Women don't understand or want anything to do with accountability. It's a quite childish and delusional thing but it's a very effective way to protects their feelings.
Acknowledging to your mistake is painful emotionally wise so they "rationalize" differently. Everything is based on emotions so is she's pissed, humiliated, sad... then the reason isn't because they fcked something up (accountability)... no it's because someone is being a jerk aka asking them to be accountable.
A lot of women are perfectly fine dealing with accountability in the work place, but when it comes to relationships at home, most of them still can't.
I see that as a protection system... a very delusional one, because they're literally lying to themselves.
yes woman don't like to say they are sorry and don't like to ask for you things, they spin they wording saying like "don't you want to help me" or "don't you feel like doing this?" its childish yes, woman are childish, fragile egos and need constant feeding on her self esteem.
one female coach say once(I find it funny because it was a woman saying it) men don't like woman, men like vagina, the day they find a way to have a vagina without a woman they will do it(sex robots anyone? lol)
but one way to make things work for you is simple sometimes calling her wording out can make things more simple, my mom was expert on this bullsh!t, till one time I just said out loud, "I don't want to do that, if you want the favor then ask it the right way". funny is after that she stoped asking any stupid thing she could very well do it, or ask me to do thing for my brother, so win win for me