need advice

[learningjuan]

Hi everyone, been reading around the forums for a while and just making first post...will sound lame af but please bear with me.

So I just finished a semester of college, and am most likely transferring for the next semester. I would go to gym often, and per chance I begin noticing this girl who worked there at irregular hours. Initially, I didn't really care much, but she would often clean up around the area I was working out in. One day she comes up to me and asks for help on something really insignificant, like moving a weight or such. I obliged but didn't further initiate conversation. About some point in time I see her more and more frequently, so I start a conversation. It didn't go as well as expected (on my part) and didn't get a number. Long story short, I end up asking mutual female friend about her work times, friend tells me I won't "get" her, find out mutual friend isn't actually friends with her, girl immediately starts growing cold from that point on. Find out from another friend she is extremely religious and "nice" type of girl. Add her on FB and send "hey" text. Ignored. I bump into her a few more times, make conversation, try to fix first convo we had(just wanted to know her better and not fvck). Lukewarm/cold responses. Text again asking about some workouts. "I'm not sure" followed by ignore. 4 to 1 message ratio. I see her in the gym a few more times after that with who I find out to be her actual best friend and she looks PISSED(why?). On my last day literally hours before I board my plane to leave, I meet up with her and try to get a number. Promptly turned down. I see her best friend, who cheerfully greeted me hours prior to my asking the girl's number, and she actively avoids me. So now I'm just looking to reanalyze the situation and figure out to give a tad more of a try or just move on. I know I slipped up few times but just generally confused about the whole situation.

Thoughts?

 

[9asus2]

In the nicest possible way, there's nothing to be confused about - she's not interested, and you should have nexted a long time ago

 

[learningjuan]

In the nicest possible way, there's nothing to be confused about - she's not interested, and you should have nexted a long time ago

yeah, my thoughts as well, alright.

 

[dustmuffin]

Move on

 

[RangerMIke]

Always remember women who like you and are available WILL NOT confuse you. If you are confused then take that as a sign she is not interested. I don't believe she ever was interested, so nothing you did helped or hurt you. But here is some advice going forward with other women:

1. It is ALWAYS best to approach a woman, banter for a bit, and ask her out or get her number ON THE SPOT. If she pushes back, move on, you are wasting her time otherwise. When she first asked you for help moving weights, you should have joked around and teased you about being weak, and said something like, "Well, now you are going to owe me...." Then ask her out. If you had done this in the very beginning you would not have wasted all the time between then and now, freeing your mind for other women you have a chance with.

2. NEVER ask other mutual friends about a women you are interested in. Why? Because it will get back to her and you will look weak. Asking about other women, setting people up on blind dates is FEMALE behavior. If you want a woman, at like a man. At the very best she will think you are immature.

3. ALWAYS remember that no matter how good you or your game is, there will ALWAYS be women are not feeling it for you. Don't let your ego get in the way, flush women that do not like you. Makes things much easier.

 

[Maximus Rex]

It didn't go as well as expected (on my part) and didn't get a number.

Add her on FB and send "hey" text. Ignored.

I bump into her a few more times, make conversation, try to fix first convo we had (just wanted to know her better and not fvck). Lukewarm/cold responses. Text again asking about some workouts. "I'm not sure" followed by ignore. 4 to 1 message ratio.

I meet up with her and try to get a number. Promptly turned down.

Who were you texting if you didn't have her number? Also, after being turned down to two previous times, what made you think she was going to change her mind on the third attempt?

So now I'm just looking to reanalyze the situation and figure out to give a tad more of a try or just move on. I know I slipped up few times but just generally confused about the whole situation. Thoughts?

"SHE IS NOT REALLY INTO YOU. She could be f*cking other guys or not. She could be going on dates or not. She could just change her mind and don’t feel like seeing you. Whatever, the constant here is that....she is not really interested in you."

"This thread makes me cringe." Yewki-How Should I Respond to This? Urgent, http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/how-should-i-respond-to-this-urgent.230674/page-2

Bruh, what is there to re-analyze? Ole girl ain't f*cking with you. She's told you "no," on three different occasions and her answer isn't going to change on the fourth attempt. To continue to ask her out is going to make you look like a the needy, creepy, stalker dude. Also how did adding a chick that you haven't seen naked to your Facebook friends benefit you?

just making first post...will sound lame af but please bear with me.

You're right. That was lame as f*ck.