Getting and giving your stuff back after a break up..

[BigSteve28]

Long story short...6 month serious relationship (after about month two we would hangout 4 times or so a week and she even brought her kids into my life, having them stay with me, I'd pick them up after school and everything... I have clothes at her house, and other things. She has my house key, clothes here, womanly stuff like dryers and makeup, she has two kids and they have toys over here, one is large and expensive.
She's coming over today to pick it up. I'm indifferent on how to act when she's here. I obviously still love this woman and she loves me, we had a few snares in this relationship like most people do but she has this thing in her head set that I'm too "hard" of a person and not "soft" enough. That she prefers sensitive men, just nicer people in general. A friend of mine said be friendly with her when she's here and polite that if I play the cold shoulder it'll just verify that what she believes is true and that I have to keep her in the window and let her see that she was mistaken if I ever want to get her back.
That's pretty much still where my heart is on this, about working it out. I doubt it happens but I'll give it some time and sit back. So the question here is, with a girl like this how should I go about it when she comes over later? Quick in and out, have her stuff together at the door, help her load up her and there stuff and say our goodbyes. Or give her a hug when she comes in, talk a little bit but not too long and just act happy and unphased by this whole thing like it doesn't bother me. Or based on what she says does she need to see a sensitive side, not a depressed pathetic person but maybe show a little emotion that I am bothered inside by this. Thoughts?

 

[Desdinova]

with a girl like this how should I go about it when she comes over later?

Put her stuff on your doorstep and go out somewhere. You are not required to interact with her. Women like to bring up 5hit, drag out the end of a relationship, give you false promises, etc etc. You don't need to have yourself dragged through a bunch of emotional bull5hit.

I'm a big fan of leaving her crap on her doorstep or sending it through the mail. It upsets them because they want to "talk" and get "closure" and all that other mushy bull5hit. Returning their stuff without interaction saves you from getting your emotions dragged through the mud.

A friend of mine said be friendly with her when she's here and polite that if I play the cold shoulder it'll just verify that what she believes is true and that I have to keep her in the window and let her see that she was mistaken if I ever want to get her back.

Why would you want her back? It didn't work out, and it sounds like she dumped your ass. That's automatically a major red flag in my books. Her opinion of you doesn't matter anymore because the relationship is finished. You no longer have any responsibility toward her, and she is none of your concern. When you split up with a woman, she is no longer entitled to anything.

Quick in and out, have her stuff together at the door, help her load up her and there stuff and say our goodbyes.

Sounds like a fvcking Disney movie. She already said her goodbye when she ended the relationship. There is nothing left to talk about.

Or give her a hug when she comes in

The last woman who broke up with me asked for one final hug. I turned her down. Why should I reward her with affection for ending the relationship? Fvck that.

talk a little bit but not too long and just act happy and unphased by this whole thing like it doesn't bother me. Or based on what she says does she need to see a sensitive side, not a depressed pathetic person but maybe show a little emotion that I am bothered inside by this.

When you give back her stuff without personal interaction, you don't have to worry about all this 5hit. You're considerate enough to give her stuff back, but you're not giving her the satisfaction of a Disney ending. She ended it, let her eat her emotions.

 

[bigneil]

My last girl and I mutually ended things last week after 18 months. She still had sex with me again on our last night, but then picked a fight over my putting too much oregano on the pizza the next afternoon! So we broke up again and then she wanted an extra long hug when I dropped her off but I pushed her away. She then blew up my phone thereafter with 8 attempts to contact me. Always leave them wanting more. I put her stuff in a box and mailed it without a note.

 

[Bible_Belt]

she has this thing in her head set that I'm too "hard" of a person and not "soft" enough. That she prefers sensitive men,

LOL. You should cry like a girl the entire time she's there. That will fvck with her head.