How do you invite yourself into her place? (already smashing)

[jackhamma]

I may be overthinking this but I wanted some guidance on the matter. Been seeing this one girl that is dynamite in bed, and taking things slow and steady and I can see this lasting a while. Keeping it "light and fun."

I always use home advantage with women. I usually pick them up, bring them to my area (best connections, hook ups etc.) with the bars, and restaurants I go to. Usually ending at my place, because once again I got the best set up, best bed, routine etc that I feel comfortable with.

This one girl the past 4 times getting together to go out and smash has been at my place usually on a Friday night where she sleeps over. So to change it up I am seeing her during the week for a bite to eat with no sleep over.

After dinner how do I go about inviting myself into her place for some fun? It doesn't seem smooth enough to just say "lets go up and mess around!" Usually when I go back to my place I say lets go make some food, drinks etc inside. Once there, kino, etc. we then smash.

How would I execute the invite up? I like this chick, she likes me, it is still early stage so I don't want to directly give off I am just about the smashing. Thanks!

 

[Bible_Belt]

Act like she has already invited you over. Assume the sale.

 

[ubercat]

@Bible_Belt I m at the same point. Could u expand a little?

 

[Bingo-Player]

just lead her

say you'll walk her home or whatever at the end of the night and then when you get to the door just put it straight on her with a kiss or a passoniate grab

chicks love it when you assert a certain level of dominance over them especially when they are already attracted to you

dont ask just do

 

[Bible_Belt]

@Bible_Belt I m at the same point. Could u expand a little?

Just walk into her place like it's your own. If she doesn't want you there, she will stop you. It's the same as sex in general - you never ask, you just assume.

 

[salinechow]

Just walk into her place like it's your own. If she doesn't want you there, she will stop you. It's the same as sex in general - you never ask, you just assume.

Act like she has already invited you over. Assume the sale.

Just walk into her place like it's your own. If she doesn't want you there, she will stop you. It's the same as sex in general - you never ask, you just assume.

Two quick tricks.

When I pull up to her house I turn off my car and open my door. Helps if you make out a little but its not necessary. If she gets offended( never once happened to me yet) Just say "I was going to walk you to your door like a gentleman and make sure you are inside before I leave." "Plus, doorway goodnight kisses always look so romantic in the movies."

Assume the sale. Invite yourself just like you asked. And, all three of us are saying the same thing. That's a hint if I have ever seen one. Notice to I say "invite" or "Suggest" NEVER ask! There is a subtle but important difference.

I always keep a bottle of wine in my car on dates. Comes in very very handy. " Look, its getting late, we are closer to your place than mine, lets go back and chill for a bit, I have a bottle of wine we can share as a night cap. Ill have to leave by 2 though." Always be closing. Always. Its her job to say no. Its yours to confidently ask. Just dont be weird or needy. Suggestive selling, not pushy.

 

[salinechow]

P.S Being a natural sales person my whole life( I do some work in a sales environment as well, but its not my main) I have always enjoyed the tactics of sales and connecting with people, as well as understanding the power of influence. We are social creatures and those dynamics are interesting. They can also be financially and social rewarding. My point, there are A LOT of parallels between sales and interactions with woman. Even after a LTR has grown.

I would invest some time reading sales and influence books. Its a great way to shed light on the PUA topics. Helps with confidence as well. The topics you'll explore are so unbelievably reciprocal to romantic and social interactions as well. PUA and romance tatics can be used in sales, and sales can be used in romantic and social pursuits. It really seasons your understanding of it all and highlights it into a bigger picture.

Also, once combined, understood, implemented and practiced as a whole(The two very similar topics) together, you really start to feel like a "natural". It all gets real smooth and less contrived.

I kino'd a lady today to make a purchase. She was a 1. Made her feel like a 10. Yet, I dont feel slippery or bad, because I know what she bought, she needed. I helped her. And frankly, when a lead a girl towards sex, and she agrees, and I make her feel good as I do F6cking her. I feel good about that too. Like she is glad she met me, while Im driving home with her stink on my lips.

Just sayin.

 

[WanderingMan]

Two things here:

First, why are you picking her up and driving her to your place? She doesnt have a car?

Second, if you're already smashing, and you guys are hanging out in her neighborhood, why isn't she automatically inviting you up? Does she have roommates? Have you driven to her area, picked her up, went to eat, and then you left woth nothing more than a goodnight kiss?

Without you answering these questions, it would seem you're putting in a lot more effort than she is, and a lot more effort than you need to be doing.

If I drove to her place, and she didnt invite me up, I just wouldn't drive to her place anymore.

Also, think you may need to slow your roll here, why are you trying to get invited up to her place??

Maybe she wants to keep it light and fun herself....and therefore doesnt want to step it up to the next level, where she may think you're trying to take this thing.

 

[jackhamma]

To answer some of your questions she lives by herself in a small studio apartment and has two cats. I don't dislike cats in general BUT she is 21yrs old and her place is sloppy. The strong smell of two cats when you walk in, with the combo of cat hair, and from wall to wall not being able to see the floor...it turns me off.

Not to mention she works at two odd ball retail store jobs and wants to be an actress...now that I am typing this out and reading it, she doesn't seem like the best catch. The sexx is just insane, and she has that ideal body that I LOVE. 5'2" 102lbs big azz C32 boobies.

Thoughts?

 

[Bible_Belt]

First you ask how to get in, then you say you don't want to get in. Ditching her after the date is the easy option. If you never go into her place again, she will come to understand it's because she is a slob. You always have the card to play down the road that her cats give you an allergic reaction that you never told her about, because you love animals so much and didn't want to hurt her feelings. But I wouldn't pull that card out until she picks a fight about you thinking she is a slob. That will happen eventually, when you adopt the never-come-over policy regarding her place, but there's no reason to speed that along.