Long story short. I had a great first date with a girl way back in Nov 2015. A recently divorced (2013) woman. Two grown kids. Me, I've not been married. I'm having this on-going problem trying to get a second date. We are both busy with work and it's hard to work around our schedule. But I have made plenty of effort. I am 60 miles from her. There was one date in November that fell through because of an ice storm here in Michigan.
I did see her in December when I was asked to help repair a busted plumbing pipe at her fathers house. She takes care of him as he has Alzheimer disease. She is a full time nurse. So that was a brief few hours but it wasn't a real date. But we did end up kissing, clutching, hugging like how the first date ended. After leaving I asked to see her that weekend. She agreed. I called her later that week and she said she was on call at the hospital. So I tried again for the next weekend. And was told the following week she was taking her father somewhere for the weekend. We were getting close to Christmas Holiday season.
But that was it for me. I didn't believe she would be somewhere with her father as sick as he is for the full weekend. So then about a week before Christmas she posts a picture on Facebook with her and some dude outside. I guess in front of his home. And there is a caption that says "Christmas Lights Up". I'm like OK she is playing me. I sent her a text telling her I was moving on. She writes back and tells me that she can post whatever on her FB page. And that this was a relative. So I didn't respond. But here's the crazy thing. She takes the picture down two days later! I'm thinking why would she take down a relative picture?
So I'm like enough. I put her on no contact. This went on for 5 weeks and the last day of January she contacts me. We talk a bit on the telephone and she says she wants to see me. I tried for that weekend but she was leaving for a week to California with her two sons. She wanted to see me when she got back. Two weeks ago in Cali, she calls me twice. Pleasant conversations that ended well. Some of the conversation though, she is bringing up her past relationships. She seems hurt. Her ex husband cheated on her. I kinda listen to it not saying too much.
So she returns last week calls me and we speak again for quite a while on the phone. I ask her out last weekend she kinda gives me the run around. Says will talk later in the week. Well that didn't happen. This Tuesday she sends me an email I respond to. She calls me this past Wednesday, We talk a long time 1 1/2 hours. I'm having a hard time getting her off the phone. This time she is really opening up. All kinds of problems in her family. The cheating by her husband etc. etc. I'm like Oh **** baggage! I ask her out this weekend she gives me lame excuses. I then say" why are you telling me to ask you out and you wont agree?" She doesn't really give me a good answer other then to say shes been busy. I think there must be another guy/s involved here. I asked her if she is seeing others. She says no. I don't know what to believe.
Is this just an ego trip for her? Why does she string me along? Because I allow it? Do I just put her on the n/c again? What if she contacts me again, what then? I do like the girl but this constant flaking is driving me nuts.
Thanks for responses
I did see her in December when I was asked to help repair a busted plumbing pipe at her fathers house. She takes care of him as he has Alzheimer disease. She is a full time nurse. So that was a brief few hours but it wasn't a real date. But we did end up kissing, clutching, hugging like how the first date ended. After leaving I asked to see her that weekend. She agreed. I called her later that week and she said she was on call at the hospital. So I tried again for the next weekend. And was told the following week she was taking her father somewhere for the weekend. We were getting close to Christmas Holiday season.
But that was it for me. I didn't believe she would be somewhere with her father as sick as he is for the full weekend. So then about a week before Christmas she posts a picture on Facebook with her and some dude outside. I guess in front of his home. And there is a caption that says "Christmas Lights Up". I'm like OK she is playing me. I sent her a text telling her I was moving on. She writes back and tells me that she can post whatever on her FB page. And that this was a relative. So I didn't respond. But here's the crazy thing. She takes the picture down two days later! I'm thinking why would she take down a relative picture?
So I'm like enough. I put her on no contact. This went on for 5 weeks and the last day of January she contacts me. We talk a bit on the telephone and she says she wants to see me. I tried for that weekend but she was leaving for a week to California with her two sons. She wanted to see me when she got back. Two weeks ago in Cali, she calls me twice. Pleasant conversations that ended well. Some of the conversation though, she is bringing up her past relationships. She seems hurt. Her ex husband cheated on her. I kinda listen to it not saying too much.
So she returns last week calls me and we speak again for quite a while on the phone. I ask her out last weekend she kinda gives me the run around. Says will talk later in the week. Well that didn't happen. This Tuesday she sends me an email I respond to. She calls me this past Wednesday, We talk a long time 1 1/2 hours. I'm having a hard time getting her off the phone. This time she is really opening up. All kinds of problems in her family. The cheating by her husband etc. etc. I'm like Oh **** baggage! I ask her out this weekend she gives me lame excuses. I then say" why are you telling me to ask you out and you wont agree?" She doesn't really give me a good answer other then to say shes been busy. I think there must be another guy/s involved here. I asked her if she is seeing others. She says no. I don't know what to believe.
Is this just an ego trip for her? Why does she string me along? Because I allow it? Do I just put her on the n/c again? What if she contacts me again, what then? I do like the girl but this constant flaking is driving me nuts.
Thanks for responses
