"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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they don't call me backbreaker for nothing Never pick a fight with people who buy ink by the barrel

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i'm a pretty nice guy. **** with me, REALLY **** with me if you want and i can, and will ujtterlly destroy someone, without having to lift a finger


who also knows literally everything about you from the ****ing nose sururty you had that you hope no one notices on your left foot to the fact that you abuse xanax lol


this ***** thought it was a ****ing game lol. i didn't say **** when she didn't pay for the 5k website we built for her. i didnt' say **** when she called the police and told them i was 'threatening her"


i just made a website with her full name as the URL and put about..50 pages of **** from the fact that she hates her parents, cheated on her husband, laughs at her boss who orders pornos at work, hates her best friend, wishes her older brother would die, and that she's a cheap skate ***** lol on the website.


it didn't take 1 day for her to find it and call me calling me every name in the book. now instead of me giving you a 75% discount, now ***** you paying the full ****ing amount. and she paid it. she hates my guts but dammit i just went and bought my wife some clohtes and i got 2 k to **** with this weekend that literally came from no where lol. **** that ***** lol.


in 33 years i've learned one thing. women don't understand niceness or kindness. one thing. ruthlessness. my wife knows when i say she is either home at 12am or or she can sleep outside, i'm literally not joking.better stop by target and buy some camping gear lol
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm all for stuff like this when it comes to my personal life. Fvck with me, I'll fvck you back 3 times as hard. But in business? That could potentially ruin your reputation.

i didn't say **** when she didn't pay for the 5k website we built for her. i didnt' say **** when she called the police and told them i was 'threatening her"
Why did she have the website before she paid for it? I'm guessing she called the police because you were hounding her for payment. Cash before goods is the way it works. It sounds like you practically gave her the site and suggested a donation of 5k.

Bad business only creates more bad business.
 

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(Backbreaker is one of my favorite people on here, so I mean this constructively....)

He's lucky he didn't get sued for libel, slander, intentional infliction of emotional distress, cyber-bullying, or anything else. When someone owes you money, get a lawyer and sue. Or better yet, write your own damn complaint and sue them without a lawyer. Don't commit a revenge crime to extort your money back.
 

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Why did she have the website before she paid for it? I'm guessing she called the police because you were hounding her for payment. Cash before goods is the way it works. It sounds like you practically gave her the site and suggested a donation of 5k.

Bad business only creates more bad business.
Agree in theory but this isnt't really how real world works though.

It's quite rare to be paid entirely in advance of work performed, especially for B2B services. Although doing all the work when there is a relatively large fee involved ($5k) is a bit of a schoolboy error.

I have a large contract coming up ($15k) and I've agreed with the client that he will be billed in stages. This is probably the best approach for larger peices of work.
 

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Agree in theory but this isnt't really how real world works though.

It's quite rare to be paid entirely in advance of work performed, especially for B2B services. Although doing all the work when there is a relatively large fee involved ($5k) is a bit of a schoolboy error.

I have a large contract coming up ($15k) and I've agreed with the client that he will be billed in stages. This is probably the best approach for larger peices of work.
I don't think he even made a contract, if he had he could have his money with some pluses on it if he had.

what I think was he jsut take her word for it, and unfortunaly you can't take people work for anything, get everything you can on paper, better be safe then sorry later
 

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I don't think he even made a contract, if he had he could have his money with some pluses on it if he had.

what I think was he jsut take her word for it, and unfortunaly you can't take people work for anything, get everything you can on paper, better be safe then sorry later
If you don't have a contract when $5k is at stake then you're stupid. Either that or OP is simply not declaring his income to the government and thinks not invoicing clients will help, which doesn't really make sense either.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I"m more the type who would drive by her place, for the rest of her life, putting holes in tires, windows and body metal. I believe in getting back at LEAST 10 to one and you are fool to let anyone (especially a woman) get into you for even 10% that much money. Make them pay an upfront fee, always and more as you do more work.
 
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