AttackFormation
Master Don Juan
This thread is not so much me wondering what I should do - I'm going to keep NC up (although that's getting harder now that my buddy brought her along in secret). It's more I want to understand what's going on and what's going through womens minds when they do this kind of sh!t.
Concise history: Known her for 6 years. She was single when I got to know her but made things official with her current boyfriend under a year after. Even though she physically doesn't turn me on she's just so fun and cool (which she knows I think) that I liked her anyway, but I knew better than to make a move, both because she doesn't have anywhere remotely near the physique that turns me on and because she got a boyfriend. She's always been semi-flirty with me, and at times she's done things like lying on me to "rest" in front of her boyfriend and making it a point that it was comfortable and that she wouldn't move to the sofa where her boyfriend was.
But she's also done things like actively cut contact with me out of the blue only to re-add me later and act like nothing and say she has me wrapped around her finger. She's been sh!t talking her boyfriend or making a joke of him for as long as I can remember but never acts on it and stays with him even though she keeps babbling about needing a new boyfriend and bla bla bla.
When it hit me that this girl will set you up for her own amusement and is calculating, I stopped trusting her all that much.
Actual event: So somewhere in the second half of 2015 I was meeting up with her and my buddy. Long story short, I accidentally left my facebook open on her phone and she went through the message history between me and the buddy, finding out everything I said about her that she wasn't supposed to know (like how I noted she was disrespecting her boyfriend and that I think she needed a good fvcking). She started wanting me to make an excuse and stuff which I took as BS to control me in spite of her inexcusable breach of privacy, I just cut contact with her. She tried to get me to talk to her over text and contact me but I blocked her and never read any messages.
I thought she'd get over me, but she kept trying to contact me again and again forever. Tried to talk through my buddy, said she was gonna show up at my door if I didn't respond to her. Fast forward to yesterday, my buddy asks me to come out with him and I agree. To my surprise there she is with him, still not letting go. I didn't really care as I'm not angry just don't see her the same way as before, kept socialising with her to a minimum since I don't want to talk to her.
Then my buddy and her want me to come over to his place. I say I'm going to the gym and then home to sleep. After I've gone, she texts me twice wanting me to come over because she wants to talk with me. I haven't responded. I think she's in shock and distress because she really thought she had complete control over me and never suspected I had a backbone and have always known things were off with her so I was ready to do this.
My questions to you guys: Has this kind of thing happened to you? What the fvck does she want? When will this end?
Concise history: Known her for 6 years. She was single when I got to know her but made things official with her current boyfriend under a year after. Even though she physically doesn't turn me on she's just so fun and cool (which she knows I think) that I liked her anyway, but I knew better than to make a move, both because she doesn't have anywhere remotely near the physique that turns me on and because she got a boyfriend. She's always been semi-flirty with me, and at times she's done things like lying on me to "rest" in front of her boyfriend and making it a point that it was comfortable and that she wouldn't move to the sofa where her boyfriend was.
But she's also done things like actively cut contact with me out of the blue only to re-add me later and act like nothing and say she has me wrapped around her finger. She's been sh!t talking her boyfriend or making a joke of him for as long as I can remember but never acts on it and stays with him even though she keeps babbling about needing a new boyfriend and bla bla bla.
When it hit me that this girl will set you up for her own amusement and is calculating, I stopped trusting her all that much.
Actual event: So somewhere in the second half of 2015 I was meeting up with her and my buddy. Long story short, I accidentally left my facebook open on her phone and she went through the message history between me and the buddy, finding out everything I said about her that she wasn't supposed to know (like how I noted she was disrespecting her boyfriend and that I think she needed a good fvcking). She started wanting me to make an excuse and stuff which I took as BS to control me in spite of her inexcusable breach of privacy, I just cut contact with her. She tried to get me to talk to her over text and contact me but I blocked her and never read any messages.
I thought she'd get over me, but she kept trying to contact me again and again forever. Tried to talk through my buddy, said she was gonna show up at my door if I didn't respond to her. Fast forward to yesterday, my buddy asks me to come out with him and I agree. To my surprise there she is with him, still not letting go. I didn't really care as I'm not angry just don't see her the same way as before, kept socialising with her to a minimum since I don't want to talk to her.
Then my buddy and her want me to come over to his place. I say I'm going to the gym and then home to sleep. After I've gone, she texts me twice wanting me to come over because she wants to talk with me. I haven't responded. I think she's in shock and distress because she really thought she had complete control over me and never suspected I had a backbone and have always known things were off with her so I was ready to do this.
My questions to you guys: Has this kind of thing happened to you? What the fvck does she want? When will this end?
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