Balancing behaviours

[halfhalf2098]

I've had sex with this girl once, on the third date. We agreed to meet the following week. She was non-committal in reply to my next message to meetup, (I'll let you know etc) so I just left it. This was last week.

I was out at the restaurant where she works last night. The moment she spots me, she comes over and greets me, kino, kisses etc all normal. She explained that in addition to being very busy with work, she had a significant death in the family, naturally implying that was why she didn't get back to me. She's going home for a week to help her family.

I tend not give girls the benefit of the doubt in general, but I realise that life gets in the way sometimes. My intention is to send her a message in a couple of days saying "Hey, drop me a message when you get back, we can grab a drink" and gauge her response.

This leads me to a broader question of balancing 'alpha' and 'beta' traits. I know it isn't a strict binary system, but it is certainly the case that I don't want to seem too available, but at the same time convey that I'm interested in seeing her again. Your thoughts?

 

[RangerMIke]

You have to really not care what women do. You invite them out and they do not respond... you just go do what you were going to do and not worry about it. You really can not care about it. I wouldn't assume anything accept that she has low interest and if it turns out to be something else... okay... I really don't care. Truth is that I would NEVER do that to anyone, if I had a death in the family or some other emergency that required my attention I would take 10 fvcking seconds to let people I know that I have plans with. When chicks do stuff like this it is ALWAYS low interest ALWAYS. She might have a good reason, but if she doesn't take moments out of her day to tell you, then clearly she didn't remember because she's not that interested in you.

We are talking about women... they are like children... they all do flaky sh!t like this all the time, if you have never been flaked, then you are not dating women. Just assume that it means that AT THAT MOMENT she's not into you and move on.

 

[halfhalf2098]

You have to really not care what women do. You invite them out and they do not respond... you just go do what you were going to do and not worry about it. You really can not care about it. I wouldn't assume anything accept that she has low interest and if it turns out to be something else... okay... I really don't care. Truth is that I would NEVER do that to anyone, if I had a death in the family or some other emergency that required my attention I would take 10 fvcking seconds to let people I know that I have plans with. When chicks do stuff like this it is ALWAYS low interest ALWAYS. She might have a good reason, but if she doesn't take moments out of her day to tell you, then clearly she didn't remember because she's not that interested in you.

We are talking about women... they are like children... they all do flaky sh!t like this all the time, if you have never been flaked, then you are not dating women. Just assume that it means that AT THAT MOMENT she's not into you and move on.

So it's best to not initiate anymore and assume that if she's interested, she'll contact me? Thought about leaving the call in her court with that text as I have other women, but I guess her contacting me will mean the same thing. It's been high interest up till this point, always texting etc. For what it's worth, I know that she wasn't on WhatsApp for most of the week which is out of character (she made a point to tell me actually)...this is over analyzing, but just making the point that her previous behaviour hasn't been bad.

 

[RangerMIke]

So it's best to not initiate anymore and assume that if she's interested, she'll contact me? Thought about leaving the call in her court with that text as I have other women, but I guess her contacting me will mean the same thing. It's been high interest up till this point, always texting etc. For what it's worth, I know that she wasn't on WhatsApp for most of the week which is out of character (she made a point to tell me actually)...this is over analyzing, but just making the point that her previous behaviour hasn't been bad.

Try to make a date... and if she flakes then the ball is in her court. She has to give you a counter offer if she doesn't she is not interested. It is possible she playing "The Rules" game... but if she is doing this you don't want to waste time with her because she is going to be an inauthentic pain in the @ss.

There are too many women in the world to waste time on those that are going to mqke sh!t hard.

 

[EmotionalGeek]

It is possible she playing "The Rules" game...

What is that?

 

[RangerMIke]

What is that?

It was a book that chicks were using some 15 years ago... don't remember exactly who wrote it, but it gained some notoriety back when it was discovered that JFK Jr's wife was a believer in "The Rules".... It's really not used that much anymore, but every now and then you'll get some chick following that. Some of the stuff made sense... be feminine, don't try to change him, don't talk of the phone too much with a guy... but it also suggested that women should not chase men, PERIOD... which doesn't fvcking work. Suggesting that women be COMPLETELY passive. So if you get one of these 'Rules' girls, they will just make sh!t hard... you ask them out and they don;t respond, basically waiting you you to beg for their 'pvssy', no real man is going to put up with that. So Rules girls end up with some simp... who they lose attraction for quickly.

If you want a laugh go ahead and get the book and read it. You'll know right away if you have a 'rules girl', because they are acting completely inauthentic.