How do you meet women?

[Epicwinguy]

Do you cold approach at a venue? Do you use your social circle? Do you use OLD? How do you meet women?

 

[Serenity]

About half the worlds human population are female, they are practically unavoidable. I meet them everywhere. Just start a conversation and see where it leads, sometimes it's nowhere and sometimes it's the bedroom.

They're at venues, in social circles, on the internet and most other places. Where you meet them isn't very important, what you do when you meet them is.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

My main is social circle, some day gaming when I just can't help myself but to approach. Since finding a wingman and doing nofap, I see how the balance could start favouring day game. I've approached some girls in the night too, but I've only have success once, not my niche at all.

 

[bigneil]

This is a good question. I used to wait for buying signals. However, looking back at the girls I picked up in 2016 I'm realizing men need to be more aggressive with the hot women they see.

1) I saw a beauty at the bar and my waitress was jealous of her. The girl at the bar was wearing frayed pants that were incredibly sexy. So a moment later I walked over and I interrupted my waitress taking her order and I said "Excuse me? Would you please tug on her threads?" Both girls gave me a dirty look as if they were outraged but I saw the girl with the frayed pants' eyes light up, and she said "Does this turn you on?" and I said "Yes." Then she said "Sit with me". Her friend came over and said they had been checking me out (but I hadn't noticed). I got her number, got a date the next night and had sex the next night. (Venus favors the bold).

2) I saw a beautiful brunette working at a hotel bar and I went over and asked her if I could order food to go. She liked me but I didn't ask her out then. 9 months later I approached a beautiful blonde girl at a bar and told her she was one of the most incredible women I had ever seen. I got her number, she texted back, I got a date, I got a kiss, and then 2 days later realized it was the same girl I had met at the hotel. (Be proactive and remember any details you get).

3) Back in the spring I saw a gorgeous waitress so I stopped her in her tracks and said "Excuse me, can I order a drink from you?". The next time I saw her she was training another waitress and said "This is Neil. We LOVE him!" Months later she saw me in a bar and hugged me and I told her she was one of the most beautiful women I know. (It's ok to say things like this AFTER they have a crush AND if you mean it). I ended up taking her home. (Build a good reputation in her environment).

In every case I didn't get any buying signals until after I approached them, in two cases months later.

 

[Von]

This is a good question. I used to wait for buying signals. However, looking back at the girls I picked up in 2016 I'm realizing men need to be more aggressive with the hot women they see.

1) I saw a beauty at the bar and my waitress was jealous of her. The girl at the bar was wearing frayed pants that were incredibly sexy. So a moment later I walked over and I interrupted my waitress taking her order and I said "Excuse me? Would you please tug on her threads?" Both girls gave me a dirty look as if they were outraged but I saw the girl with the frayed pants' eyes light up, and she said "Does this turn you on?" and I said "Yes." Then she said "Sit with me". Her friend came over and said they had been checking me out (but I hadn't noticed). I got her number, got a date the next night and had sex the next night. (Venus favors the bold).

2) I saw a beautiful brunette working at a hotel bar and I went over and asked her if I could order food to go. She liked me but I didn't ask her out then. 9 months later I approached a beautiful blonde girl at a bar and told her she was one of the most incredible women I had ever seen. I got her number, she texted back, I got a date, I got a kiss, and then 2 days later realized it was the same girl I had met at the hotel. (Be proactive and remember any details you get).

3) Back in the spring I saw a gorgeous waitress so I stopped her in her tracks and said "Excuse me, can I order a drink from you?". The next time I saw her she was training another waitress and said "This is Neil. We LOVE him!" Months later she saw me in a bar and hugged me and I told her she was one of the most beautiful women I know. (It's ok to say things like this AFTER they have a crush AND if you mean it). I ended up taking her home. (Build a good reputation in her environment).

In every case I didn't get any buying signals until after I approached them, in two cases months later.

