"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hot babes that make me anxious V attractive enough and not to worried ?

englishman

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Any thoughts?

Ive had the really hot ones, the ones where all the guys are after them. The ones with red flags that I refuse to give full account just because they're hot!

And I've had the ones where I'm into them, but not head over heels..

At the moment I have one that is attractive, but not massively so, her personality is good, so far makes for good company. When I'm with her I feel OK, like I'm still in control and yet wouldn't be devastated if it didn't work out.

Im thinking that I'm usually more content with a women like that...

when I've had the hot babes, like the one I met this spring ... 30 years younger than me that showed up for our bike ride in cut off jeans and tight vest....
it makes me sort of squirly... like I'll start worrying about how fat I might have got and I'll run around getting a new hair cut and making sure everything is right... it's sort of too much!

Like the one I'm seeing doesn't really have red flags, sex between us is hot... yet when I think about her I don't get any butterflies or anything.

The really hot ones seem to be a struggle.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I know the feeling. When i had more confidence i didnt feel that way. If you have other hot options you wont feel as needy for.them. also they usually arent setup to attach to a man easily you have to be aloof with them and its much better if the desire you more than you do them.
 

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I know the feeling. When i had more confidence i didnt feel that way. If you have other hot options you wont feel as needy for.them. also they usually arent setup to attach to a man easily you have to be aloof with them and its much better if the desire you more than you do them.
Either more options or you just don't give a f uck. You need to have this attitude whether you have 0 or100 women. I am happy with my life. I don't need a woman to be complete. ***** is not the end all. I really don't care what happens on this date. Etc. i hsd this attitude untill i got in a relationship
She dumped me and working to get it back.
 
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like the one I met this spring ... 30 years younger than me that showed up for our bike ride in cut off jeans and tight vest....
it makes me sort of squirly...
Um, so this girl is 14 years old, or do I have my maths wrong???
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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