Frame is about how you see yourself and the world.

[Reykhel]

Well how do you see yourself and the world??

You see some threads here on so suave and it is clear that the OP is holding himself in
an inferior place and he is obviously placing the female in a superior place. In other words, what is common knowledge is that he is placing her on a pedestal. But what's often ignored is the fact that if he is placing her on a pedestal, then where the hell is he placed.....

.....as the dog? as the servant? the messenger? the kisses?

Gentlemen, we are here on so suave to be DJ's..........but whatever that means, eh?

What does it mean? what does it mean to you?

What FRAME are you carrying??

If you are a KING.......are you acting like a KING?

If you are a BOSS......are you acting like a BOSS?

If you are the MAN.....are you acting like the MAN?

It's all well and good acting like the KING or the BOSS or the MAN but what fvcking actions are you takin to become the KING or the BOSS or the MAN???? Seriously?? Tricks will get you so far....

What are you doing to make you the KING?

Me? I'm humble......I don't want to be the KING. I'm happy being THE PRINCE.

and I ask myself often......would a PRINCE accept that? Should a PRINCE expect more?
does a PRINCE care for the opinion of a peasant?

.....are you asking yourself similar questions or.....

Perish the thought.....you are asking...."how should I treat my queen?"

 

[Serenity]

My frame? I see myself as I am and the world as it is to the best of my ability. I rely on the context of any given situation, which changes pretty much at all times. Sometimes I'm the boss, sometimes I'm not the boss. Sometimes it's wiser to do one way and sometimes the opposite might be better.

I practice my life to intuitively know when to do what and how to do it. I'm the problem solver, I'm someone other people can rely on and because of my resourcefulness I naturally become a leader. I value women, but I do not put them above me because I don't devalue myself.

I'm not a prince or a king, I'm just a simple human being. Some might call this humility, but I don't have the arrogance to fully claim that. That's part of the humility. I don't measure my success in how much I know, I measure it in how well I can learn.

Anyone can think highly of themselves, some can think highly of others and few are thought highly of by others. Who do you think holds the greatest power of those? Does the peasant care for the opinion of a prince who doesn't care for the opinion of a peasant?

 

[Reykhel]

My frame? I see myself as I am and the world as it is to the best of my ability. I rely on the context of any given situation, which changes pretty much at all times. Sometimes I'm the boss, sometimes I'm not the boss. Sometimes it's wiser to do one way and sometimes the opposite might be better.

I practice my life to intuitively know when to do what and how to do it. I'm the problem solver, I'm someone other people can rely on and because of my resourcefulness I naturally become a leader. I value women, but I do not put them above me because I don't devalue myself.

I'm not a prince or a king, I'm just a simple human being. Some might call this humility, but I don't have the arrogance to fully claim that. That's part of the humility. I don't measure my success in how much I know, I measure it in how well I can learn.

Anyone can think highly of themselves, some can think highly of others and few are thought highly of by others. Who do you think holds the greatest power of those? Does the peasant care for the opinion of a prince who doesn't care for the opinion of a peasant?

I admire what you say and I believe you are talking genuinely. You are right in a way, sometimes we need to adapt and adjust our "post" so to speak to acclimatize to the situation. I do completely agree that we must adapt and sometime we must be Dale Carnegie and sometimes we must be the 48 Laws of Power. Please don't misunderstand when I say I am a Prince that I am assuming a rather false identity. Well, perhaps I may be in a way........

But.....I grew in a rather dysfunctional environment and perhaps I needed to hold onto some identity. I do see myself as a PRINCE who has had to overcome adversity and I will tell you something how you can tell a PRINCE from a fake.....

You strip somebody of all of their wealth........you throw them into prison and then you see if they still act like a PRINCE.................then you will see how that man carry's himself.......

Ask me do I still see myself as a PRINCE......

 

[guru1000]

Take a moment and reflect on these two questions:

1) Who am I?

2) How was my identity formed?

For most, when you tear down the veneers of identity, you will find that you are an amalgamated sum of your friends, family, upbringing, education, social media, environment. Very little is authentically you. You gentlemen, have been covertly coerced to believe you are you. In fact, very little of your free will is free. And so, your will and future decisions may be further influenced after reading this post.

How many of you are truly free willed when it comes to women? Disrespect, next! Flake, next! Didn’t call back, next! Didn’t tie her shoe, next! Where did you learn these tricks? Is that your or SoSuave’s influence?

Don't allow others try to shame you with the word “authenticity.” How could one be truly authentic under the many impetuses and influences engulfing us? If you want to be authentic, strip away the constructs that have binded you to who you think you are, and BE who you want to BE now. You want to be a king, be a king. You want to be a prince, be a prince. You want to be prince in one context, and king in another, do both. That is authenticity. As long as it arises from your own true volition, unencumbered by constructs.

I’m a Guru. I don’t know much about gurus. Never watched or read about gurus. Was never educated about gurus or how they are supposed to act. But, I know what a guru is by definition. So I elect to be one. Even better, as a Guru, I can make up my own rules. My first rule is I have no identity:

My identity is my audience’s. I tend to my audience. If I’m out with a girl and she needs Alpha, I will give her Alpha. If she needs Beta, I give her Beta. If she needs indifference, I give her that as well. My identity serves to win the audience. So that does that make me a fraud or authentically flexible? That’s the beauty of it, my free will allows me to choose my perspective, unaffected by the shame, criticism, and even censorship of indoctrinated social slaves .

Be careful with rigid identities friends: They can be helpful just as much as destructive. I much rather flow like palm trees in the hurricane, and watch the oaks fall.

