"Well, who knows what the hell her intentions are..."
Exactly. Almost all women will "check in on" a man, and we have discovered that this is almost always to gain some kind of resolution and to feel "better" about things. It usually involves her being relieved that she isn't rejected and that she could have you if she wanted to. They don't do this consciously or in a calculating way. If fact they are totally unaware that this is what they're doing.
I'd have to go back and re-read the thread to find clues... I don't have the time at the moment. Suffice it to say that neediness is a GIGANTIC turn-off to women. They revile neediness as much as we revile fat. I have felt sorry for fat girls before but have never been attracted to one.
You said that last night you asked her if she had romantic feelings after the time you had sex. All of this probing is explicitly and graphically showing her that you are needy.
Moving forward, your bottom-line MUST be this:
A woman is guest in YOUR life. You allow her in or disallow her. You both do what YOU decide to do until you have a committed relationship, in which case it's ok to once in a while do something she likes. NEVER, EVER ask her how she feels about you. They HATE that. Absolutely hate it. Women can only be attracted to a man whom they perceive to be above them on the social value scale. If you ask for validations from her, it's game over. Every time.
Every get-together must revolve around YOUR energy, not hers. You are the flywheel that keeps the momentum of the engine running. What to do comes from YOU. Where to eat comes from YOU. Again, she is a guest in your world, and guess what... She WANTS to be a guest in your world. A woman will not relax into her feminine energy unless and until she finds a man who will unashamedly and unapologetically take charge.
Women CRAVE a man who is a step or two above them. They cannot, I repeat cannot, date down. When you ask a woman if she likes you or how she feels about you, she becomes crushed inside because she wanted you to be strong. She wanted you to be above her. She wanted you to ASSUME that she MUST like you, and like you A LOT.
You need to find the balance between ****iness and niceness. The two are the yin and yang, the delicate balance of forces that make an authentic man. An authentic man IS INDEED very nice and respectful, but he also gives off the vibe that he is not to be trifled with, because severe repercussions will result. This is projection.
ASSUME, ASSUME, ASSUME. Assume that many women will like you (it is a fact that all women will not like you, but many will. Men cannot be universally attractive like women can). Assume that you are in control of your world. Assume that in a social situation that others look to you for fun, and even protection. This is what becoming a so-called alpha male is all about. Assume that others respect your presence. Assume that others will yield to you because they see you as socially and physically powerful.
But you don't think you are? ASSUME it anyway. Reality of the present moment has absolutely nothing to do with it. You ASSUME the role and demeanor of that which you aspire to be.
TAKE, TAKE, TAKE. Take what is rightfully yours on this earth. Take all the success you can, take what people give you (because as you become more powerful people start giving you things). Take control of your time, especially around other people. Take control of your responses to others (notice I didn't say "reactions" but rather, "responses"). Take compliments from others with a simple thank you.
Women WANT you to be more powerful and socially valuable than them. This is because they are physiologically wired to submit to you. Women WANT a man to submit to, but again, they can only submit to a man who takes charge and thereby frees her to relax into her feminine energy. Women SWOON over a nice, friendly man who takes ownership of his time, relationships, and space.
She wants to know that you don't "need" her, but rather "enjoy" her. She wants to know that you could walk away at any time and be happy and fulfilled. They HATE feeling needed by a man. Many of them don't really know that they hate it, but they do. She wants to be on your schedule as a guest in your world. Your world should be painted as fun, mysterious, exciting, explosive, calm, capable of eliciting any and every emotion out of her.
Finally, NEVER ask a woman for an exclusive relationship. This is up to her. She wants to work for you, believe me. When she works for the right to be with you she will value and savor it because she is invested. You know you've been doing it right when in a few months you hear the question, "So what are we?" Bagged & tagged.
Read the Book of Pook and the DJ bible.