hate these Law Of Attraction/It's All Your Fault Because You Think Negative Thoughts posts because, it takes a very complex issue and tries (but fails) to over-simplify it.

Listen, every guy should learn and know the TRUTH on how a particular thing "functions". With said particular thing will be prospective rewards/positives, as well as, drawbacks/negatives. The key is learning BALANCE and being able to juggle everything.

Thinking too negative will cause you to throw away opportunities, but thinking too positive will cause you to fall prey to scams/manipulation/other bullshyt, as well as, waste time and resources.

The key is BALANCE. It's about being an effective critical thinker, not a negative thinker nor a positive thinker.

 

[zekko]

Stay smart, have fun, enjoy life, and women will come. Dont enable any bs from them, be a leader, be sensible, and enjoy them. They will follow YOUR LEAD.

I've thought about your major point quite a bit, that you attract what you project. It must be so because I seem to have achieved a higher level of stability in my relationships than most guys here would even admit is possible. I tend to attract nicer girls. I think a lot of that has to do with my valuing honesty and not trying to put up some sort of false "player" front, while at the same time staying strong within myself and maintaining my self respect.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

This should be a much simpler concept than it is. I thought it was common knowledge that men need to learn to just DEAL with it if there's nothing you can do about something. Complain about it a bit, point out some flaws here or there, but it gets to a point where you gotta just know what you are gonna do afterwards. Use this newfound knowledge to adapt and understand. People who cannot understand that concept have not grown up.

 

[guru1000]

I feel this point has to be reiterated because so many dudes are still not getting this.

Getting bogged down in negativity.

Negativity about women

Negativity about life

Negativity about the world

I used to be one of these people, and running some game did get me girls, yeah for sure. But there was no authenticity there and it was a shallow existence trying to stay "one step ahead"

Last 6 months, ive just chilled out.

The way i see it, you only get one life. So do what you enjoy. Take care of you.

The shift has been pretty huge, and ive had many great experiences with women in that time, and minimal bs and drama.

My life has changed completley since i let go of the red pill rage. I even stopped watching the news because i dont want all that negativity. I dont miss it at all.

Ive got a main plate right now who i might ltr, not sure yet as im going back to college next week to finish my degree and am going to have abundance of options.

Point is, the anger, spite, misery that the manosphere seems to cultivate is toxic as all hell.

Stay smart, have fun, enjoy life, and women will come. Dont enable any bs from them, be a leader, be sensible, and enjoy them. They will follow YOUR LEAD. You set the pace with them, weather you realise it or not. If they are treating you badly, YOU are triggering that.

Get a grip gents.

I have always had a niche in finding light in any situation. Negativity incites by looking at how events are allegedly conspiring against you and to your detriment. Diametrically, if we were to adopt that all which occurs works to your benefit--not detriment-- then we can transcend all negativity to extract the light.

Example:

Client canceled his appointment:

Perspective One: I really needed this closing.
Perspective Two: I will use these next few hours to schedule five more appointments.

Girl flakes and no back-up date:

Perspective One: I really wanted to meet this girl
Perspective Two: I'm going use these next two hours and kill it at the gym to improve (to schedule hundreds of future dates). If every date did not flake (with my busy lifestyle), then when exactly would I have the time to work out/to improve?

Failed at doing XYZ

Perspective One: I'm such a failure
Perspective Two: I have just learned another way not to do XYZ. What alternate route can I take?

Yes, we have all heard these simple examples before. I know. Yet, so many of us unconsciously commit these crimes of blame upon ourselves and others instead of growing with (not from) these seemly "negative" experiences.

I have grown the most in what many would consider "negative" experiences. I have failed hard engulfed in negativity; which had directly prompted my succeeding ever harder. You must embrace failure and its "negative" veneer-wrapping to extract its many benefits and truly transcend this beast.