Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Maybe it was the returns in the type of women you chose. The "hot" girl is a notoriously low to no payout. It is over priced and one can even debate if the sex is any better than a girl less hot but more into you. Plus a girl less hot will go into her purse or wallet and get her hands dirty in helping you out.
They weren't all hot, nor trouble, and I 'm still friends with some of them. But you only have one life and a guy in his early twenties is far from his peak smv. I suggest guys at this age to focus primarily on their education so that when they get to be 30ish they will have maximized their smv. Then alot those women who wouldn't give em the time of day will be single mothers and ripe for the pickings.
With psychology, I started getting interested when my ex's (the bigamist) ex BF who I was chatting with referenced her as a sociopath. I didn't know too much about them at the time.. So I read lots of stuff online. A couple of my favorites that are short and sweet are: "www.mcafee.cc/Bin/sb.html" and "www.killingmycareer.com/the-sociopathic-business-model/". The reality is that not everyone is a sociopathic, but sociopathic tendencies are a core guideline that can be applied to help gage single individuals, as well as collectives of people (like a workplace\business). Most folks have at least some of the traits of a sociopath. Need I say that more sociopathic tendencies one has, the more dangerous they are. I can't say this enough, the true sociopaths are BAD BAD people. Minimize or better yet avoid, if feasible\possible. Of course there are other areas of psychology besides sociopaths which I read up on somewhat. But no other area, IMO, has been more beneficial and applicable to my daily life than learning about sociopathic traits in people.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
