Tug of War

[Meisterman]

Anyone else realize a constant back and forth "tug of war" with having a girl think you're attracted to them, then pulling back/retracting the statement seems to work like a charm

Examples:

Your hair is so pretty....you should wash it more often (laugh and tap her on the shoulder)

I'll grab that door for you (proceed to not grab it and watch her laugh at you and tease you)

Straight up tell her about your other plates unless it's serious relationship. "I'm seeing Vanessa tonight." "Damn that girl is hot."

Ignore her randomly. Walk away randomly. Say you'll be right back at the bar and take 10 minutes

 

[AttackFormation]

Your hair is so pretty....you should wash it more often (laugh and tap her on the shoulder)

I stopped doing these kinds of straight insults/negs a long time ago. It's not funny, you're just being obnoxious.

I'll grab that door for you (proceed to not grab it and watch her laugh at you and tease you)

I like this kinda stuff more. It's harmless but you're still teasing her.

Straight up tell her about your other plates unless it's serious relationship. "I'm seeing Vanessa tonight." "Damn that girl is hot."

I guess if you're seeing a bimbo this (like negs) would go across fine, but what are you really getting out of your time when you see a girl like that? and if a girl told you this, you'd think she's stupid or something.

Ignore her randomly. Walk away randomly. Say you'll be right back at the bar and take 10 minutes

Disrespecting someone's time doesn't sit well with me. Again, I'm sure this stuff works fine with girls who aren't all there yet.



Maybe it's just me, but after absorbing this kind of stuff in my first run with the red pill and knowing where it lead for myself mentally I'm trying to take to a more harmonious perspective and interaction with women, treating them as people first instead of thinking of/treating them like trash. There are things which are for you like being dominant, things for her like being submissive, things for both like being fun, and things for neither like being an @sshole.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

I stopped doing these kinds of straight insults/negs a long time ago. It's not funny, you're just being obnoxious

Respectfully disagree here. The British sense of humour for example can be quite abrasive. If delivered correctly in a truly ironic way, a well time neg can have a profound effect.

 

[AttackFormation]

Respectfully disagree here. The British sense of humour for example can be quite abrasive. If delivered correctly in a truly ironic way, a well time neg can have a profound effect.

Got any examples?

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Got any examples?

It's fairly simple. This week, a plate text me, asked if I was missing her and I just said 'You wish. I'm waiting for you to bring me free food and coffee'. She replied, 'You wish'. It just about having fun, so long as they know you well enough to realise it's just in fun and ironic. And not being being serious.

 

[Meisterman]

It's fairly simple. This week, a plate text me, asked if I was missing her and I just said 'You wish. I'm waiting for you to bring me free food and coffee'. She replied, 'You wish'. It just about having fun, so long as they know you well enough to realise it's just in fun and ironic. And not being being serious.

So pretty much exactly what I just said. Obviously you aren't being serious. It's the humor that counts and shows her you don't take life too seriously.

 

[AttackFormation]

It's fairly simple. This week, a plate text me, asked if I was missing her and I just said 'You wish. I'm waiting for you to bring me free food and coffee'. She replied, 'You wish'.

This is not a neg/insult, it's normal banter.

It just about having fun, so long as they know you well enough to realise it's just in fun and ironic. And not being being serious.

Yeah exactly. My point was don't go overboard with insults. If you had some girl joking about your face being ugly all the time, it would probably stop being funny at some point while something like the example you gave is just normal banter.

 

[Serenity]

The presentation of a neg is crucial and preferably there should be some rapport built before doing it.

I use negs, but I use them sparingly within an appropriate context. The thing newbies don't understand about negs is that there should be a shared understanding that it's NOT serious. It's a way to tease and not a sinciere statement, it's a form of ironic joke.

This is for more advanced users who can read social situations pretty well, it requires some timing and calibration.

I often neg my girlfriend, but she knows I don't mean it and I love her. It's just a game of "what if" and reactions, but that's the thing it's just a game, we both know it. Walking into a situation with someone who don't know me and throw out a neg can easily ruin the good vibes.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Lmao, I am a master at these. I always insult and compliment a person at the same time and they don't know what to think either, it's hilarious. I don't even realize it most of the time either. You can't do it all the time though because insults can still bother them.