Ex took the children out on a vacation

[Powersurgeon]

When I asked her she told me she was going alone with the 3 children, then when I called to corroborate if they were in the alleged hotel and room one of my sons told me that her new boyfriend was there with them. I talked to her and said that that was the most dishonest and coward thing to do, but she kept saying that she doesn't have to give me any explanation. Any suggestions or comments?

 

[Reykhel]

What can you do? You married someone who's immature and a bad communicator.

Kids, this is exactly why you need to watch out for those red flags at the beginning of the relationship and be ruthless with the bytch.

You can't get sucked into her frame else you'll go insane.

Get Robert Greene's 48 Laws of Power

 

[Powersurgeon]

What can you do? You married someone who's immature and a bad communicator.

Kids, this is exactly why you need to watch out for those red flags at the beginning of the relationship and be ruthless with the bytch.

You can't get sucked into her frame else you'll go insane.

Get Robert Greene's 48 Laws of Power

Would you recommend acting out? I'm planning cutting anyform of contact with her and using a third person between her and me.

 

[Tictac]

Would you recommend acting out? I'm planning cutting anyform of contact with her and using a third person between her and me.

What's best for your children? Someone needs to think of them act act in their interests. Sounds like she doesn't. So you're appointed by default.

 

[Powersurgeon]

What's best for your children? Someone needs to think of them act act in their interests. Sounds like she doesn't. So you're appointed by default.

Their best interest would be living with me, that's the hard part.

 

[Reykhel]

Would you recommend acting out? I'm planning cutting anyform of contact with her and using a third person between her and me.

I don't know what you mean by acting out.

Learn to deal with her in a business type manner. Cold and professional. Keep your cool. You're dealing with a snake. ...act accordingly.

 

[YawataNoKami]

http://forum.mensdivorce.com and not be a male nut job. Your interactions with ex should be just about your kids. Guys in that forum are harsh if they have to and do not turn into a nutjob,thats women job.

 

[Powersurgeon]

http://forum.mensdivorce.com and not be a male nut job. Your interactions with ex should be just about your kids. Guys in that forum are harsh if they have to and do not turn into a nutjob,thats women job.

Than you very much

 

[Desdinova]

When I asked her she told me she was going alone with the 3 children, then when I called to corroborate if they were in the alleged hotel and room one of my sons told me that her new boyfriend was there with them. I talked to her and said that that was the most dishonest and coward thing to do, but she kept saying that she doesn't have to give me any explanation. Any suggestions or comments?

WTF is the point of this post? My ex takes my kid on vacations. She even did it with the guy she cheated on me with. As long as my kid is safe and having fun, that's all that matters.

She's your ex. You didn't pay for this vacation. Leave her alone, shut the fvck up, and hope your kid has a good time.

 

[Epimanes]

I agree with des...your not with her anymore... So you can not control who she dates. I don't see any harm in what's going on unless you know something about this guy that may affect your kids safety....

 

[YawataNoKami]

1. Your ex can bang a football team , she is not your wife anymore.
2. Your job is to be a Super Dad.
3. Your interactions with ex-wife should be only about the kids , very important things only via email.(evidence). Her life is not your businesses anymore.
4. During exchanges always carry your recording device. Iphone,Ipad or similar are not good , a smal recording device is just $40-50. Two party state? Doesn't matter , recording is for the cops not for the judge. And silences are important too. (Rule of thumb: If your ex is a psycho hell b1tch exchanges should be at yours/hers closest police station)
5. Mensdivorce forum is a father friendly site , probably the only site who really care about Dads. Many successful stories if you fallow their advice ; a few lawyers as well. Women/Mothers are not welcome.

A little bit drunk right now soooo.............

 

[hithard]

You need to shift your focus.
Right now you want to pound the biatch ex into the ground and that's fair enough.
You need to drop that line of thinking and focus on being a good father. Unless the kids are being harmed by her, then you don't need to worry what she is doing or who she is with.
Kids grow up fast. Don't waste time playing war games.

But always do the legal stuff mentioned above in case.

 

[parkthebus]

Ok so if you are worried about the new boyfriend being with them then you should absolutely call her out in it or maybe just tell her its not right to lie to a man about what's happening with his children. If it doesn't bother you though you should have just said "oh you lied? Ok". If it was me being lied to (a truly deceitful lie) by anyone outside of a professional or tactful environment ie friends and family, I would tell them that I thought they had more self respect than that. Lying is a sign of weakness and people know this intrinsically.

 

[Powersurgeon]

I agree with des...your not with her anymore... So you can not control who she dates. I don't see any harm in what's going on unless you know something about this guy that may affect your kids safety....

That's my point, this guy is very suspicious and the X is not open about her relationship ( nobody in her family knows him), I have weak evidence that he may be involved in illegal activities (fraud) He has 2 teen kids, what normal man would be eager to be with 3 little kids that are not his?

 

[Desdinova]

this guy is very suspicious and the X is not open about her relationship

I'm generally not open about mine, and my ex never knows who nor how many I'm dating. It's none of her business. She needs to trust me that I'm not going to put my kid in any danger, and I have to do the same with her. If my kid's in danger, I'm certain he'll inform me and then I'll deal with it.

I have weak evidence that he may be involved in illegal activities (fraud)

Fraud does NOT equal sexual or physical abuse to children. The guy my ex cheated on me with was in jail for robbing banks. As long as he's not abusing my kid, he can rob as many fvcking banks as he wants.

He has 2 teen kids, what normal man would be eager to be with 3 little kids that are not his?

The answer is always pvssy.

Again, as long as your kids are safe and healthy, you need to let this 5hit go. You'll fare much better and your kids will respect you more. Just let your kids know that they can come to you if they ever have any problems and leave it at that. Don't pester them for information and don't give your opinion of your ex to them. The last thing you want is to become the bitter parent who causes 5hit in your kids' lives.

 

[Powersurgeon]

I'm generally not open about mine, and my ex never knows who nor how many I'm dating. It's none of her business. She needs to trust me that I'm not going to put my kid in any danger, and I have to do the same with her. If my kid's in danger, I'm certain he'll inform me and then I'll deal with it.



Fraud does NOT equal sexual or physical abuse to children. The guy my ex cheated on me with was in jail for robbing banks. As long as he's not abusing my kid, he can rob as many fvcking banks as he wants.



The answer is always pvssy.

Again, as long as your kids are safe and healthy, you need to let this 5hit go. You'll fare much better and your kids will respect you more. Just let your kids know that they can come to you if they ever have any problems and leave it at that. Don't pester them for information and don't give your opinion of your ex to them. The last thing you want is to become the bitter parent who causes 5hit in your kids' lives.

OK, then. That is a great piece of advice, thank you very much.