"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Anna Camp Sexually Harassed!

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I read this story and found it amusing. Anna Camp is an attractive C list actress who claims she was sexually harassed on the set of her new show. Apparently that harassment consisted of her being called doll, honey, and sweetie in the food service area on the production. I was a little surprised that this was characterized as sexual harassment.

I get called honey or sweetie sometimes by waitresses or cashiers. Personally, I think it is unprofessional, but I've never considered it sexual harassment. It seems to me that if people want others to take this issue seriously, they shouldn't undermine it by referring to something so relatively benign as sexual harassment.

http://www.businessinsider.com/anna...lly-harassed-on-good-girls-revolt-set-2016-10
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I don't mind being called hon, honey, sweetie, etc. by female cashiers or waitresses or bartenders. At best, I find it cute. At worst, I find it neutral.

Even a gay guy waiter called me "hon" once. I'm straight as an arrow, but I didn't take offense. He didn't mean anything by it.

Most females that I know don't like being called such pet names. Not sure I would call it sexual harrasment in that case, but just poor taste.
 

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I read this story and found it amusing. Anna Camp is an attractive C list actress who claims she was sexually harassed on the set of her new show. Apparently that harassment consisted of her being called doll, honey, and sweetie in the food service area on the production. I was a little surprised that this was characterized as sexual harassment.

I get called honey or sweetie sometimes by waitresses or cashiers. Personally, I think it is unprofessional, but I've never considered it sexual harassment. It seems to me that if people want others to take this issue seriously, they shouldn't undermine it by referring to something so relatively benign as sexual harassment.

http://www.businessinsider.com/anna...lly-harassed-on-good-girls-revolt-set-2016-10
the director of medicine for the ER i work at calls all the nurses sweatheart and all the guys "man." No sexual harassment charges have been filed thus far.
 

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Did you ever watch the show Criminal Minds? It's about FBI agents. Shamar Moore, former model, was on the show. He always referred to the fat woman as "Baby Girl,"....always, even in a work environment. That is the definition of demeaning sexual harassment. But since he's hot and every fat girl in America has a crush on him, that makes it ok. He left the show this year, but still has a "Baby Girl" clothing line that he markets. He's probably gay, too, which only compounds the irony of him being such a sex symbol to fat girls everywhere.
 
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