"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I've had two 'dates' with a girl after she initiated and gave me her number. First ended at my place with a long makeout session, second I invited her over for dinner. Escalated that second time, token LMR, but she mentioned 'going slow' and did everything except PIV and seemed keen to please me. She was very affectionate and reluctant to leave the next morning.

She messaged me the next day with 'Good morning (kiss), have a good day". She has initiated texting before...I reply sporadically and only text to setup a meet, in general. I messaged her the other day with a suggestion to meetup, she replied with a joke and said "Sorry, but I'm sick." This is the first time, so I gave her the benefit of the doubt. She said 'maybe next week' when arranging the second date, but was enthusiastic and initiated texting in the lead up. Must just be a language issue.

By coincidence, the next day I happened to be at the restaurant where she works. It was busy so we couldn't chat or anything, but I know she saw me. I sent her a text that evening, just to tease, saying "Good to see you're better :p". In hindsight, not ideal, but she still replied promptly with "I saw wrong". Her English isn't great, not sure what she means or if she really understood my comment hah, but my intention is to just wait 5 days/a week and reinitiate as normal.

Is this the right course of action?
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I've had two 'dates' with a girl after she initiated and gave me her number. First ended at my place with a long makeout session, second I invited her over for dinner. Escalated that second time, token LMR, but she mentioned 'going slow' and did everything except PIV and seemed keen to please me. She was very affectionate and reluctant to leave the next morning.

She messaged me the next day with 'Good morning (kiss), have a good day". She has initiated texting before...I reply sporadically and only text to setup a meet, in general. I messaged her the other day with a suggestion to meetup, she replied with a joke and said "Sorry, but I'm sick." This is the first time, so I gave her the benefit of the doubt. She said 'maybe next week' when arranging the second date, but was enthusiastic and initiated texting in the lead up. Must just be a language issue.

By coincidence, the next day I happened to be at the restaurant where she works. It was busy so we couldn't chat or anything, but I know she saw me. I sent her a text that evening, just to tease, saying "Good to see you're better :p". In hindsight, not ideal, but she still replied promptly with "I saw wrong". Her English isn't great, not sure what she means or if she really understood my comment hah, but my intention is to just wait 5 days/a week and reinitiate as normal.

Is this the right course of action?
It isn't a bad one, but just to understand, she couldn't see you because she was sick but wasn't sick and was able to go into work......but you saw wrong? What did you see wrong?

Soundslike you have a liar on your hands.
 

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Yeah, seems that way, but I only intend to keep her as a plate at best. I haven't replied, so just wait till this Sunday/next week and tell her I'm going for drinks or something similar?
 

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Yeah, seems that way, but I only intend to keep her as a plate at best. I haven't replied, so just wait till this Sunday/next week and tell her I'm going for drinks or something similar?
Keeping her as a plate or a FB is probably best.
 

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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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