Dating for 40+ guys

[The Duke]

I have been out of the dating scene for almost 5years and recently got back into the swing of things. For those of you in your early 40's, is it any different than when you were 35 or so? How about the supply of talent to pick from?

I noticed that I feel out of place at the bars/clubs where the mid 20's crowd is the majority. That wasn't so when I was in my early 30's. My tolerance level for bs is definitely a lot lower.

There seems to be more females doing internet dating than ever before, but the game is still the same.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I have been out of the dating scene for almost 5years and recently got back into the swing of things. For those of you in your early 40's, is it any different than when you were 35 or so? How about the supply of talent to pick from?

I noticed that I feel out of place at the bars/clubs where the mid 20's crowd is the majority. That wasn't so when I was in my early 30's. My tolerance level for bs is definitely a lot lower.

There seems to be more females doing internet dating than ever before, but the game is still the same.

Oh, I don't even think the guru's would spend a lot of time in the clubs where mid 20's was the age unless they were a local celebrity or well known. You will be in clubs where most people are 30 or over. You can still pick up 25 years olds in real life activities.

As you get older you get more mature and realistic, you gotta tone it back a little and have fun. In my opinion the dating pool for 40+ is 30-50 or so. I wouldn't waste too much time on 21-30, but if you picks some up have fun with it. Develop your style and physique so you are attractive to most women in your pool. You can easily beat your looks that you had in your young 30's if you work hard at it.

There are a lot of 40+ guys here though, that insist on dating around the 25 years mark, they do the plates and working it like some geniuses, if that makes you happy do that. There is a lot of information here to help you get on the correct path for whatever you desire.

 

[ZTIME]

I have been out of the dating scene for almost 5years and recently got back into the swing of things. For those of you in your early 40's, is it any different than when you were 35 or so? How about the supply of talent to pick from?

I noticed that I feel out of place at the bars/clubs where the mid 20's crowd is the majority. That wasn't so when I was in my early 30's. My tolerance level for bs is definitely a lot lower.

There seems to be more females doing internet dating than ever before, but the game is still the same.

For me at 45, it's quite a bit different then in your 20s and 30s.

Internet can totally get you laid but the talent level leaves a bit to be desired. Also a lot of women in the 28-30 range online have kids, debt, past boyfriend issues, etc.

Dance clubs are very loud and full of young people. Nothing wrong there if it's what you're looking for.

I do find that my social circles provide a lot of opportunities. (Events at "higher end" bars and restaurants, home bar-b-q's, beach events, etc). These seem to offer better quality women and easier approach opportunities.

Also for me, the dog beach and park works well as rover is very social and offers a lot of conversation openings.

That being said.........Some of these bi*ches are 50 shades of crazy!!

 

[Bible_Belt]

I've met a total of one woman my age who doesn't act old, frumpy, and boring, and isn't fat. She even has kids, but they don't dominate her personality. That's my problem with single mothers. It's not the kids. It's the way their lives become go to work, take care of kids, and nothing else.

 

[Augustus_McCrae]

I'm 58. The age range I can pull is 35 to low 50's. I don't even attempt to pick up women in bars and I haven't tried online dating.

I joined some meet up groups and that's worked pretty well for me. They share a common database, so I get emails about upcoming events (live music, dancing, food, etc). I also receive emails about speed dating events that needed more men to attend. I've been to 2 of those and wound up with 2 women I've seen. I've also approached and dated women I met in the laundry at my apt and in the drugstore.

Staying in good physical shape is key. I look better physically than a lot of guys in their 30's. Make no mistake, women immediately look at your body, your face and the way you carry yourself. Within a minute, they will decide if you make the "I would fvck him" list. The issue I'm facing now is skin tone and the amount of sun exposure I've had. So, start taking care of your skin as well as you can. If your hair is thin, keep it short. I get mine cut with a 2 1/2. Mine is almost totally white now and I don't die it. Interestingly, a lot of women like the white hair.

It seems like all the women I meet have some type of baggage. It's just a question of how big the suitcase is.

Spinning plates is huge. I have 3 right now. The main one is always available and DTF. Strangely enough, I've been able to turn an ex GF into a plate. The only reason I tried is because of her looks (a 9 in face and body, 44 but looks 35), also lives out of town. I got with her late Saturday night and Sunday morning at her place. Drove back and had the other one stay at my apt Sunday night. And yes, because of staying In shape and lifting, 2 times with the old GF, 3 with the one at my apt, no viagra needed. Working out is a must guys. Plate 3 is new, great first date, second date coming up.

And I always keep approaching and going to new events. I'm going to a wine/karaoke (strange combo right?) thing tomorrow.

-Augustus-

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

Life has never been better and to my surprise the sex is the best I've ever had. I agree with the previous poster about staying in shape. In our age group it makes you stand out. The second thing for me was to realise I can be sexy even at 46. If you feel it you act it. Women wonder why you are so confident and want to know more. I don't do clubs but there are always social things going on wherever you live. At our age direct eye contact, a little kino and a bit of swagger can be all it takes.

 

[Augustus_McCrae]

Life has never been better and to my surprise the sex is the best I've ever had. I agree with the previous poster about staying in shape. In our age group it makes you stand out. The second thing for me was to realise I can be sexy even at 46. If you feel it you act it. Women wonder why you are so confident and want to know more. I don't do clubs but there are always social things going on wherever you live. At our age direct eye contact, a little kino and a bit of swagger can be all it takes.

Confidence, eye contact, kino. Agreed 100%.

Many women I know have told me that the guys they previously dated were too timid and had no idea how to take the lead. So when they meet a guy who is confident and makes it clear what he wants, they can find that irresistible. Many times I look at a woman with the thought of "I want to fvck you".... And most of them respond positively to that.

-Augustus-