Building a "Harem"

[9Volt]

How in the hell do you dudes with "harems" find time to maintain a "harem" of chicks if you supposedly don't care what they do and are doing things in life for yourself?

Wouldn't a "harem" of chicks require more effort spent on the chicks then on yourself and your own life? What the hell would you even need to build a harem for if you're supposedly "content" with how your life is going and you aren't in "need" of chicks approval or a constant stream of them like security blankets if something with one or two don't work out?

And don't give me that fairytale of I am busy living my life, I just hold the "frame" and these chicks come running at my beck and call.

IMO if you got time to sit around entertaining all these chicks your own improvement in life for yourself is lacking.

When I was doing the OLD shyt and getting all these chicks numbers, talking etc. I couldn't keep up with it nor had any desire to "maintain" all that. Friends, family, work, doing things I like to do, going out etc. was more important than trying to get as many chicks as I could. Shyt I can barely keep up with every friend but trying to juggle chicks? I'll pass.

I prefer one chick to have a relationship with. It happens it happens. It doesn't it doesn't. I got too much other shyt to do.

 

[Roober]

It could vary widely by amount of time spent with them and amount of women. I probably wouldn't want to balance out more than 2, considering I only have 3 free nights per week. I suppose if I saw a girl once every 2-3 weeks, I could have more, but it seems like women don't stick around long if you are only meeting them every 2-3 weeks...

 

[Urbanyst]

The dirty little secret to harems is having female friends.

A lot of guys don't believe in making friends with women because they are afraid of the friend zone or looking like a chump or a homo. But I have a whole lot of female friends and I've built a network of women I can hang out with whenever. I end up hooking up with a lot of them and their friends.

 

[9Volt]

It could vary widely by amount of time spent with them and amount of women. I probably wouldn't want to balance out more than 2, considering I only have 3 free nights per week. I suppose if I saw a girl once every 2-3 weeks, I could have more, but it seems like women don't stick around long if you are only meeting them every 2-3 weeks...

I guess if a dude has no friends, doesn't spend time with family, doesn't work a full time job and has nothing else better to do but chase women on the streets and or on OLD he can claim he has a harem but trying to remember all these new chicks names, what you talked about, they talked about, meet up etc. that shyt is a waste of my time.

One chick that I get along with fine. Two chicks is pushing it. I get bored easily especially if I'm not feeling the chick no matter what she looks like. I'd rather go out someplace with friends or do other shyt. I was like that on OLD. If they were too far as in more than 15-30 minutes away and it wasn't going over bridges etc. I was like oh fck that. I'll just go out or find some other shyt to do.

 

[Roober]

I guess if a dude has no friends, doesn't spend time with family, doesn't work a full time job and has nothing else better to do but chase women on the streets and or on OLD he can claim he has a harem but trying to remember all these new chicks names, what you talked about, they talked about, meet up etc. that shyt is a waste of my time.

One chick that I get along with fine. Two chicks is pushing it. I get bored easily especially if I'm not feeling the chick no matter what she looks like. I'd rather go out someplace with friends or do other shyt. I was like that on OLD. If they were too far as in more than 15-30 minutes away and it wasn't going over bridges etc. I was like oh fck that. I'll just go out or find some other shyt to do.

Agreed! It is about where your priorities lie. I make plans with friends first, and if none of them are available, I'll setup a date.

That is pretty stringent on the drive... I live in the bay area, and almost everyone is at least that distance from each other. Often times, interested women will just come to you.

 

[9Volt]

Agreed! It is about where your priorities lie. I make plans with friends first, and if none of them are available, I'll setup a date.

That is pretty stringent on the drive... I live in the bay area, and almost everyone is at least that distance from each other. Often times, interested women will just come to you.

At times I really don't even want them to come to me. A friend will call and be like yo let's go out here and I'm like yeah I'm going and just tell the chick I'll meet up next time. Most times believe it or not the chicks see you as a dude who's nothing like the rest and isn't tripping over yourself to get with them. If they move on? I always have other shyt to do regardless. In the end it may bite me in the azz but hey I'm living my life and don't ever regret doing the shyt I've done just to not miss meeting some chick.