"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Was at a girl's place for the first time. She bought me lunch before hand and then brought me to her place. I have never slept with this girl before or even kissed her. This girl is 24, pretty attractive, in shape.

We then lay on her bed, and she keeps telling me to take off my clothes. I tell her no. I did not want to bang her because I was just out of it. She then tries to make out with me, I do it for a little and then tell her I'm not in the mood. I end up telling her it was late and that I wanted to leave.

She then begs me not to leave and I insist telling her it's late and kiss her goodnight.

She texts me the next day saying I hurt her feelings and made her feel insecure cause I did not want to have sex with her and that she's never had a guy do that to her before. She then asks me if there was anything wrong with her. I said no...just not in the mood. She says "can we have sex the next time? Can you at least take off your clothes? I'll give you the longest bJ ever"

I tell her Ok...seeing her on friday...maybe i'll let her give me a BJ friday and then I will bang her the next time.

take from this what you want
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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applegoo said:
Was at a girl's place for the first time. She bought me lunch before hand and then brought me to her place. I have never slept with this girl before or even kissed her. This girl is 24, pretty attractive, in shape.

We then lay on her bed, and she keeps telling me to take off my clothes. I tell her no. I did not want to bang her because I was just out of it. She then tries to make out with me, I do it for a little and then tell her I'm not in the mood. I end up telling her it was late and that I wanted to leave.

She then begs me not to leave and I insist telling her it's late and kiss her goodnight.

She texts me the next day saying I hurt her feelings and made her feel insecure cause I did not want to have sex with her and that she's never had a guy do that to her before. She then asks me if there was anything wrong with her. I said no...just not in the mood. She says "can we have sex the next time? Can you at least take off your clothes? I'll give you the longest bJ ever"

I tell her Ok...seeing her on friday...maybe i'll let her give me a BJ friday and then I will bang her the next time.

take from this what you want
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Why did you go in her bedroom if you didn't want to f.uck?
 
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If you really wasn't in the mood, i don't see whats wrong here, its just so happend that now her IL is higher...

However playing "hard to get" as man is a big turn off to women, when it come to sex. its ok to tease and to play with her, but if you both want to have sex, just go for it.
 
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grayclif said:
Why did you go in her bedroom if you didn't want to f.uck?
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He gave her the "no guy has done this to me before"-effect. I'd say he arguably ended up on a good note and got her hooked by doing this for that reason. But women get off on being wanted, so it can't be done too much or too heavily.
 
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I agree with what OP did. As long as there's a release soon, otherwise she'll head off looking for her next validation guy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Like the report. Thanks for sharing.

I am completely unable to do that.

That is where men get a lot of power. Indifference and refusal.

One should not care if she goes get validation somewhere else. That doesn't make you lose your value.
The goal is not to get the woman. It is to play it on your terms.
 
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