How do you get the motivation to pursue girls?

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Hey guys,

I've been spitting game on a lot of girls this week and been talking to them but for some reason I don't feel the motivation to pursue these girls or go out on a date. I don't know if it's the anxiety in me as I never went to a date with a stranger before so it's putting me off.

My last relationship really traumatized me, I don't want to commit or talk to these girls.I just want to have sex.

Nonetheless, I have trouble even continuing the conversation, I mean I can talk to these girls just fine but I don't want to talk to these girls, I dont put in the effort, it's boring to me even tho Im a good conversationalist, they're all really attracted to me and so am I but I don't feel the desire to pursue these girls or take them out on dates. I feel like im f**ked up inside.

What can I do?

 

[Milano]

You continue the grind. How long since last relationship? A trauma like that can sometimes last a year or two (Im guessing you are relatively young and havent been with someone for too long).

You sound depressed, get in line with the rest of us. You perhaps have no mission in life, or a mission that is not very motivating. It can take years to find this purpose, but you gotta live life and take risks, embrace the pain that makes you grow. I had to tell myself that last part earlier today when I deleted my last plate as she was friendzoning me. We must choose to grow, only then can we see new opportunities and not stagnate.

If you dont want to talk to these girls then you are either incredibly depressed with low testosterone levels or they are below your level, chemistry is not there. It is ok, most girls are incredibly boring so try to have fun for yourself and remember the law of state transference - whatever you feel she feels. Very important.

Just take a break and focus on working out, eating clean. Do workouts like deadlifts and squats, improves your testosterone and makes you feel better. Do something that makes you happy besides women.

 

[Billtx49]

My last relationship really traumatized me, I don't want to commit or talk to these girls.I just want to have sex

I don't want to talk to these girls, I dont put in the effort, it's boring to me even tho Im a good conversationalist, they're all really attracted to me and so am I but I don't feel the desire to pursue these girls or take them out on dates. I feel like im f**ked up inside.

Take some time off to heal from the last girl and get your head straight again. Then get back out there later when that phase is done.

 

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Take some time off to heal from the last girl and get your head straight again. Then get back out there later when that phase is done.

Well I don't really want to fall back on my old ways, I never approached anyone before. My ex approached me so I want to try actually pursing girls this time. Even then I felt the pressure not to talk to girls or feel bored by them

 

[bigneil]

You never went on a date with a stranger? All dates are essentially with a stranger - at a minimum, you never saw that romantic side of her before. Seriously, 99.999% of people are ok with going on a date with a stranger.

Traumatized? Unless she f*cked you with a broomstick and left splinters you need to man up over being "hurt" by a woman.