You'll never know unless you make a move... indeed. Also, if you come back to her ''months later'' and she remembers you (how you made her feel)... good sign

Sometimes, I find sometimes the approach is better when you initiate before eye contacts.... bold approaching (in a confident and calm way)

If there is eye contact... for course you approach her.

 

[bigneil]

It depends on your state. I'm in Georgia now and it requires a much more forward game than in Texas where you just look at a woman and they smile and talk to you. Beautiful women are more common in Austin and Dallas than Atlanta from my experience. I'm still debating moving back to Texas. For the 3 girls above, I had to steal them away from their men every time. Their average rating was an 8. Not worth eating other men's sperm for.

Meanwhile the girl whose number I asked for last night (getting shot down btw, snapping a streak of about 20 straight phone numbers) said she just got out of a divorce and already has a new guy (the second such girl I've met with this situation since August). Is anyone finding truly single women or do all hot women have boyfriends?

 

[SmooveMooves]

I meet them through social circle almost exclusively. My particular point of attack is build a HUGE social circle, become relatively known and gain access to opportunities, venues and women by association. Had a decent sized social circle in the past, looking to rebuild it.

@bigneil All hot women have some man or boyfriend in their life. How serious they are with them depends on how good your game is.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Depends on your own preferences and where you are most comfortable.

I'm nocturnal, I enjoy going out at night, live music, bars and clubs, dancing surrounded by flirtatious hot women. That's not everyone's bag.

Personally, I rarely approach women during the day, but am looking to expand my social circle all the time. Long story short, as Grewd said, there's opportunity everywhere; it's just a matter of being ready for it.

 

[bigneil]

One big key is to always dress for success. I was wearing a suit and tie when I met all 3 of the above girls. They all raved about how I dress. In all 3 examples, I had to impress their friends and have their friends say I was hot before they developed a crush on me.

1) Girl 1 was with her best friend who had to give me a raving review before I got the number. Once I fell out of favor with the best friend (a month later), I was done.
2) Girl 2, the second time I saw her, was a stripper (who I didn't recognize at first) and she watched me pull off a 3 way kiss with her and another beauty (who she liked, being bisexual). She later said that was the moment she fell for me.
2) Girl 3 was a waitress in a Hooter's type place. I had to get other girls there to like me before she did (they all talk in the back room and if one doesn't like you, you are done). Not only that, but next she was my FB friend for months so she knew everything about me.

So none of them were picked up in a vacuum, and in all 3 cases if I didn't impress her peers they wouldn't have considered me high status. They want bragging rights. You need to be prize-able. That's the Catch 22 most of us are in. Note that after 3 dates in 3 nights, I had an 8 month slump after that girl's best friend didn't like me. Then when I broke out I had 2 girls in 6 days. There is such a fine line between success and failure.

 

[Styr]

I have no specific place I meet women, but when I do meet them, then it is outside my home. (99% of the time).

 

[bigneil]

I have no specific place I meet women, but when I do meet them, then it is outside my home. (99% of the time).

You need to have more house parties! #1 way to score IMO, if you can get 60+ people to show up.

 

[Styr]

You need to have more house parties! #1 way to score IMO, if you can get 60+ people to show up.

I used to have some house parties at my place in my past. Back then when I could barely talk to a girl. And it is true, I got a few girls who were interested to some degree, but I just did not knew what to do with them back then. Also, I was forced to downsize when I quit my job.

Having such parties might be a good idea if you really like such parties and can keep them running, and can maintain proper premises. Otherwise it is best to just go outside. Besides, I love daygame. It is more natural for me, and there is less competition.

 

[Slash Dolo]

I rarely cold approach because most of the women here are... pretty ugly. Even in bars and the like. And this is the bible belt so you don't know if they're some religious loon.

I mainly meet women at parties or through friends. If there's one tip I can give anyone trying to meet girls; expand your social circle and go to/throw parties. Sometimes I meet them through social media, but I prefer real life meets as SM chicks are flaky without irl contact. There's some cute girls that got hired at my local grocery store recently and may invite them over when I'm having a party again and am there getting supplies.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

In shops as well, but mainly socially.