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Don Juan
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Found her okcupid account, took screenshots of her slutty question/answers, emailed them to her dad.
What happens next?
What happens next?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I dunno, at least for them to have some sort of argumentWhat happens next? Nothing. WTF are you expecting? An email from him stating what a great son-in-law you would have been if she wasn't a wh0re? Won't happen. Let it go and move on.
He's on her side, not yours. They're likely laughing at your dumb ass. You cannot win this one. Go meet some other women and forget about her.I dunno, at least for them to have some sort of argument
This. Wtf?You should be thoroughly embarrassed and ashamed for that blatant display of faggotry and b*cthassness.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You can get in good with dad if they didn't raise her to be that way. I've been in a similar situation.I don't care, just a sociopathic experiment to see if anything happens lol
Maybe that is OP's strategy.You can get in good with dad if they didn't raise her to be that way. I've been in a similar situation.
He needs to show her in dangerous situations or her being taken terrible advantage of. It will break dads heart even if he knows she does ****.Maybe that is OP's strategy.
He doesn't have to disown her. Simply let her know the error of her ways.An experiment? No, you wanted her Dad to disown her or some sh!t, you sociopath. Guess what, the world doesn't revolve around you.
It's none of butt-hurt OP's concern.He doesn't have to disown her. Simply let her know the error of her ways.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
WTF...are you trying to bang the dad or something?You can get in good with dad if they didn't raise her to be that way.
you don't do this to bang the dad. you also don't do it to necessarily get her back. you do it out of respect as a man, knowing they didn't raise the daughter like that and she's allowing her self to be used badly and putting herself in dangerous situations. so if the family wants to do something about it, they can. it's not tattle telling, it's helping a friend get off a destructive path.WTF...are you trying to bang the dad or something?
Banging her mom, sure, maybe. But going after the dad? Dang dude...
So you are white knighting for Dads now?you don't do this to bang the dad. you also don't do it to necessarily get her back. you do it out of respect as a man, knowing they didn't raise the daughter like that and she's allowing her self to be used badly and putting herself in dangerous situations. so if the family wants to do something about it, they can. it's not tattle telling, it's helping a friend get off a destructive path.
Insecure move? Probably so, but I could imagine some scenarios where I would do this.So you are white knighting for Dads now?
Hilarious.
This was nothing but a butt-hurt chode move. Stop trying to spray paint a turd orange and calling it sherbet.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.