Losing attraction - Ways to reverse the situation?

[Tranquilizer]

In hindsight, I realised what i was doing with a girl was the stupid AFC would do. Making myself too available, going out of my way to do things for her when it's not even a relationship yet. Initially the interest level was high and now she's turning cold on me. Ignoring texts. Playing the game? Lost interest? I don't know.

Feel like dumb fug now and i've decided that enough is enough. No more AFC shiets. I don't like this feeling of not being the one in power. Besides getting occupied with other activities/girls...Is there any way to reverse the dynamics on this one...? Something like getting my respect and power back. It's not that i'm afraid to lose this girl, but i wanna learn something from it. In the future if i slip up accidently with any girls, I wanna know how to handle/reverse the situation.

Tips?

 

[dustmuffin]

Dont be so available, don't talk or text much. Set up dates only. Tease and flirt with her. Don't do her chores! Have an opinion. Don't be afraid to make her angry....

 

[RangerMIke]

.... I don't like this feeling of not being the one in power. Besides getting occupied with other activities/girls...Is there any way to reverse the dynamics on this one...?

This is really what gets most men. By our nature we are 'doers' we get stuff done. We take action and get results. But this does not work with women... you have to own the fact that action is counter-productive when it comes to women. All you can do is display male strength qualities and wait, let women know you want them, make dates.... it's a whole lot easier when you don't get locked onto one particular woman.

 

[logicallefty]

let women know you want them, make dates....

^^This.. Key word, WANT them, but never ever NEED them.

Dont be so available, .

^^Aaaand THIS.. If you think IL is declining, the best #1 thing to do is step back..

 

[bigneil]

Curls.

(With barbells that is, not your hair).

 

[bigneil]

You can't reverse it with a given girl, but you can improve and get a hotter girl.

 

[EyeBRollin]

You can't reverse it with a given girl, but you can improve and get a hotter girl.

Not true.

If she was interested in you in the past, you usually can raise her interest level unless you really, really turned her off. Time is your biggest asset. The more time passes, the more she wonders about you (while she is single).

To the OP,

Stop texting.

You may only respond to her texts. If she initiates a text with you, tell her you would like to see her and make a date. If she doesn't initiate, proceed with the following:

-Wait a week and call her and ask her out for a date. If she says anything other than "yes!" or "ok," tell her that you are really busy this week and can only make definite plans. Then get off the phone. This is called the negative sale. If she doesn't agree, go at least another week of not contacting her and try again.

-If she won't make a definite date with you after two attempts, you must stop trying. Never contact her again. If she reaches out to you, tell her it was nice to hear from her but you are busy and have to go. Keep the text conversations short. Don't stay on the phone longer than 2-3 minutes.

You have to be comfortable with the possibility of walking away for good. The only thing that can improve your situation is to establish your frame and be congruent in your actions. Your best asset will be her time away from you.

 

[yungballa]

Man, you've got to be ready to walk away from a female at any time. ANY female, at ANY time.

If she's losing attraction, I'd say you should back off for a while. She's probably turned off at the fact you've given her so much attention. From reading your thread, I think you've already noticed the mistakes that you've done here. I'd say back off a little bit, don't be all in her face.

Be PERSISTENT, but don't chase. If you do meet her in person, show her with actions that you're the one in charge/and has the power, and that you want her (but as others have said) YOU DON'T NEED HER!

My friend, stay strong. You don't need any female in this life. There's plenty of fish in the sea, so why would you need one.

 

[Lozboss]

MonkeyKing says this all the time.

A MAN's greatest asset is his time. Giving your time and attention is what women want. Hence why so many have hordes of Beta orbiters.

Remove your attention and time from this woman as EyeB said and watch her interest rate grow.

If she doesn't start pursuing you then it's gone.

Always maintain ones self. Pursue but as Corey Wayne says- ALWAYS BE READING THEIR INTEREST LEVEL.

 

[Tranquilizer]

Thanks guys for ur comments. I read somewhere that in order to get a girl to accept/go on a date with u, u must evoke some sort of positive emotion in her. So just get to the point and ask her out when making a call w/o talking much to her eh? Relying on her interest level for the date instead of doing shiets like making small talk over the phone?

She did initiate a text to thank me for smth, but at that point in time i was quite annoyed cos she ignored my previous texts. So i threw her a neg and ignored her reply(withdrew my attention and time). Punishing her for disrespect so to speak.

 

[NSX-R]

Thanks guys for ur comments. I read somewhere that in order to get a girl to accept/go on a date with u, u must evoke some sort of positive emotion in her. So just get to the point and ask her out when making a call w/o talking much to her eh? Relying on her interest level for the date instead of doing shiets like making small talk over the phone?

She did initiate a text to thank me for smth, but at that point in time i was quite annoyed cos she ignored my previous texts. So i threw her a neg and ignored her reply(withdrew my attention and time). Punishing her for disrespect so to speak.

Go read the dj bible. End of discussion.