Chasing vs Nexting

[EyeBRollin]

Agree, but what's the alternative? I'm really busy, how to keep a girl hot if it's 1+ weeks away?

Use the phone as a timebridge. Taken straight from the DJ Bible:

Call her once per week, usually Sunday-Wednesday is best. Rinse and repeat. If you can't hang out with her that week, just call her for a few minutes to build some rapport. Tell her you are interested in seeing her soon but are just really busy. You hope she is doing well, blah blah blah. Then get off the phone. Call her the following week when you can make plans. The best thing to do usually is nothing. However, I've found that calling once per week is safe for not over-pursuing, and can buy you time for quite a while.

As far as your chasing vs. nexting. You are nexting way too soon in my opinion.

You gentlemen need to differentiate chicks you've been out with vs. chicks you have not been out with. You should not next a chick you've met online because she flaked on a first date. Of course she flaked, she doesn't know you!!! Her flaking isn't low interest in you... it is low interest in bothering to meet you. Don't take it personally. Just wait a week or two and try again. Really, you can keep trying several times. Also, don't get butthurt if she didn't save your number or asks "who is this?" Chicks online don't save numbers until they meet you and decide they actually like you.

You are deluding yourself if you think nexting her is establishing "frame." You got butthurt and nexted a chick who wouldn't rearrange her life to meet some strange guy she met online. Take a step back and think about how that sounds.

I give online chicks far more leeway for flaking on the first date than chicks I've already been out with.

 

[mr. kennedy]

You got butthurt and nexted a chick who wouldn't rearrange her life to meet some strange guy she met online. Take a step back and think about how that sounds.

If we are talking about girl #2, I didn't next her for flaking. I nexted the girl because 1) she never answered my text, 2) gave a lame excuse on why she didn't answer and 3) still didn't answer my question when she gave her excuse.

I simply asked if she was free on a particular day. A "no" or a "sorry can't" would have been good enough for me to try again another time. But ignoring my question to me is a sign of disrespect.

 

[EyeBRollin]

If we are talking about girl #2, I didn't next her for flaking. I nexted the girl because 1) she never answered my text, 2) gave a lame excuse on why she didn't answer and 3) still didn't answer my question when she gave her excuse.

I simply asked if she was free on a particular day. A "no" or a "sorry can't" would have been good enough for me to try again another time. But ignoring my question to me is a sign of disrespect.

She could have missed the text. It happens. She doesn't know you yet. It is unreasonable to think you are a priority to her before she has even met you. You also don't need to question why she didn't answer you. That makes you look weak. She doesn't need to say "no" or "sorry can't." Not answering your text is an answer. You just wait a week or so and try again, pretending like it never happened.

You have to stay centered, my friend.

Put yourself in her position. If someone you didn't know that you met online started telling you off for not responding to a text you'd think they were psycho. You probably would never consider talking to them or dating them.

 

[blind_one]

OP, take this into account. Also, being distant and aloof only works if the girl is really into you.

Also, you can't next a girl you haven't f**ked. That's just you recognizing disinterest and moving on. Which is good.

Don't chase. A lot of people confuse chasing with confident persistence. You persist with a new girl, cuz she really doesn't know you that well yet. You give 2 strikes MAX. Depending on the offense, you can use the 1 strike rule, if it's a serious offense.

You need to show you have more options, and actually have options, with the latter being more difficult. Another thing, your success with any girl depends on this:

You have control over:
1. Your game
2. Your value
3. The interaction

You have no control over:
1. Her emotional needs i.e. you want sex, she wants a boyfriend or beta orbiter
2. What phase of her life she's in
3. Her IL
4. Circumstance

It's all about the end. Are you with her at the end of the day? If you're not getting what you want, and you like her enough, keep her on the backburner Otherwise, accept that the interaction failed and try again with another girl. Oh, and if she's rude, delete her from all platforms.

Don't forget to escalate sexually. It may get you rejected, but at least not friendzoned. That's how you show you won't be an orbiter.

And her actions speak louder than words. Always keep that in mind.

That's my ruling, hope it helps.

Case closed.

Nismo is as always spot on. Goes without saying. This is what I was recently going through.

The girl is very traditional, even for Eastern European standards. She never initiates but always picks up , or calls back. We set a date we get together, no bull****. And we have a blast and escalete. And I never hear from her, so 3-4 days later I innitiate and set up another meeting, she's on her best behaviour, dresses well and if the day is not good for her, instant counter offer.

Interested chicks won't confuse you. But you have to be a man, plan your **** with a purpose and proceed.

 

[Vivacity]

OP, take this into account. Also, being distant and aloof only works if the girl is really into you.

Also, you can't next a girl you haven't f**ked. That's just you recognizing disinterest and moving on. Which is good.

Nexting a girl means you moved on to the next girl. You don't need to fukc a girl in order to next her, because you are the guy who values himself.

Don't chase. A lot of people confuse chasing with confident persistence. You persist with a new girl, cuz she really doesn't know you that well yet. You give 2 strikes MAX. Depending on the offense, you can use the 1 strike rule, if it's a serious offense.

2 strikes is trying, not chasing and not persistence. 3 or more strikes, depending on the actual number of strikes, maybe considered persistence or chasing.