Having trouble setting up dates

[Konada]

This is a recent problem I've been running into, I get the 'yes' but when I try to set up logistics I get the ole runaround.

Me: Sat/Sun 8pm. Which day works best for you?
Her: I'm packed fully this week sorry, how about next?
Me: Sure. I'm free wed/thurs next week.
Her: Actually I prefer weekends since I'm pretty tired after interning on weekdays.
Me: Ok. So which day Sat/Sun works for you?

<no reply>

 

[skinnyguy]

You're showing low value by showing that much availability. Next time just say "ok hit me up when you're free". If she doesn't, she's doing you a favor because you're not wasting time on low interest chicks.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Instadates, problem solved.

 

[Von]

Write: " I am going to this X place at x time, join me"

I always banged them after. You have to lead, and pick à fun place

 

[SmooveMooves]

I try not to schedule dates no more then 2 days in advance. Preferably the next day. Weeks in between and its to much build-up and pressure and women usually end up flaking.

I know this causes a lot of logistic issues in of itself. So if she declines, smack the tennis ball in her court with 'Okay, raincheck, let me know when your free.'

Let it sit, brew, after 2 weeks if you got radio silence hit her up again if you've got nooo other options. At night. Late. She if she wants to grab a quick drink, or even a (cheap) bite. Do this on a non pressure day. (Basically not Fri. Sat.) If you get nowhere again, let it sit once more.

After a month if she doesn't hit you up delete her number. If she does hit you up within a month give her one more chance. Whatever she texts, ignore it, immediately schedule a date the following text. Anything other than yes means delete her number.

3 strikes and your out.

I give women 3 tries and that much time because been plenty of times I was shot down initially, only to end up piping her down from a lonely text.

 

[RangerMIke]

You're showing low value by showing that much availability. Next time just say "ok hit me up when you're free". If she doesn't, she's doing you a favor because you're not wasting time on low interest chicks.

Yep. I meet a woman like this recently. We had a couple of dates... no sex yet. Trying to get the third and she has been nothing but trouble.

This is how you handle it. You ask her out, and she will not respond or make excuses, just tell her to let you know when she has time and completely walk away. No calls, texts... nothing. Go out with women that are not going to make you work.

She is either playing games, or she is not interested. If it's game p[laying and she likes you, she will throw in the towel and make herself available... if she is not interested, fine you are moving on. You have to put her out of your mind, you should consider her dead to you unless she contacts you first.

 

[MrWood]

i find asking "sat or sun?" never works.
be direct "I am taking us to/meet met at XYZ club/dinner at 8pm Saturday, see you then"

having a woman choose the day tells her you are avail and cannot take the lead

 

[JohnChops]

I like simple. No games.

Me: what's your schedule looking like this week ?
Her: I'm free Monday, Wednesday and Saturday.
Me: great let's go to "place" , pick you up at 8 on Saturday (whenever you're free and she's free )

Simple.

 

[fastlife]

I might get a little flack from some of the older DJ's (who aren't going toe to toe with the information age). But I push for meet ups hella hard ASAP. I rarely plan anything more than a day or two in advance.

In person, I'll get them to agree to a date (if that night doesn't work)--any date: Coffee tomorrow, Sea World in two months, doesn't really matter--just a vague premise of me and her actually hanging out and then I'll flip it via text into something more convenient. But I'm guessing this was text exchange? I usually play it something like this (if I really want to see the girl):

With girls I've had a solid fact-to-face interaction with:
Fastlife: Come over OR Omw text me your address (This is a high investment fake. Don't expect it--though some will)
Her: Lol you wish
Fastlife: Drinks tomorrow* Autocorrect (Slightly lower investment)
Her: I'm busy tomorrow (Or she'll agree or offer her availability)
Fastlife: Going out with some friends friday. You should come thru. Make sure it wasn't the alcohol
Her: (Super low investment--she'll probably agree/qualify herself)
Fastlife: Send me a picture. Don't want you to embarrass me (High investment--don't expect it)
Her: Lol
Fastlife: Or we can hangout tonight

Etc., etc.--it's basically just testing her with high and low investment options until something breaks. Obviously my goal is to see her tonight. But if she comes thru with another option and that's all she can do, then if it works for me I'll confirm. If nothing goes I'll just text, "Busy the next couple days. I'll hit you up." And repeat a similar process (if she's still on my radar by then) until something works.

NOTE--the convo will rarely be that focused; she'll go off on tangents, ask questions, etc. I'll play along with her for a text or two (or several if she's not high priority) then hit her with a press for a meet up.

With lower priority girls or ones where logistics aren't great:
Fastlife: You have a cool vibe. We should definitely hangout sometime (Super vague & low investment)
Her: Haha yeah that sounds good (Of course she'll agree. Total bullsh1t)
Couple of surface-level texts back and forth--qualify, get a feel for logistics, etc. etc., until I come up with something definite--then push for a meet up then.

It might seem 'desperate' or like I don't have 'options'--but who tf cares. I have enough options that if this one doesn't play ball so what? Plus you can stack an interaction on the front end and over time, in her memory, everything levels off. So I might come on super strong and pushy and then if she isn't compliant disappear for a couple weeks. In her memory, everything'll smooth over. Whereas a lot of guys half-ass it over the course of those weeks (with low investment Please don't reject me invites)--you might not ever come across as pushy but also never make much of an impression.

 

[Konada]

I forgot to mention I only run into this problem when I'm doing OLD. I do most of my invites face to face when given the chance so its pretty mich a yes/no on the spot.

I realise the 'Let me know' line doesn't work for me (at least) seeing how there are way better options (better looking, more money, more interesting etc.) she is probably browsing through if I leave things in the air.