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Anyone know a tennis elbow cure?

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I've been dealing with so-called "tennis elbow" for around 7 months now with no relief. I haven't lifted weights during most of that time as most exercises make it worse.

Has anyone here come up with a way to heal this persistent injury, or at least to work around it? Thanks.
 

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Nope. As a hobby and side business I restore certain types of heavy vintage machinery and I'm sure I got it from muscling that stuff around. I remember a couple of times feeling pain after moving one of them.
 

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I am going to bet that you only have it in one arm. Try to use that arm as little as possible in your daily life, especially in anything that involves exerting force with your forearm (even holding your toothbrush too hard could aggravate it) - use as little force as you can. Make sure that you do not place your arm in compromised positions (ie. without support) for extended periods of time, like using a computer mouse poorly ergonomically.You may also want to use a counter-force brace, and from personal experience applying heat to the area should help relax and relieve it (like in a sauna). See to it that your diet contains the nutrients you need to heal. If all of that doesn't make it better go see a physiotherapist.
 

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does it feel as if you have sand in your elbow joint? I had that, and the second shot of cortizone felt a flooding relief, and it never bothered me again.
 

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I am going to bet that you only have it in one arm. Try to use that arm as little as possible in your daily life, especially in anything that involves exerting force with your forearm (even holding your toothbrush too hard could aggravate it) - use as little force as you can. Make sure that you do not place your arm in compromised positions (ie. without support) for extended periods of time, like using a computer mouse poorly ergonomically.You may also want to use a counter-force brace, and from personal experience applying heat to the area should help relax and relieve it (like in a sauna). See to it that your diet contains the nutrients you need to heal. If all of that doesn't make it better go see a physiotherapist.
It sounds like you've had this before as you know a lot about the symptoms. True?

How long did it take you to get rid of it? I'd hate to think I can't get back to working out relatively soon.
 

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does it feel as if you have sand in your elbow joint? I had that, and the second shot of cortizone felt a flooding relief, and it never bothered me again.
No, no feeling of sand at all. Perfectly smooth. It just feels all inflamed and sore deep within the elbow and in the areas that are known to be classic tennis elbow.

I think I'm going to look into some cortisone shots. It's worth a try. I never had much sympathy for people who complained about this condition until I found out how painful it really is.
 

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In those times that I had it, I noticed that there are certain exrcises that aggravate the condition. So I just avoid those, and keep doing others normally. Over times, it resolves itself before I notice.
Avoiding doing any workout only makes the waiting unbearable. Better to find other exercises and forget about it.
I don't know about you being older might makes it harder to heal though. Or maybe mine was less severe.
 

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It sounds like you've had this before as you know a lot about the symptoms. True?

How long did it take you to get rid of it? I'd hate to think I can't get back to working out relatively soon.
I used to have some form of tendonitis, had it in both the wrists and elbows. It's gone in the wrists now because I changed my exercise grips to more intelligent ones but I still have a mild, on-off case of it in the elbows which I can feel a bit whenever I do something heavy on the elbow joint (I think it's specifically the triceps tendons in my case), like dips. It got practically healed after I rested, did less volume per week for the elbow joint (which was needed anyway in my case, I was doing too much) and used a little lighter weights than before when I got back.

When did you notice you had it? what had you been consistently doing for the last 30 days before you noticed?
 

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If your not playing a racket sport I can't really help you.

I had Tennis elbow for about 3 years and it was horrible. I started using an elbow brace and it cleared up within about 9 months. I never get it any more, ever. I keep wearing the brace now for prevention rather than cure.

But as you don't play Tennis or badminton I don't know if this really helps you. You could try wearing a bandage on that arm for a few weeks to see if that helps. Same theory really. It holds the muscles of the forearm in, instead of pulling out and creating the inflamation/pain.
 

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The guy from essential tennis website has some exercises he reckons can cure tennis elbow pretty quickly. I'd also be careful of too much phone use and text. Whenever you can put the phone on the table and use the voice input


I'd also heartily recommend getting a Thai massage every couple of weeks if you can afford it. It's a pleasant experience having a hot little Thai girl crawling all over your back and those girls have an almost Supernatural ability to work out where you are broken and concentrate on that. Hope this helps.
 

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Oh and BTW do plenty swimming for your rehab. It will be ok for your injury and help you maintain bulk.
 
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