lol - I really can't hold a conversation with someone that uses the words 'pimp' and 'ho' in earnest
What I'm trying to get across is that it's not about power, and it never was. It's about responsibility. I can understand that people might see it that way, but what people percieve as a power struggle is just the aftermath of fvcking things up. If you fall out of a canoe then it's a struggle to get back in, but that's just the result of fvcking up, not an inherent vice of canoes.
If you initiate and maintain a tie with a woman, and fulfill the role that she requires, then there is no power struggle involved, because that's exactly what they're looking for. They want someone to be the man and do the things that they believe men should do (and what we have evolved to do). It's not really a matter of dominating a chick in the broader sense - it's dominance in a very specific way. It's essentially taking the role of the protector in the sense that she feels that whatever obstacles present themselves in the course of your possible relationship, you will take care of it so that she doesn't have to worry. She has to see you as competent. There's also sexual dominance, which is important, but usually the mistakes are made long before you get her in the sack.
It's also an unconscious thing, so she doesn't actually think about it - if she does she usually attributes it to something else. That's why we percieve chicks as being obtuse (you know, the old 'what's wrong' thing). The thing is, all they know is that you're not fulfilling their needs. They usually have no idea why, so they bytch and moan about petty unrelated things and guys usually don't have a clue what they're on about. But once you understand just how simple and basic a woman's needs are, then there's no reason to regularly find yourself in that situation, and when you do, you look at what could be the real cause rather than the conscious red flags that the chick is giving you.
When you fail to meet her requirements, then in their eyes you're a loser, but because chicks know how stupid we can be about such things, they give us another chance, and another - if we had to get it right first time then we'd be extinct
Hell, some guys spend their whole lives in a relationship with a chick that thinks he's inadequate and they don't have a clue why, and the chick keeps giving him more chances to step up to the plate and shoulder his responsibilities. This is the part that you guys seem to see as a power struggle or a shyt test, but seeing it in that way puts a negative spin on something that's actually positive. If you fail an exam and they tell you you can do it again, then it's a good thing, right? It's just an opportunity to put things right. It's not about power, it's about taking on the required role and shouldering our responsibilities.
You might think that I'm just splitting hairs by claiming it's not about power, but it really isn't at all. It's not even about sex unless you're blowing it in the sack as well. You have to put fuel and oil in a car, and make sure it's regularly serviced or it turns to crap - same with women - if you take care of their basic needs then everything goes smoothly. Once you understand that then there's no reason to ever 'struggle' again. When there's a problem, figure out what it is and fix it.