Should I cut this chick?

[chris2for]

So I've been dating this girl for about 3 months. We live 2 hours apart. So we hadn't seen each other in two weeks and she said she would be in my city last weekend and she wanted to see me. I wanted to see her as well but I had a lot of work that I needed to get done before I had to leave the country that following Monday.

Despite telling her that I had a lot of work to do that weekend we still agreed to try and see each other on Saturday. I thought I could get all my work done before seeing her but couldn't so I sent her a text saying sorry but I might have to reschedule because of my work and that I still needed to get things done before leaving the country. She replied and said thanks for letting me know but don't worry about the reschedule.

I just got back to the country last night and she sent me a text saying she might have jumped the gun because she thought I was flaking on her again (I asked her to spend 4 days with me on a trip last month and I realized I liked her way too much so soon and got cold feet and canceled it) but that she understood that I had work to do and hoped that I had a safe flight back.

Here's the thing, I just started my own business two years ago and other girls in the past had issues with me doing my work so now I'm wondering if she's going to be like the others. Should I just next her?

 

[Von]

Oneitis....

I live the same situation. Work all the time, flexible hours but they drag to 80hours a week + weekend prep.

Girls dated some tried to control my agenda although I told them I can't on X X days.

This **** will happen A LOT cause a lot of people don't understand Entrepreneurship, being your own boss, startup days.

The girl who likes you won't care.

You overreacting. She came back to you. Take her on a date but this time learn that the man don't change plans last minute no matter how busy he his.

You have to walk the talk. Like in business.

Take her out, bang her at your place, make up for your flake

 

[ThePasses]

You sound too busy as well as too impacted by women from your past who had issues with your lack of available time to consider getting into anything serious or super attention/time consuming. Add on top of that that you're doing the long distance thing as well as canceling on her Just Because and this more than likely isn't gonna work for long.

 

[chris2for]

You sound too busy as well as too impacted by women from your past who had issues with your lack of available time to consider getting into anything serious or super attention/time consuming. Add on top of that that you're doing the long distance thing as well as canceling on her Just Because and this more than likely isn't gonna work for long.

Well the thing is she didn't tell me until late Friday night that she was coming so it was pretty late notice to get things done. Plus she's moving here soon so I don't think the distance will be an issue much longer.

 

[ThePasses]

Well the thing is she didn't tell me until late Friday night that she was coming so it was pretty late notice to get things done.

I was talking about this one

...she thought I was flaking on her again (I asked her to spend 4 days with me on a trip last month and I realized I liked her way too much so soon and got cold feet and canceled it)

not the most recent one before you stepped out of the country for a bit.

Either way, it seems that you want to keep it going with her and since you come off as a rather intelligent cat, I'll go with your judgment that it's worth it. I'll just say put at least 3/5 of the effort that she is putting in to it and outline CLEARLY what your availability is for the Spending Time Together sh*t and that it may change at certain times.

 

[chris2for]

I was talking about this one



not the most recent one before you stepped out of the country for a bit.

Either way, it seems that you want to keep it going with her and since you come off as a rather intelligent cat, I'll go with your judgment that it's worth it. I'll just say put at least 3/5 of the effort that she is putting in to it and outline CLEARLY what your availability is for the Spending Time Together sh*t and that it may change at certain times.

Oh I see what you're saying. Yea I was falling for her too fast and I wasn't quite sure she felt the same so that's why I canceled. I surprised her with a gift and said sorry after that incident and realized how much of an idiot I was for that.

Sounds like with most issues we just need to communicate.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Yes you should cut her because you are wasting her time. You don't have time for this woman.

I'm a firm believer that a man should not flake. Would you give her all these chances if she were flaking on you? One of the most important things a man has is his word. If you can't commit to seeing her when you plan a date, keep your mouth shut and wait until you are 100% certain you can see her before making a date.

 

[dustmuffin]

two hours away? It will never work.....find someone local

 

[EyeBRollin]

two hours away? It will never work.....find someone local

Two hours is local.

 

[MrWood]

instead of flaking on her, you could invite her over to make you a 'samich

 

[dustmuffin]

Two hours is local.

In what universe is a two hour drive to see a woman local?

 

[sharkbeat]

In what universe is a two hour drive to see a woman local?

Los Angeles.

I still won't drive two hours to see a woman though.

 

[chris2for]

Yes you should cut her because you are wasting her time. You don't have time for this woman.

I'm a firm believer that a man should not flake. Would you give her all these chances if she were flaking on you? One of the most important things a man has is his word. If you can't commit to seeing her when you plan a date, keep your mouth shut and wait until you are 100% certain you can see her before making a date.

Again, she asked me the night before we could see each other so there wasn't much of a heads up to get things done. I really wanted to see her and thought I could get everything done that's why I agreed to see her, but obviously it took more time to finish.

 

[EyeBRollin]

In what universe is a two hour drive to see a woman local?

Every major Metro. People here in NYC commute that each way, twice per day from PA, NJ, Connecticut, and Long Island. You can work with someone that lives 2-3 hours away. Also includes but not limited to LA, Chicago, SF Bay, DFW, etc.

And the OP didn't specify drive. Many in major markets sit their ass on the train and read or take a nap for 2 hours.

 

[dustmuffin]

Every major Metro. People here in NYC commute that each way, twice per day from PA, NJ, Connecticut, and Long Island. You can work with someone that lives 2-3 hours away. Also includes but not limited to LA, Chicago, SF Bay, DFW, etc.

And the OP didn't specify drive. Many in major markets sit their ass on the train and read or take a nap for 2 hours.

Wow, I had no clue. Makes me grateful that I have a 20 minute commute by car. I wont date women unless they are less than 45 minutes from me. Most I do date are 30 min or less. My last ltr was long distance. A two hour drive. it didn't end up well.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Wow, I had no clue. Makes me grateful that I have a 20 minute commute by car. I wont date women unless they are less than 45 minutes from me. Most I do date are 30 min or less. My last ltr was long distance. A two hour drive. it didn't end up well.

Interest level cuts through everything. You don't need to see plates or girlfriends more than twice a week. Like I said, since most people in NYC tri-state area are used to over an hour commute (via any mode of travel) to get to work, it's not difficult to hustle chicks from all over the area.

I had a plate who was a good 2 hrs away by two trains. She comes by on demand. Interest level is the only thing that matters.