Here's some observations from a father of a teenage girl, as well as mentor to a handful of others:
- You think this is a hot topic at sosuave? I would rate this the number one topic of discussion for teenage girls. The level of debate here at SS pales by comparison.
- Having a daughter radically alters how you view all females. It just does. I look at any female below 25, and I see somebody's daughter.
To the guy that said you can't stop your teenage daughter from sleeping with a 30 year old guy: I agree, but guaranteed I'll find out about it and the offending girl will regret her transgression, not to mention watching the guy go to jail. It's a fact that I'll find out. Not because I micromange their lives, but because I pay attention. One of them will talk. One of them will post the deed on her myspace, where my wife will swoop down like some bloodthirsty hawk. The offender will voluntarily come to me for punishment, which will be severe, but not as bad as my wife would want.
- In raising daughters, we use their own politics against them. For example, not adding mom to their buddy lists would be admitting that they have something to hide (which of course they always do). That slutty myspace picture? Well, the wife knows about it.
- If I were a sick pedophile, yeah, I could probably do the whole circle of friends. Why? Because they are vulnerable, and they look to older men for their system of values. They need mentors, not sex.
- How could anyone other than a teenage boy see a teenage girl as a sexual object? Sure, they do their best to come across as sexual beings, but they have the personal habits of pigs. Half their time is spent screaming at each other, and the other half is spent crying on each other. All this occurs in front of a computer, where they change alliances and plot each other's demise on a daily basis.
- The 18 year old (close friend of the family who lives with us) has a 26 year old boyfriend which we're cool with. He has a good job, a new car, and he's respectful, to us as well as her. She proposed to him, the crazy brainless twit that she is, and he gave her a long written list of conditions, one of which is waiting at least 3 years. We view it as a special case, and both of them sought our approval before they started seeing each other - very smart.
- Of course, the big fancy house gives us unique control over who the girls date. They all want to hang here, and none of them wants to live with the consequences / humiliation of being banned. They have a stable, cushy environment to do whatever it is they do, and I have the satisfaction of knowing that they're all in school and not sending naked pictures to (or sleeping with) random perverts on the internet. For us, parenting is "win-win".
Sleeping with these girls isn't any major achievement. Without guidance, they will all enter adulthood as the brainless twits they are now. No, the real achievment is applying the principles of self-improvement to them as well. It also comes with a certain measure of pride...
