Why is she acting weird

[Alpheta]

Iv been with this girl for almost 2 years. Now, the way the relationship is set up is with her ALWAYS initiating. She calls/called me very often.Through out the day. However, me being me i treated her like ****. Said brutal stuff,ignored her and made her extremely insecure.

Just lately another incident came up where she is texting upon texting and calling and I ignore/be an *******.

Now since then, she has slowed down drastically. Like the very next day. Phone calls decreases and messages also. She still initiates though. I realized this and the next time she called, i just casually asked her if she was okay etc (not mentioning anything to do with the situation.) She tells me and i basically sort it out. Tell her i understand etc. All was well. However, the next day it was the same behavior. Texts me but its only once or twice. Not asking me to call her or anything.

The weird thing is when im on the phone shes all lovey wants my kids and weve planned a date this weekend, but the behavior remains the same.

Now, I know when i sense urgency even if someone is trying to make hide it. I don't sense urgency.

 

[Desdinova]

She calls/called me very often.Through out the day. However, me being me i treated her like ****.

Treating women like 5hit isn't the way to keep them attracted. They will eventually get tired of it. If one of her GFs gets an AFC who spoils the hell out of her, she's going to brag about it and it's going to make your GF think twice about her relationship with you.

 

[MrWood]

its about you, not her*
read your OP again..

However, me being me i treated her like ****. Said brutal stuff,ignored her and made her extremely insecure.

Just lately another incident came up where she is texting upon texting and calling and I ignore/be an *******.

if this was your pet dog, would you be surprised that he is "acting weird" and not his usual happy to see you way?

 

[Glassguy]

The best thing for you to do is withdraw a little and see what happens, unless you have done something to her that is making her act like this (and you know if you have). If thats the case, you need to talk to her. If not, pull back. Sounds like its the opposite of what you should do but its exactly what you need to do.

Pull away. She will either come quickly or the end is near. Start spinning plates.

 

[MrWood]

he has already pulled away...

she is texting upon texting and calling and I ignore/be an *******.

 

[dude99]

Iv been with this girl for almost 2 years. Now, the way the relationship is set up is with her ALWAYS initiating. She calls/called me very often.Through out the day. However, me being me i treated her like ****. Said brutal stuff,ignored her and made her extremely insecure.

Just lately another incident came up where she is texting upon texting and calling and I ignore/be an *******.

Now since then, she has slowed down drastically. Like the very next day. Phone calls decreases and messages also. She still initiates though. I realized this and the next time she called, i just casually asked her if she was okay etc (not mentioning anything to do with the situation.) She tells me and i basically sort it out. Tell her i understand etc. All was well. However, the next day it was the same behavior. Texts me but its only once or twice. Not asking me to call her or anything.

The weird thing is when im on the phone shes all lovey wants my kids and weve planned a date this weekend, but the behavior remains the same.

Now, I know when i sense urgency even if someone is trying to make hide it. I don't sense urgency.

She is most likely taking her foot off the gas peddle because she isn't sure where she stands with you and she is probably getting "new" attention from a new guy.

 

[Alpheta]

She is most likely taking her foot off the gas peddle because she isn't sure where she stands with you and she is probably getting "new" attention from a new guy.

she still calls.Its less frequent. It stopped suddenely after i said to her 'stop messaging' she got upset but we talked it out later on that day. However, thereafter it just dipped, literally the next day. When she does talk its like she dont want to get off the phone and sends me nudes when i want. However, that texting and call urgency has dipped. Literally last week.

Personally i feel her mates have told her to quit badgering me.Im not sure though.

 

[dude99]

she still calls.Its less frequent. It stopped suddenely after i said to her 'stop messaging' she got upset but we talked it out later on that day. However, thereafter it just dipped, literally the next day. When she does talk its like she dont want to get off the phone and sends me nudes when i want. However, that texting and call urgency has dipped. Literally last week.

Personally i feel her mates have told her to quit badgering me.Im not sure though.

Sounds like she is getting ready to branch swing on you.

 

[Alpheta]

Sounds like she is getting ready to branch swing on you.

well im gna wait it out. Not gna chase or beg. If she leaves so be it.

 

[dude99]

well im gna wait it out. Not gna chase or beg. If she leaves so be it.

Perfect. Keep your frame

 

[El Payaso]

If you turn into a wuss now, you will seal your fate and the power transfer will be complete.

 

[MrWood]

think she is simply not attracted to you anymore, waiting for you to be a decent dude
your last outburst sealed the deal with her

i honestly believe there is not (or was'nt) another dude first, but now that you have shown YOUR lack of interest...
she is looking at her options/orbiters

move on Sir, you may be the BPD in this "relationship"