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How do you react to the 'boyfriend' drop

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Hey DJs,

Rereading the rational male and came across the use of the 'boyfriend' dropped into conversation as a pre emotive rejection.

Not interested in those responses who say - turn it around.

How do you remove yourself from conversation without looking butthurt but making it known she will get no more of your attention?


Say for example a house party situation.

Thanks in advance
 

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Maybe play the beta persona. "I'm not surprised you being so nice", blablabla, get someone else into the conversation or get you and the girl into another conversation so you can proceed from there.

Also, I would compliment on her personality and not looks.
 
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If you don't want to turn it around, as soon as the boyfriend is menrioned walk off.
 
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Maximus Rex said:
If you don't want to turn it around, as soon as the boyfriend is menrioned walk off.
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Exactly, simple as...

"Well, nice talking to you...." smile and a little touch on the arm, near the elbow...

"Well, talk to you later....."

"Well, have a good night, yeah.."

"Well, gotta mingle........see ya"
 

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Yeah.

My instinct is to just walk away- however what about collateral damage?

Eg. Other people/HBs noticing and thinking you're an ass etc
 
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Lozboss said:
Yeah.

My instinct is to just walk away- however what about collateral damage?

Eg. Other people/HBs noticing and thinking you're an ass etc
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what you expect?she will stop the party get a mic and tell everyone you stop talking with her when she mentioned she have a bf?

people think you are an ass? why care? that wouldn't happen and if did and people mention it you just laugh and don't even bother to answer
 
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I would have said something funny and continued with the convo.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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I would say if you had a true abundance mentality you wouldn't mind and if she was decent conversation you could stay and enjoy the moment for a bit then say you gotta get a drink or something and go speak to others. If she tries to come with or seems upset return to it later.
 
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Lozboss said:
Rereading the rational male and came across the use of the 'boyfriend' dropped into conversation as a pre emotive rejection.
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More sh1t test than rejection depending on how attractive you are. She may just be disqualifying herself from a serious relationship with you and making sure you're the real deal, the guy she can sleep with tonight without you being weird and blowing up your phone the next morning. The only rejection is that she removes herself from your proximity.

"You can introduce me to him sometime." Smirk, keep talking for a few minutes, excuse yourself. Kill three birds with one stones--sh1t test passed; if it's rejection, you handled it smoothly; if she really has a boyfriend you're the cool guy who respects him.
 
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Start talking to the girl next to her.
 

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