"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Making a big lifestyle change with the obstacle of people's expectations of you as a AFC

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Hi guys, I'm pretty new to the community and only recently discovered all the ideas associated with it, and as such have only briefly practiced my game. However, my issue is that I'm a first year uni student and divide my time roughly 50/50 between living at university in halls and at home with my family. This causes me to feel as though the people I'm surrounded with at home (parents, siblings, school friends) are making it difficult for me to make a big lifestyle change (hit the gym frequently compared with never, go on dates, have girls over) because of the pressure to be the persons (AFC) I've always been. I realise this issue is basically physchological and that its my job to choose to make the change but I was just looking for tips and how I can move past this or any similar situations anyone has dealt with.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Its a bad mindset and one that you need to change.

You, and only you are responsible for you.

You don't want to live to other peoples expectations of you. Or use those expectations as an excuse to not do the things you know you need to.

Also, if you are AFC you probably have a lot of people around you who secretly like the fact you are a loser as it makes them feel better about themselves. Screw those parasites, you don't need them and they will do nothing to help you.

Get your ass in the gym
 
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JUST DO IT- Nike
 
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Thanks for all the responses, I appreciate the replies as they are useful for motivating me.

I understand that nothing is actually holding me back except myself so I'll try to push and make the change that I want.
 
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Childish1 said:
Thanks for all the responses, I appreciate the replies as they are useful for motivating me.

I understand that nothing is actually holding me back except myself so I'll try to push and make the change that I want.
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I find it best to figure out your goals, be quiet about it and work on them till they are done. Don't try to get external validation and don't tell people what you are doing, I wouldn't even mention it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Childish1 said:
because of the pressure to be the persons (AFC) I've always been.
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No one expects you to be AFC. It's all in your head. Everyone is too busy worrying about their own lives.

So... you can live the rest of your life AFC, or conquer your dream and rise to glory. Either way, no one really gives a sh*t.

Might as well conquer your dreams.
 
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