"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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More proof that "rules" are for betas

Poon King

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What have I always told men? I've constantly said to STOP being a submissive, supplicating faggot in all areas of life. STOP molding yourself into what you think others want. STOP making validation and approval from women your "everything". STOP following other people's "rules" and live by YOUR values.

Why do I say this? Because it's the alpha mindset. And what does the alpha mindset get you? It gets you power. Why is power important? I think the answer is obvious.

More proof I've been right all along:
http://thepopularman.com/guys-attracting-women-boils-down-to-this-one-factor/
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Who Dares Win

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Some say the most alpha men are in prison, because they didn't even respect the law.
Technically they are in jail because they got caught or because they failed.

The biggest criminals that succeed and didnt get caught are the ones in the european commision and parliament and are ruling over us.

I mean whats more alpha than being at the top while being virtually untouchable from the law while its your own group to make it.
 

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Technically they are in jail because they got caught or because they failed.

The biggest criminals that succeed and didnt get caught are the ones in the european commision and parliament and are ruling over us.

I mean whats more alpha than being at the top while being virtually untouchable from the law while its your own group to make it.
Untouchable from the law? Last time I checked the law applies to them as well. I can't imagine a more beta position than to be a politician, if they speak against the masses they're screwed. They don't hold nearly as much power as some people think, it's impossible as long as there's democracy. The majority rule, politicians are just puppets to serve us.

Criminals are in jail because they failed at following the law and got caught breaking it. The law exists to prevent people from doing damage.
 

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I'm convinced that what truly sets apart a high-value confident man is his courage and willingness to operate from a position of uniqueness rather than conformity.

Think for yourself...
Risk...
Fail...
Good summary.

Authenticity = Alpha
Conformity = Beta

The more of a conformist a person is, the more weak they appear. The beta invented the phrase: "But everyone else is doing it". They also invented the word "normal". The alpha doesn't care about what's normal. The alpha cares about his goals. And its not about breaking the law or being a "bad ass". Its about having your own brain and not being a sheep.

As I always say.. Alpha is a mindset. It's the mindset of being your own boss. Its not a list of macho behaviors or PUA rules.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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What have I always told men? I've constantly said to STOP being a submissive, supplicating faggot in all areas of life. STOP molding yourself into what you think others want. STOP making validation and approval from women your "everything". STOP following other people's "rules" and live by YOUR values.

Why do I say this? Because it's the alpha mindset. And what does the alpha mindset get you? It gets you power. Why is power important? I think the answer is obvious.

More proof I've been right all along:
http://thepopularman.com/guys-attracting-women-boils-down-to-this-one-factor/
i can dig it. a great example is my friend. He thinks the only way to get women is if he is 5% body fat, big, nice car, and has perfect facial features. So he goes and attempts to have all of these things. Sure he has a nice car, and is pretty lean but he has so much insecurity the guy never gets girls. Even if a girl talks to him, he shys away because he thinks he isnt good enough.


strong mindset. do what you want. and you don't have to worry about anything in the women aspect of your life.
 

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i can dig it. a great example is my friend. He thinks the only way to get women is if he is 5% body fat, big, nice car, and has perfect facial features. So he goes and attempts to have all of these things. Sure he has a nice car, and is pretty lean but he has so much insecurity the guy never gets girls. Even if a girl talks to him, he shys away because he thinks he isnt good enough.


strong mindset. do what you want. and you don't have to worry about anything in the women aspect of your life.
So with the right psychology he will be nailing them front, left and center.
 

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Good summary.

Authenticity = Alpha
Conformity = Beta

The more of a conformist a person is, the more weak they appear. The beta invented the phrase: "But everyone else is doing it". They also invented the word "normal". The alpha doesn't care about what's normal. The alpha cares about his goals. And its not about breaking the law or being a "bad ass". Its about having your own brain and not being a sheep.

As I always say.. Alpha is a mindset. It's the mindset of being your own boss. Its not a list of macho behaviors or PUA rules.
That one I can agree with.
 

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Great damn discussion guys.

I've always been under the impression that women are attracted to looks, personality and finances, and a guy needs to be at least a 6 or 7 out of 10 in these areas, to build up a quality string of plates and be considered "attractive".

Now, you can be an "attractive" guy, but that doesn't mean the girl will sleep with you, as a lot of women have personal taste, and this "taste" can discriminate based on race, on creed, on sexuality, and on lifestyle.

