Had a gal today call me "Pumpkin".. wtf?

[Poonani Maker]

What do you make of that? I've known her for about a month. She's tatted, chunky, Young (probably 23 or something), minimum wage, blonde, Tough (she told me she used to go up against boys in football in school, I told her that I quit 9th grade cause I didn't wanna get hit hard in high school). Today she says to me, "how are you doin,' Pumpkin?" I'm like, is she treating me like a kid?? I'm fvcking 40! Anyway, I just rolled it off and asked her about her, etc etc. She's trying to lose weight, said she used to weight 200 lbs, now she's like 160 I guess. Kinda nice as5, but she a HOE fo sho, but I'd fvck her if she wants to go that route, but other girls present are jealous when I talk to her. I find that other girls even though they know I don't want them, get jealous when I talk to other girls around them. It's like there's NO WAY I'd want them, but they try to shield me from talking to her "competitor" I guess. If I show any affection towards one, the other (psycho) acts as if she already had claim to me. Pretty fvcked up they all young, but fat or tatted or used useless, and Lazy I might add. But for a fvck, sure, I'd fvck em, but that's IT. They think I'd Support them? financially? getouttahere hoes... I've never been called "Pumpkin" by a girl half my age, I don't understand, unless she thinks I'm childish or weak.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Girls that like you will test you, that's the way it works. Girls that don't like you will avoid you, or be VERY rude.

I imagine she was using as a kind of "put down" since you said you dropped out of football, a stereotypical weak move (in the mind of a minimum wage floozy).

Best "got to" move with any test is to NOT get butt hurt, ignore it and just keep flowing with the conversation.

No girl really "thinks" much, especially 23 y/o fatty hoes. Otherwise she'd be in school studying engineering or something. That was best she could come up with, in the moment. She probably remembered some character on TV call somebody else "pumpkin" or something.

Unless, of course, she was thinking of the movie "Pumpkinhead" Then it means the opposite, and it's not a shyte test, and she wants you to slay a bunch of rowdy teenagers or something.

 

[Desdinova]

I imagine she was using as a kind of "put down" since you said you dropped out of football, a stereotypical weak move (in the mind of a minimum wage floozy).

Really? That's not how I interpret that at all.

"Pumpkin" is on par with "babe" or "sweetie". She's very fond of you, Poonani.

I find that other girls even though they know I don't want them, get jealous when I talk to other girls around them. It's like there's NO WAY I'd want them, but they try to shield me from talking to her "competitor" I guess. If I show any affection towards one, the other (psycho) acts as if she already had claim to me.

This is the 5hit you're supposed to encourage. The more women who are competing for you, the more attracted they (and other women) become. I've had women damn near fighting over who was going to sleep in the same bed as me. The only problem is some women do it just to out-do the other bytch. I'm convinced this is how I ended up with my wife. Almost immediately after we were married, she quit putting effort into the relationship. It's almost as if she said "I win, bytches". She knew there were a lot of other women interested in me, and I think she just wanted to be the winner amongst all of them.

Women can be fiercely competitive, and a lot of times they don't even want the prize.

 

[Poonani Maker]

I Almost, responded with "baby" to that but withheld cause, I didn't want to give her any cred. Another thing is I hardly ever say, "Bye" to these girls, I just leave, and try to be as unfeeling and assholish as possible in that sense. I know they must say, "He didn't even say bye...hmmpf Men..." or "He's so Mean.." I will see her next week and the next, but come December I probably won't see her/them until February/March next year. I bet all of their pvssies stink too, I can imagine, that's why they are hard up for dudes, but still they get the semi-constant texts (not like really Hot girls) I see, while with them or when they are by themselves.

 

[user43770]

I've had chicks do that to me and it always pisses me off. I'm a grown ass man that's capable of doing some serious damage and should be treated as such.

I've gotten to where I call them on it and this usually leads to playful banter. The other day a 30ish cute chick that I occasionally see at work called me "darling."

Tyte: You're not old enough to call me that.

Cutie: *giggles* How old do you think I am?

I've used this same line before with similar results. The chicks were noticeably attracted to me afterwards.

As a side note, I've noticed that the chicks that do this are typically young, single moms.

 

[ubercat]

Pretty funny I can't imagine any senior DJ from here is a pumpkin or a sweetie. Right about the competition I was on a date last night with this Amazon chick and getting a fair bit of kino in. But I was getting us another drink and got basically attacked by these hen Party chicks.

So I sit down with my date again and she grabs my **** God and they think they have evolved give me a break.. Same old hamster

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Anytime somebody of "unknown" status speaks to you (who in their mind has "unknown" status) there IS going to be some FRAME WARS going on. Some are very subtle, some are very blatant, some are done skillfully, some not so much. In pretty much ALL social conversations between relatively unknown people, there is ALWAYS some kind of attempt (usually subconscious) to show "my social status is higher than yours."

Sometimes a girl will test your frame to try and DEMONSTRATE hers is stronger, other times she wants you to VERIFY that yours is stronger.

Most of the time it's the latter, and it has to be pretty blatant and clearly disrespectful to be the former. And many times the former CAN BE turned into the latter.

 

[WanderingMan]

**** test to see what she can get away with, how you'll respond. When women use these terms; hun, sweetie, pumpkin - the context is very important. In this instance, she was trying to establish dominance, or frame like the above poster mentioned.

So, what to do....what to do...

You can always ignore. The fail safe for me in these type of situations is to throw out the proverbial stiff arm. After she commits this type of behavior, back away and subtly maintain your distance from her. Ignore, avoid, without being too obvious. It doesn't bother you that she called you that, but it didn't earn her your energy or attention either.