 

[Serenity]

I admire what you say and I believe you are talking genuinely. You are right in a way, sometimes we need to adapt and adjust our "post" so to speak to acclimatize to the situation. I do completely agree that we must adapt and sometime we must be Dale Carnegie and sometimes we must be the 48 Laws of Power. Please don't misunderstand when I say I am a Prince that I am assuming a rather false identity. Well, perhaps I may be in a way........

But.....I grew in a rather dysfunctional environment and perhaps I needed to hold onto some identity. I do see myself as a PRINCE who has had to overcome adversity and I will tell you something how you can tell a PRINCE from a fake.....

You strip somebody of all of their wealth........you throw them into prison and then you see if they still act like a PRINCE.................then you will see how that man carry's himself.......

Ask me do I still see myself as a PRINCE......

It doesn't matter how you see yourself, it is without meaning if nobody else agrees. You're onto something right though. How you act... Your actions determines who you are, not your thoughts of yourself. Others see your actions, not your thoughts. I have witnessed a few people who believe they're kings or princes, but they act nothing like it. What I think of someone is not determined by what they want me to believe about them. It's my judgement of their actions that determines who they are to me.

I'm usually very cautious about telling people who I am, I'd rather have them see for themselves. In my experience the people who always thinks the best of themselves are blind to all the bad they do. The people who always thinks the worst of themselves are blind to all the good they do. The people who doesn't waste their energy thinking about themselves notice how others actually think about them. With that type of information you can really impact how you are perceived. Not by altering others perceptions of your actions, but by altering your own actions to be perceived differently.

I think that's what you mean. You're not a prince simply by thinking you are, you have to act like one to be viewed as one. Without being viewed by others as one you are not a prince, you would just be delusional.

Oh btw, I have had a great deal of dysfunction while growing up as well. I try not to use it as an excuse to grant myself a handicap, I put myself in the minds of those who can't claim that disadvantage.

 

[Reykhel]

Take a moment and reflect on these two questions:

1) Who am I?

2) How was my identity formed?

For most, when you tear down the veneers of identity, you will find that you are an amalgamated sum of your friends, family, upbringing, education, social media, environment. Very little is authentically you. You gentlemen, have been covertly coerced to believe you are you. In fact, very little of your free will is free. And so, your will and future decisions may be further influenced after reading this post.

How many of you are truly free willed when it comes to women? Disrespect, next! Flake, next! Didn’t call back, next! Didn’t tie her shoe, next! Where did you learn these tricks? Is that your or SoSuave’s influence?

Don't allow others try to shame you with the word “authenticity.” How could one be truly authentic under the many impetuses and influences engulfing us? If you want to be authentic, strip away the constructs that have binded you to who you think you are, and BE who you want to BE now. You want to be a king, be a king. You want to be a prince, be a prince. You want to be prince in one context, and king in another, do both. That is authenticity. As long as it arises from your own volition.

I’m a Guru. I don’t know much about gurus. Never watched or read about gurus. Was never educated about gurus or how they are supposed to act. But, I know what a guru is by definition. So I elect to be one. Even better, as a Guru, I can make up my own rules. My first rule is I have no identity:

My identity is my audience’s. I tend to my audience. If I’m out with a girl and she needs Alpha, I will give her Alpha. If she needs Beta, I give her Beta. If she needs indifference, I give her that as well. My identity serves to win the audience. So that does that make me a fraud or authentically flexible? That’s the beauty of it, my free will allows me to choose my perspective, unaffected by the shame, criticism, and even censorship of indoctrinated social slaves .

Be careful with rigid identities friends: They can be helpful just as much as destructive. I much rather flow like palm trees in the hurricane, and watch the oaks fall.

Yeah @guru1000 I fvcking agree and get that. You know I had a conversation very similar with someone tonight who was trying to say that a friend of mine was a little bluebell. My response was that every thing is not what it seems. In other words there's a lot of kids who would be going around saying blue pill ****e just to get the girl into bed or whatever. And that's what I'm saying.....we can't always be saying alpha and beta because sometimes Machiavelli comes into play and you have to play the game.....

.......you know what I mean?

 

[Reykhel]

It doesn't matter how you see yourself, it is without meaning if nobody else agrees. You're onto something right though. How you act... Your actions determines who you are, not your thoughts of yourself. Others see your actions, not your thoughts. I have witnessed a few people who believe they're kings or princes, but they act nothing like it. What I think of someone is not determined by what they want me to believe about them. It's my judgement of their actions that determines who they are to me.

I'm usually very cautious about telling people who I am, I'd rather have them see for themselves. In my experience the people who always thinks the best of themselves are blind to all the bad they do. The people who always thinks the worst of themselves are blind to all the good they do. The people who doesn't waste their energy thinking about themselves notice how others actually think about them. With that type of information you can really impact how you are perceived. Not by altering others perceptions of your actions, but by altering your own actions to be perceived differently.

I think that's what you mean. You're not a prince simply by thinking you are, you have to act like one to be viewed as one. Without being viewed by others as one you are not a prince, you would just be delusional.

Oh btw, I have had a great deal of dysfunction while growing up as well. I try not to use it as an excuse to grant myself a handicap, I put myself in the minds of those who can't claim that disadvantage.

I think you may completely misunderstand me.

Just today I talked to my girl about unconditional love and how that can rid the likes of resentment and bad feeling.

 

[Reykhel]

 

[bigneil]

Your frame can be influenced by people in your environment.

If you have someone who tells you that you are great every day, you will start to believe it.

Likewise, if you have someone who tells you that you suck every day, you will start to believe that also.

There are many, many people in the world who deliberately seek out men who are great and tell them that they suck. They are called Feminists.