For example:

- Most black women won't fvck white men.

- Some women will not fvck a guy shorter than them.

- Some women will not fvck a guy that's bisexual.

- Some women will not only FVCK a guy that's bisexual, but they are turned on by it.

- Some women will fvck a criminal/thug/bum/loser.

- Some women will not want a criminal/thug/bum/loser anywhere near her.

- Some women prefer biker boys.

- Some women prefer Wallstreet guys.

What I'm saying is that after you have become attractive, your job is really to go out and just play the numbers because it's literally RANDOM on which girl happens to believe you are her personal "taste".

I really do not believe an alpha male or a beta male exists, because there's no situation in life where anybody is 100% either or. What I believe you have is a guy that's attractive (based on the looks, personality and finances metrics), who also fits a girl's personal taste. That's the guy that's going to get laid by that individual girl. Now, a relationship becomes something totally different, as you have to add layers to the procedure in terms of compatibility and managing the ups/down/ebbs/flows of the woman's individual personality, character, and baggage.

What you guys call "power".....is nothing but a combination of a guy that's attractive and a woman's personal taste. The "power" he has is over her pvssy as he's making it wet lol. Understand that bums and losers are some women's personal taste, that idiot has NO power whatsoever, other than the power over that individual woman's pvssy getting wet over his bum a.ss lol.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm convinced that what truly sets apart a high-value confident man is his courage and willingness to operate from a position of uniqueness rather than conformity.

Think for yourself...
Risk...
Fail...
This is because historically 80% of women reproduced but only 40% of men did. So "real men" have to go out on their own and go against the group to have a probability of passing on their genes. Men who go with the flow go extinct without fail.

I really do not believe an alpha male or a beta male exists, because there's no situation in life where anybody is 100% either
False. Put Tom Brady and Carrot Top in a room together. Brady is Alpha and Carrot is Beta. Alpha is a relative term meaning "better". We are not all the same. Some of us are bigger, stronger, kinder, smarter, harder working, more generous and more talented than others. As a matter of fact I do think I'm better than everybody else (in my chosen areas of expertise).
 

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Stupid rules are for stupid people!
 

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I'm convinced that what truly sets apart a high-value confident man is his courage and willingness to operate from a position of uniqueness rather than conformity.

Think for yourself...
Risk...
Fail...
Good summary.

Authenticity = Alpha
Conformity = Beta

The more of a conformist a person is, the more weak they appear. The beta invented the phrase: "But everyone else is doing it". They also invented the word "normal". The alpha doesn't care about what's normal. The alpha cares about his goals. And its not about breaking the law or being a "bad ass". Its about having your own brain and not being a sheep.

As I always say.. Alpha is a mindset. It's the mindset of being your own boss. Its not a list of macho behaviors or PUA rules.
Good posts.

Think of it this way. People go to colleges, get degrees, find jobs, work their a$$e$ off 8 a.m. to 4 p.m. for the rest of their lives. That's normal.

Alphas like Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg go to colleges like Harvard, think they can do better than what they study there, drop out of college, venture out on their own and start companies like Microsoft, Apple, Facebook, and make billions in no time.
 

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Simple & trivial question: Is a man who is deliberately sitting alone in a room full of people alpha or beta? Some people might say he's alpha because he doesn't care about what's normal and what other people think. Others might say he's a beta foreveraloner with social anxiety. It seems to me that looks & likeability play a major role when people call a man "alpha" or "beta".

Example 1
Guy who hates lone wolf: Look at that beta phagg** over there, sitting alone because he got no friends.

Infatuated girl:
Don't talk like that! He's simply unique & I like quiet, aloof guys.


Example 2
Guy who admires lone wolf: That quiet dude over there doesn't even look at ordinary people like us. Dude is a real boss.

Indifferent girl:
I just think he's weird.
 

daddymonsterpoodle

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If we believed what we were told I would never get laid. I am 46 (too old),
6'7" (too tall), not classically handsome (too ugly). I don't have a manly job (early childhood teacher), my house is a crappy DIY project (low status) and I don't have lots of money.
SFW! I believe I am a sexy mother****er. That makes me a sexy mother****er. I am getting more sex now than any other time in my life. I have women wanting to be my slave! It is because I am proud to be a man and act like one.

**** the rules about what is attractive or necessary to be successful.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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