"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm finally getting ahead, being a driver. It's been a real tough 5 months. I'm ready to start taking my ladies out!

I'm thinking of starting with the ones, I'm not attracted to. Dry runs (no nerves) would be good to get used to having ladies, always in the mix, for any dinner adventures. :cool:

However, if they fall in love... I'll have to let them down easy, keeping them in the sister/friend zone.

Any advice?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Could someone please educate me on what Kino is? I haven't been in this forum long.
 

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Could someone please educate me on what Kino is? I haven't been in this forum long.
I'll give you a hint... It easliy leads to sex.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Kino means touch. Finding oportunities to touch the person you are with and escalating it. Not in a sleazy creepy way.
Like when a girl wants to hold your hand? Would this be her using kino?

I always assumed then by adding touch to the equation you were subliminally adding something 'more'.

Eg.. While making eye contact pay her a small compliment and touch her arm/shoulder etc. Her brain will associate said compliment with touch and in future you won't need to apply a compliment... just touch her arm/shoulder for her to feel the same kick of dopamine..

Am I on the right lines?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Like when a girl wants to hold your hand? Would this be her using kino?

I always assumed then by adding touch to the equation you were subliminally adding something 'more'.

Eg.. While making eye contact pay her a small compliment and touch her arm/shoulder etc. Her brain will associate said compliment with touch and in future you won't need to apply a compliment... just touch her arm/shoulder for her to feel the same kick of dopamine..

Am I on the right lines?
Yes, I need to stay away from the oxytocin and dopamine...o_O:confused::p

... It messes with my head....uhh, both!o_O
 

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Yes and no.. It is more about getting her used to being touched by you so that when you decide to kiss or make out you are already there because you have been touching her already and increasing the sensuality of the touch. The first touch might be a high five or a hug but later on it might be a booty grab or stroking her skin.

Look up "kino escalation ladder"
 

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I'm finally getting ahead, being a driver. It's been a real tough 5 months. I'm ready to start taking my ladies out!

I'm thinking of starting with the ones, I'm not attracted to. Dry runs (no nerves) would be good to get used to having ladies, always in the mix, for any dinner adventures. :cool:

However, if they fall in love... I'll have to let them down easy, keeping them in the sister/friend zone.

Any advice?
If you are going to do this,I will as well. I'll do a field report 2.
 

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Got to do the kino dude. Its just little things. Think of her as your little sister. Start small with a poke on the shoulder or otherwise, think of her as your sister. Its more complex than that, but you get the idea.

Of the interest is there, she Will not flinch and will gradually position herself closer. She will adjust and randomly touch legs, etc. By the end of the night, you should be able to put your hand on the small of her back. Active things work great because you can hi five, etc. On my last date, she would hi five with a slap. After a couple timese, she would then hold my hand for a couple seconds until I let go.

Get out there wifehunter and you have to kino!
 

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Kino helps a lot but you can still build sexual tension without it using direct gaze, the smirk and conversation...
And confidence.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Gaming women that you aren't attracted to will just set you back by months or years, and I wouldn't recommend it.
I thought about this same idea just to build some practice with talking to women. Game all women and use the less attractive ones for conversation practice. Don't take them out Or don't make them a plate...
 

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The only other tip I'll throw out there is don't let the date drag on too long.

I used to think that talking for three hours was a good sign. Umm not really.

I thought Espi once said something to the effect of ending the date after something like 90 mins (if I remember correctly?)
 

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If you are going to do this,I will as well. I'll do a field report 2.
I'll do an FR on the hot ones, not the friendzoned ones.
 

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Got to do the kino dude. Its just little things. Think of her as your little sister. Start small with a poke on the shoulder or otherwise, think of her as your sister. Its more complex than that, but you get the idea.

Of the interest is there, she Will not flinch and will gradually position herself closer. She will adjust and randomly touch legs, etc. By the end of the night, you should be able to put your hand on the small of her back. Active things work great because you can hi five, etc. On my last date, she would hi five with a slap. After a couple timese, she would then hold my hand for a couple seconds until I let go.

Get out there wifehunter and you have to kino!
Nah, focusing on kino is for people just looking to hookup. I'm not. I would like to find the woman I'll spend the rest of my life with...then kino, and all of that, are definitely in the cards.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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