"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Do I like her or just my ego?

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I cannot tell if I actually like this girl or its just my ego. The story is the following, I met this girl, was not very into her at all, she was, but since I was bored and had no other girls around I kind of starting banging her. I became colder by the time and I saw her coming out of her house with a guy. After that moment I cannot take her out of my head.She became from not caring to being a priotity that I only want her. Is it because I am jealous or that It actually made me realize I liked her? How can I find out? At the beginning did not spend even 5 min thinking of her and now I really care. Should I go for her to see or leave it there? It really borders me and cannot figure it out...


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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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tilger said:
I was bored and had no other girls around I kind of starting banging her...

How can I find out?
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When you only have one option, it's the best option. Even if it's a crappy one.

The best way to find out is to get other options. If I had to guess though I'd say you don't genuinely like her, it's just a jealously/ego thing.
 
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This is clearly a case of your ego. Or more accurately, a collection of a few subconscious influence techniques pointed out in Cialdini's famous book.

(e.g. scarcity, competition, you now feel she's "judging you" inferior to him, your assumptions about how she felt for you may be wrong (gasp!))

But more importantly, try and see this as a POWERFUL learning opportunity.

How YOU FEEL NOW is how a girl who is "kind of" into you will feel if she sees you with another girl.

Get it?
 
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tilger said:
I cannot tell if I actually like this girl or its just my ego. The story is the following, I met this girl, was not very into her at all, she was, but since I was bored and had no other girls around I kind of starting banging her. I became colder by the time and I saw her coming out of her house with a guy. After that moment I cannot take her out of my head.She became from not caring to being a priotity that I only want her. Is it because I am jealous or that It actually made me realize I liked her? How can I find out? At the beginning did not spend even 5 min thinking of her and now I really care. Should I go for her to see or leave it there? It really borders me and cannot figure it out...


thank you
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10 bucks says if she dumped the guy and came after you, your interest in her would drop faster than enron stock after the tech crash.

Dude this is clearly your ego. You want what you can't have.
 
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tilger said:
I cannot tell if I actually like this girl or its just my ego. The story is the following, I met this girl, was not very into her at all, she was, but since I was bored and had no other girls around I kind of starting banging her. I became colder by the time and I saw her coming out of her house with a guy. After that moment I cannot take her out of my head.She became from not caring to being a priotity that I only want her. Is it because I am jealous or that It actually made me realize I liked her? How can I find out? At the beginning did not spend even 5 min thinking of her and now I really care. Should I go for her to see or leave it there? It really borders me and cannot figure it out...

thank you
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You didn't DGAF until you saw her with another guy. Why do you even need to ask other than to try and reduce the butt-hurt?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I'm generally turned off when I see or hear about women with other guys myself, this may be an ego/competitive thing with you though.
One of the best things you can do for yourself in dating is keep your ego out of it imo.
 
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