"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Best way to get my Bosses number??

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It is obvious we are into each other. I am about to have my last day working with her soon. The problem is there are always a ton of people around or she is on the phone..

Should I just say fvck it and go direct.. get her number infront of everybody on my last day? Say something like.. "You know it's my last day.. what's your number so we can text.."

Or slip her a piece of paper that says "Hey I don't want to be soo obvious, here is my number.. text me when I get off work."

.... How would you go about a busy boss situation? .. I know once I get her number It is on... I never really had a slightly older but hott boss attracted, willing and able before. This would be different if I were at a club.. but at work I know you need to be a little discrete so you don't risk anything at the workplace.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Um don't date your boss....Nothing good can come of this. If that isn't obvious to you you need to step back and think of all the negative things that can happen because they will.
 

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Um don't date your boss....Nothing good can come of this. If that isn't obvious to you you need to step back and think of all the negative things that can happen because they will.
She won't be my boss for long.. and the attraction is there.. and she Isn't a club hoe like every other girl I meet..

Slip her the paped with your number on it. But when you hand it to her, hold her eyes with your gaze and grip the paper tight for a sec, so your hands touch. Then wink at her and walk away.

She might text you right away
I like this idea.. playfully hold on to the paper and smile + eye contact.

Other thing I was thinking was to say "Hey Boss... come here for a sec (to my cubicle)... what's your number?"

I guess in this situation the paper close would be legit.. but I'm a strong believer in face to face number closes.. show's I'm not afraid... but then again I'm at work... and she is my boss.

I'm amazed I'm even making a post about this..
 

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Should I just say fvck it and go direct.. get her number infront of everybody on my last day? Say something like.. "You know it's my last day.. what's your number so we can text.."
If she is alone, ask her cell number and tell her that you will call her sometime later to hang out. Either she will give her number to you or she will say "no," which means she does not want to take it further. Either way, you will have the answer.

If there are other people around, you could say "when I leave jobs, I have a habit of keeping former bosses' contact numbers so I can keep in touch with them and for employment references purposes. Would you mind giving me your cell number, please?" For now, one problem is solved and you got her number.

Or slip her a piece of paper that says "Hey I don't want to be soo obvious, here is my number.. text me when I get off work."
She will throw that piece of paper in the nearest trash bin, for sure.
 

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Trust me, that confident eye contact and wink will speak WAY more than saying it.

Asking for her number is only confident.

Giving her the note with a wink is: confident, mysterious, sexy, bold, daring, makes her feel special, and excites her because it's risky, a secret. An office affair.

But do what you want, that's just my opinion
Yeah your right man.. thanks for your help and fast reply...

You know.. when you get excited about a girl.. you can't help but have your mind go into overdrive and sometimes you forget basic concepts like the ones you listed, sexy, bold, mysterious, daring .etc

Seriously though.. thanks. I feel like you just grabbed my @ss from the Ionosphere and put me back on earth.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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If she is alone, ask her cell number and tell her that you will call her sometime later to hang out. Either she will give her number to you or she will say "no," which means she does not want to take it further. Either way, you will have the answer.

If there are other people around, you could say "when I leave jobs, I have a habit of keeping former bosses' contact numbers so I can keep in touch with them and for employment references purposes. Would you mind giving me your cell number, please?" For now, one problem is solved and you got her number.



She will throw that piece of paper in the nearest trash bin, for sure.
I think you missed my point.. the attraction is there, no doubt about it. I'm pretty sure I could announce to everyone that I am getting her number and I'll get it. I just don't want to put her social status or work in jeapordy.
 

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I myself would be direct, but that is just my nature. I just consider the 'paper slipping' stuff to be like middle school stuff. Anyway, verything else has been said. Just go for it. Also, why would being direct jeopardize her job at all? If there is no clear reason other than to avoid awakwardness, just go direct.

Anyway, come back here (tag me pls) and tell us all how it goes. I would like to see how this ends up as this is an experience I have never heard of nor read on SS and I can learn from it.
 

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I myself would be direct, but that is just my nature. I just consider the 'paper slipping' stuff to be like middle school stuff. Anyway, verything else has been said. Just go for it. Also, why would being direct jeopardize her job at all? If there is no clear reason other than to avoid awakwardness, just go direct.

Anyway, come back here (tag me pls) and tell us all how it goes. I would like to see how this ends up as this is an experience I have never heard of nor read on SS and I can learn from it.
I am on lunch now.. here is a quick update..

When I came into work this morning I noticed that she was on the phone arguing with her baby daddy about money that he stole.. and she is still slightly sick.. but none the less she tried to respond to my comments to her despite her bad mood, and she gradually was getting in a better mood the hour I had to work and cheer her up.. now I'm on lunch.

I was going to slip her a note before I left for lunch but she literally had a group of people surround her and even slipping her a note would be obvious and awkward.

I am going to write her a note while I finish my lunch and slip it to her when I get back.

Something like.. Hey "bosses name" I'm not going to be working here for long.. text me sometime.

Never had to put soo much effort into giving a number lol.
 

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It is obvious we are into each other. I am about to have my last day working with her soon. The problem is there are always a ton of people around or she is on the phone..

Should I just say fvck it and go direct.. get her number infront of everybody on my last day? Say something like.. "You know it's my last day.. what's your number so we can text.."

Or slip her a piece of paper that says "Hey I don't want to be soo obvious, here is my number.. text me when I get off work."

.... How would you go about a busy boss situation? .. I know once I get her number It is on... I never really had a slightly older but hott boss attracted, willing and able before. This would be different if I were at a club.. but at work I know you need to be a little discrete so you don't risk anything at the workplace.
Asking her in front of everyone will show that you have a pair.

Leave out the "so we can text," part.
 

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I saw her in the parkinglot and I went up to her.. I said.. "Hey boss.. I got something for you.." she said "what is this?" I said "I drew you a picture.. I hope you like it. (I didn't draw anything) The note just said..

"Hey 'bosses name'.. I'm not going to work here for long so give me a text sometime"

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She smiled fast and put the note in her purse.. she knew what was up..

Then I walked away casually.. everything status quo back at work.

Good good.. now I just wait to see when she texts me.. prolly when I officially leave the company.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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While working my boss was complaining about Verizon.. asking why she couldn't send text messages.. I told her to restart her phone... she did and had her boss and others looked at her phone to see why it was saying that her phone was offline.. I'm not sure if it was me she was trying to text but she made a big deal about her messanger not working..

I guess that sort of thing actually happens.. I'll let you all know if she actually gets around to texting me before after I leave the company... I do think it was me she was trying to text.. but who knows.
 

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Seems to me you heavily pedestalize this woman. You should probably work on that, regardless of the outcome
 
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