Girl continuously testing me...

[.Paradox.]

Talked to this girl from bumble for a while and she finally stopped being a pvssy and came over friday night. Neither of us want anything serious so it's just friends with benefits. I can tell she's really into me because she's texting the hell outta me and was even about to ditch her friends to come over again last night before I told her I was busy.

Anyways, I won't post every "test", but here's an example from today...

We're texting and she says "what can I do to make it up to you" (she didn't actually do anything, we're just fvcking around). I'm at the gym so I don't respond for like 10-20 minutes and I get another text from her saying "Welp. Mood killed." I just respond with "I'm at the gyyyym!" and she says "it's cool I'll get attention elsewhere."

Rolled my eyes and didn't respond. On a level of 1-10, about how insecure would you say she is?

 

[El Payaso]

BPD insecure.

 

[WitnessGR]

She initiated because she wanted attention.... Says a lot about her. I would be surprised if she even has other means of attention getting (orbiters) It is hard to say how insecure she is, but It seems like she has high IL in you, and you played the situation well.
"i am at the gym" and no response

 

[.Paradox.]

Yeeeaaah she told me she was diagnosed with depression at a younger age or something.

 

[icantgetlaid]

i would just go no contact until you want to get together with her. otherwise ignore her attention seeking texts.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

One of my best FWBs we set clear guidelines upfront. I think wiki even has info on this.
Texting/calls were kept at minimum. Basically to set up if we are going to be at my place or hers.

Spontaneous fvck sessions are definitely fun but she's gotta understand that there will be times you are going to be busy and vice versa.
If anything she just sounds more annoying and or needy than "testing". Don't be surprised if this childress behavior continues, try to nip it in the bud and let her know it won't be tolerated.

 

[Glassguy]

If a chick makes the comment or suggests that she will get attention somewhere else, ghost her and fast.

You owe this chick nothing. Her comment is a big red flag, even for a FWB.

The power of walking away not only keeps these chicks in check, but it also keeps your mindset right. Go find another one as there are plenty out there.

Her: Its cool I will get attention elsewhere
Me: Ok hun. No problem, as will I.
Her: Thats it?
Me: GHOST.

Why even take the chance of fvcking one like this......and knocking her up. Do you really want to deal with this in your life to any degree?

 

[dude99]

Yeeeaaah she told me she was diagnosed with depression at a younger age or something.

Depression = high maintenance and lots of baggage.

Not wanting anything serious from her is the right move.

 

[MrAddiction]

Wtf. Do not make yourself a puppy.
Girl wants to get attention elsewhere? Always welcome. I would not respond or bother at all - or I would at least wish her fun.
You will not make yourself a slavery to anyone. Letting a girl dictate in what time you have to respond - is plain simple a powerplay and an act to enslave you and make her your *****.
You guys Must focus much more on yourself. If it fits your shedule answer whenever you want. If it does not fit your schedule, than do not worry and answer later. Never ever apologize for not answering just in time.
You do not want a girl to think you are sitting around waiting for her texting. And at least that should not be your life.
You are a man - you have things to do. Apart from that you do not owe anyone a texting reply just in time. I know today most people expect this but fcuk it. If i am just not in the mood to answer some text that is my decision and I do not owe an explanation therefore to anybody...neither do you.

If the same girl is pulling the I will get attention somewhere else ****... Text her: sorry, have been busy with other girls;-))