"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lesson learned date that was crap.

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That's why it's easier to go into their house for this sort of thing, their comfort level will be a bit higher than bringing her in your space.
On the other side if you manage to make them comfortable in your space it will make a stronger positive impression. I prefer taking them to my place, but I'm very aware of how that makes them feel and know how to counter it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I went out with this girl monday night it was target practiced. I picked her up from her house (she lived near hood area) She was fat so that wasn't a great thing. I thought well I am just gonna try to get laid. So, I noticed I was relaxed and cool which she I guess that got the vibe from me so we was both pretty chill. We went and had drinks and I felt like I rushed it and said you ready to go? I literally just drove to my house and she was like where are we going? I said to my house to hang out a little bit. I felt a little weird because I didnt mention anything so it was a little awkward. I tried to make a move after when I put netflix on she was like i dont think so nice try. I wasn't very happy I tried to do a freeze out and then she asked where you at when i went in the bedroom. I said I am on computer. Then she was saying had to leave in a bit I said you ready to go now. Then we talked on the way back and I said you think I was cool? She said yeah she did and had a good time she said it was just weird at the end. I said yeah I got back in the game trying to work out my kinks excuse those. And said I am trying to be that alpha male mindset you know what i mean? She was a little like yeah said I was a bit in the middle I felt like a dumbass I dropped her off then yeah lmao. So, that was stupid but practice.
Wtf bro. At first I thought you were just inexperienced and overly aggressive, but the end made me think you're trolling.

1.) NEVER pick a girl up on a first date.
2.) Why would you waste time with a chick that's gross?
3.) You just said "let's go" and went back to your place without telling her? Lmaaaaaoooo that's super creepy dude.
4.) You then just eft her alone in the room cause she didn't want to f*ck? Holy sh!t this is GOLD. You should've just taken her home that instant.
5.) Asked her if you were cool? Huh?
6.) Said you're trying to be an "alpha male?" WUT.

We've all had bad dates, but man this is another level of awkward...
 

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On the other side if you manage to make them comfortable in your space it will make a stronger positive impression. I prefer taking them to my place, but I'm very aware of how that makes them feel and know how to counter it.
True, the entire "great host" concept.
 

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Wtf bro. At first I thought you were just inexperienced and overly aggressive, but the end made me think you're trolling.

1.) NEVER pick a girl up on a first date.
2.) Why would you waste time with a chick that's gross?
3.) You just said "let's go" and went back to your place without telling her? Lmaaaaaoooo that's super creepy dude.
4.) You then just eft her alone in the room cause she didn't want to f*ck? Holy sh!t this is GOLD. You should've just taken her home that instant.
5.) Asked her if you were cool? Huh?
6.) Said you're trying to be an "alpha male?" WUT.

We've all had bad dates, but man this is another level of awkward...
I can vouch for him. He isn't a troll. He just needs help and guidance. That is what we are here for.
 
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