"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You're bound to meet some chicks that turn out to be "winners".

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Not every chick. But there are chicks you're going to meet that aren't worth your time.

The flakey weirdos, the chicks that talk our their azz or the chicks that simply flirt for the hell of it and want nothing more. Perhaps because things aren't in their full control with some other dude they have built a "perfect" fantasy in their mind about.

Some may have a few screws loose. Some are just toxic.

Look past their looks while looking at yourself internally. Do you really need some chick who's "off" in the head, plays kid games, etc? Do you need their validation ignoring red flags? If so then why. You can only blame yourself if you keep choosing to waste your life spending time on dead ends.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think the idea that "this one is paying attention to me, I cant pass her up" (the idea of scarcity of females) pays a large role in the type of thinking you described.
 

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I think the idea that "this one is paying attention to me, I cant pass her up" (the idea of scarcity of females) pays a large role in the type of thinking you described.
I've had my share of chicks who play the role for attention or are just weirdos.

They get old quick no matter how they look.

One weirdo who always came up to me at an old job flirting. Asked her to go out sometime and she started whispering noooo. I told her she was a flake and left her alone. Saw her the next day, kept it moving and she says oh so you're not going to talk to me? I said nah keep it moving and left it alone.


another one I hadn't seen in years came up to me in another job I worked at that had dated an acquaintance years back. Typical oh you look great here's my number etc. called twice, got her voicemail and never heard from her again.

another chick I knew from a wedding I was at out of nowhere in front of her husband while we're talking says oh all the girls at our old job loved 9Volt. I'm thinking that's news to me.

point being who knows what's going on in some people's heads. Some are simply bizarre.
 

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Agreed! Winners are numbered though. They are certainly few and far between. The main thing is sticking to your values.

I know I don't like women that do selfies/snapchat a lot because I believe it says a lot about how fvcking empty she is on the inside. If I find out she does, it is usually a next for me...
 

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Agreed! Winners are numbered though. They are certainly few and far between. The main thing is sticking to your values.

I know I don't like women that do selfies/snapchat a lot because I believe it says a lot about how fvcking empty she is on the inside. If I find out she does, it is usually a next for me...
Usually means they need excessive outside attention. That can be a problem for you. Sometimes the women use the excessive outside attention for orbiters and likes a guy no one knows about to screw. It still can be a problem because if you piss her off she will allow one of the orbiters your space.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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