"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Do you want emotionally unavailable women?

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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depends, do you want an emotional connection with your female?

I personally want an emotional connection with my man.

That article is bullsh1t. I wont say 'all women' but I will say that, in as much as a female may present to you that she is not interested in an emotional connection, and more interested in a 'partnership', there will be a time down the line where he is going to be unhappy because she doesnt feel 'connected' with you. Gentlemen, if ur woman ever says she doesnt feel connected with you, she is essentially saying she doesn't feel emotionally connected with you. As a matter of fact, I would contend that a fair amount of the nagging that goes on in a relationship, not feeling supported, not feeling heard/understood, has roots in the female not feeling emotionally connected.

We're going to find it difficult to give in to our hearts because we're always a bit terrified of what we could lose. We're inside our heads. It's not that we don't want to feel happy; it's that we don't want to feel susceptible to what that happiness means

translation - I fear being vulnerable with you because I dont want to get hurt
 
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depends, do you want an emotional connection with your female?

I personally want an emotional connection with my man.

That article is bullsh1t. I wont say 'all women' but I will say that, in as much as a female may present to you that she is not interested in an emotional connection, and more interested in a 'partnership', there will be a time down the line where he is going to be unhappy because she doesnt feel 'connected' with you. Gentlemen, if ur woman ever says she doesnt feel connected with you, she is essentially saying she doesn't feel emotionally connected with you. As a matter of fact, I would contend that a fair amount of the nagging that goes on in a relationship, not feeling supported, not feeling heard/understood, has roots in the female not feeling emotionally connected.

We're going to find it difficult to give in to our hearts because we're always a bit terrified of what we could lose. We're inside our heads. It's not that we don't want to feel happy; it's that we don't want to feel susceptible to what that happiness means

translation - I fear being vulnerable with you because I dont want to get hurt
I wasnt sure if the article was sarcasm.

I'm ending it with someone who apparently thought we were exclusive. The exclusive conversation never happened though. The funny thing is she spun our relations as her getting ready to fall in love. The more she talked like this, the more distant she became in terms of how often she would text or call or ask to meet up. I remained fairly indifferent to her. But I finally had to bring this up. I said you don't put enough nurturing into whatever is going on with us so I've lost interest.
Now apparently I'm not secure and confident and can't handle someone who is their own person, whatever that means. I thought I was doing her a favor. I didn't want to fake my emotional investment in her. Not sure how she thought putting in the bare minimum is going to keep someone around for more than just sex. She would send texts saying she has feelings for me and wants me. But she was so boring, sleeping a lot, not wanting to talk on the phone if we didn't see each other for more than a week. I have women texting/calling me at 5 times the rate she does with more bonding type conversations. It was hard to not lose interest in her. Actions speak louder than words to me.
 

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I wasnt sure if the article was sarcasm.

I'm ending it with someone who apparently thought we were exclusive. The exclusive conversation never happened though. The funny thing is she spun our relations as her getting ready to fall in love. The more she talked like this, the more distant she became in terms of how often she would text or call or ask to meet up. I remained fairly indifferent to her. But I finally had to bring this up. I said you don't put enough nurturing into whatever is going on with us so I've lost interest.
Now apparently I'm not secure and confident and can't handle someone who is their own person, whatever that means. I thought I was doing her a favor. I didn't want to fake my emotional investment in her. Not sure how she thought putting in the bare minimum is going to keep someone around for more than just sex. She would send texts saying she has feelings for me and wants me. But she was so boring, sleeping a lot, not wanting to talk on the phone if we didn't see each other for more than a week. I have women texting/calling me at 5 times the rate she does with more bonding type conversations. It was hard to not lose interest in her. Actions speak louder than words to me.
IMO She is just upset because you ended it, This is why she is saying to you.
 
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