College girl gone cold

[magevis]

Let me start by saying that I am an ardent daygamer who has never gotten laid from it, for various reasons.My count is a mere 3 at 27. For most chics that I dig and quite connect with, a subsequent meeting never materializes for some reason as I said. Sometimes they flake, sometimes I had to travel/move and yeah, I have to admit to having deliberately flaked on dates myself, for mundane reasons. Sometimes I figure that they are not that hot after all, after having analysed their whatsapp profile pictures. Anyways, to the pick up story now more on that at a later post.
There's this chick I met two weeks ago(on a Tuesday) via cold approach. She was walking with a friend heading outside a mall as I was walking in. Both were dressed sexy in tight miniskirts. The one I approached(hb8) had a the piercing above the corner of her left eyebrow.

Initially my aim was to approach the other chic(hb7.5) who's figure I liked better, but as I was setting myself up for the approach, a guy from nowhere appeared ,playfully hugged the HB 7.5 as they bantered. They obviously new each other.Damn it!
I used that opportunity to pounce on HB 8 that was unattended to, and was now walking slowly, waiting on her friend to get done with the other dude.
My approach was direct and I told her I had to come talk to her after I saw her exiting the mall.
She told me her name and said that she was hungry and was headed to a nearby kiosk for French fries, so she invited me to walk along.
I noticed that her friend was now just behind us, alone. She did not try to interrupt our conversation. The girl was doing most of the talking, telling me she studied law at a college in the town.(I did not ask her if she went to college or what she did in college).
We get to the kiosk for French fries, the 3 of us, and as hb8 is about to sit down I gently take her and pull her aside to get her number. I was not going to sit down with the girl and her friend(good or bad move?)
she punches it into my phone and we agree on the spot to meet Saturday(it was a no show as you'll come to learn).
I basically eye **** her and she admits that she's lost for words. I reach for a hug and she holds tight for a tad longer. I tell her I have to go. We part ways.I don't text her till the eve of the date.I drop her the 'come in blue jeans' line, to which she instantly replies with an obvious 'why'.
I don't reply until the next day( date day). I tell her it's part of the plan.
She texts that she didn't plan for that and that she doesn't own any blue jeans. Could it be true?
I leave it at that and don't reply as I couldn't think of anything.
I show up for the date and leave after 20 minutes .She flaked.
I call her 5 days later(yesterday). No answer.
Not that I'm sweating over it, but I'd appreciate advice from experienced guys.

 

[skinnyguy]

The problem with day game is you're just another c0ck to her. You have no social value as she hasn't seen you around your friends, and she hadn't experienced a comfort level with you yet.

Contrast that with the last time I met a girl through a mutual interest like a cooking class or a charity event. If you have to a REASON to be there she is much less likely to flake. Think about why it was so easy to pull in college. You're at a party and you have mutual friends. You already have passed many tests to her so it's almost guaranteed.

Rather than wasting time approaching sluts at the mall you should spend your time planning cool activities and building a social circle.

 

[El Payaso]

The problem with day game is you're just another c0ck to her. You have no social value as she hasn't seen you around your friends, and she hadn't experienced a comfort level with you yet.

Contrast that with the last time I met a girl through a mutual interest like a cooking class or a charity event. If you have to a REASON to be there she is much less likely to flake. Think about why it was so easy to pull in college. You're at a party and you have mutual friends. You already have passed many tests to her so it's almost guaranteed.

Rather than wasting time approaching sluts at the mall you should spend your time planning cool activities and building a social circle.

Very sage advice.

 

[Yewki]

I basically eye **** her and she admits that she's lost for words. I reach for a hug and she holds tight for a tad longer. I tell her I have to go. We part ways.I don't text her till the eve of the date.I drop her the 'come in blue jeans' line, to which she instantly replies with an obvious 'why'.
I don't reply until the next day( date day). I tell her it's part of the plan.
She texts that she didn't plan for that and that she doesn't own any blue jeans. Could it be true?
I leave it at that and don't reply as I couldn't think of anything.
I show up for the date and leave after 20 minutes .She flaked.
I call her 5 days later(yesterday). No answer.
Not that I'm sweating over it, but I'd appreciate advice from experienced guys.

By your own description it sounds like you did well up until the texting part, then it took a big nose dive due to very bad texting game. Sorry to be blunt, but your texting game was just awful.

1) The "come in blue jeans" line was fine, but would have been better on the day of the date. Not the day before. Minor detail though.
2) When she asked why, you didn't reply for an entire day. This is called overgaming. You had already been aloof and distant before this. By this point anyone with half a brain will realize you're intentionally not responding. Shows you're trying too hard. It's a turn off.
3) Your eventual "it's part of the plan" response was underwhelming and corny. If you had quickly responded with this line the previous day when she asked, it would have been OK... albeit corny. But instead she was probably rolling her eyes.
4) When she responds telling you it wasn't part of her plan and she doesn't own any blue jeans... you didn't respond with anything?? You just left it at that?? Very awkward. I'm surprised you couldn't think of anything, seems pretty open ended you could have said almost anything... "brown jeans are acceptable too", "that's ok, just show up. No pants required.", "Pants are overrated anyways, don't worry about bringing any", etc. You really needed to say something, anything instead of just letting the exchange hang there. This is probably the point where she had enough and decided not to go.
5) After she flaked, you should have moved on... you should of had the sense to realize this was a lost cause and you totally blew it. But you latched on to that small chance, because you're a man without options. Contacting her 5 days later just confirmed that you were playing games and don't have much going on in your life.

 

[magevis]

By your own description it sounds like you did well up until the texting part, then it took a big nose dive due to very bad texting game. Sorry to be blunt, but your texting game was just awful.

1) The "come in blue jeans" line was fine, but would have been better on the day of the date. Not the day before. Minor detail though.
2) When she asked why, you didn't reply for an entire day. This is called overgaming. You had already been aloof and distant before this. By this point anyone with half a brain will realize you're intentionally not responding. Shows you're trying too hard. It's a turn off.
3) Your eventual "it's part of the plan" response was underwhelming and corny. If you had quickly responded with this line the previous day when she asked, it would have been OK... albeit corny. But instead she was probably rolling her eyes.
4) When she responds telling you it wasn't part of her plan and she doesn't own any blue jeans... you didn't respond with anything?? You just left it at that?? Very awkward. I'm surprised you couldn't think of anything, seems pretty open ended you could have said almost anything... "brown jeans are acceptable too", "that's ok, just show up. No pants required.", "Pants are overrated anyways, don't worry about bringing any", etc. You really needed to say something, anything instead of just letting the exchange hang there. This is probably the point where she had enough and decided not to go.
5) After she flaked, you should have moved on... you should of had the sense to realize this was a lost cause and you totally blew it. But you latched on to that small chance, because you're a man without options. Contacting her 5 days later just confirmed that you were playing games and don't have much going on in your life.

Very insightful and accurate analysis.Highly appreciated.Thanks

 

[RangerMIke]

You didn't build enough rapport.

I like what Yewki said... "wear jeans", if fine, when she asked why, you should have just told her why, when she said she "I don't have jeans" them, you should have immediately responded back, "Okay, you can come without any jeans on." If she responded back with "Shock", just say... "Wait a minute, I meant wear something other than jeans, I'm not going to be that easy, you're going to have to work to get me."